sevenseas Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 I was just curious as to whether this is considered biromantic. I get majorly infatuated with people sometimes. It's only happened twice; once in middle school from 7th-8th grade, with a guy. I had zero desire to kiss him or do anything physical, I would just always wonder what he was thinking, what he thought about me, want to hang out and talk with him a lot. It was like a personality crush, if that makes sense- I don't think he was physically attractive at all. That lasted almost a year. Then this year- 10th grade- it's with a girl on my track team. Just always wondering where she is or what she thinks or what she's doing, getting really quiet around her. Wish I was closer friends with her. This has been like 2 months. The most physical thing I want to is sit on the couch and watch movies or go on a run :) She is pretty, but I don't think thats a big (or maybe nonexistent) part of this. Biromantic? Is it a romantic feeling if you basically just want emotional closeness, just like a very close friend that you can tell anything to? (But I've never heard of thinking about someone that would be a friend for this long.) I dunno, I guess I feel abnormal :/ Link to post Share on other sites
LibelandI Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 You're definitely not abnormal. I have feelings like that all the time! Some people call them 'squishes' instead of crushes. To me, a squish has always been a feeling of wanting to get to know someone better, but not in a sexual or romantic way. You just want to be friends. I have a few squishes, and my friends never quite understand them. When I say, "I like *such and such person*", they automatically assume that I mean, you know...LIKE like. Grr. I just want to talk with them over coffee, I swear! They insist that I'm still being romantic. In the end, it's up to you to decide what 'romance' is to you. It seems to be a different thing to different people. But there's nothing wrong with just wanting to be friends if that's what'll make you happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomfish Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 Personally, I think that friendship is something that happens; you become friends and enjoy someone's company a lot. If you really actively want to seek it with someone, feel like you need it, then it means that the situation is partially based on your ideal of what a person is like, and those feelings are definitely leaning towards romantic. I wouldn't argue with anyone who says otherwise, but that's the way I see it myself. I'd say you were biromantic, judging from what you've said; romantic feelings and romantic experiences (roses and all that cushy stuff) are totally different IMO. What you're experiencing is far from abnormal. EDIT: although, ultimately, I must stress that the decision as to where you stand is yours :) Link to post Share on other sites
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