Are you out to your parents?

[Batman's Ace]

Not yet, but I hope it'll happen eventually. Way too scared of possible bad reactions for now. It occurred to me they probably haven't guessed because we're conservative Christian and all young'uns are expected to show a great deal of restraint. Plus waiting until age 30 or so to get married is actually not all that strange here.

[Jillianimal]

Yep, both of them, for about six years now.

Took them nearly that long to accept it, too.

Do they know you're gray now? I can see that being pretty awkward.

[Novalia]

I am out to one of them, my mother. I don't think she really knows what it means, despite my attempts to explain. But she's very supportive, as long as I'm happy.

I think I could tell her something ridiculous, like wanting three heads, and she'd still tell me to go for it if that's what I want. She's just one of those rare people, who even if they really don't "get it" they'll just go with the flow and do their best. :)

[CrazyCatLover]

I first came out my parents in March of 2008. It took about two and half years, hours of lengthy discussions, hundreds of casual mentions of the word "asexual," and being more open about how clueless I am when comes to what looks sexy for them to finally believe me. They both freely admit that they don't understand it yet, but they believe me and accept me (actually, they've always accepted me even when they were convinced I was simply mistaken). They are certainly trying to understand. To be honest I think they do understand the concept; they just can't imagine it for themselves.

[corvalis]

I think my father likes to just forget about it (he's not one to like discussing sex, even if it's about the lack thereof), and my mother thinks I'm just going through a phase.

Doesn't really matter to me what they think, though.

[maltesegirl]

If my parents were living I definitely would come out to both of them. It would have answered a lot of their questions. My feeling is they would have been fine with it.

[Whofan York]

I told my mum very soon after finding AVEN, because I tell her everything. Too naive to realise that, like most sexual people, she just wouldn't get it. I wish I hadn't told her now, because she's convinced I'm just scared of sex. If I tell her I'm not attracted to anyone, she'll point to the guys I spent the last ten years going on about. Yes mum, one of them had a fascinating personality and made me want to spend time with him, but he was physically disgusting, you should have seen him eating!

My dad has been told by my mum, but he's a proper blokey bloke who's convinced that someone's magic penis out there will set me right again. Oh well. Maybe my sister will be a better bet.

[Elnae]

This time last night, I was in the middle of coming out to my Mum. She was brilliant!!

My Mum told my Dad for me this morning and he was awesome too.

The nice thing is that even though I had to explain what Asexuality was because neither of them had ever heard of it, they both just instantly accepted it, my Dad apparently even said it explained a lot for him about me.

Mum was curious and several times today she has appeared and apologised for bringing it up again but wanted to ask another question. Awwwww! I have assured her that she can always talk to me about it whenever she likes, I don't want it to be taboo in any way.

[Chrysanthalis]

I told both of my parents, but I'm not sure what they think about it. They're pretty open-minded, as people go, but I don't know if they can see why it's important to me. My mom actually told me that I should't "broadcast" it to people because my sexuality is something private that other people don't need to know about. If I'm not capable of judging for myself. :evil:

[Benjfcarter]

None of the above <_<. I never directly came out, but they found about it through my browsing history, and confronted me about it. Then they made me get various tests for genetic/hormonal disorders etc. Now they either ignore it, make it clear that they don't really believe me, or (at best) mention how I 'consider myself' asexual :(.

[Skinny Kid]

I came out to my mother some time during the summer last year, but she didn't really understand what I meant until two or three months after that. Fortunately, she didn't seem to be bothered by it. My father doesn't know because I haven't seen him in years.

[Astryda]

"No and they don't need to know"

If I ever was to inform my mother about this it'd look like that: *Veisha walks into the room where her mother is solving crosswords* "Mum, I'm asexual, you know? I don't want to have sex, ever. Okay, wanna have a sandwich for dinner?"

But no, not really. I don't think anyone needs to know what my orientation is. It's not because I'm afraid of people's reaction or whatever. I simply don't feel the need to 'come out', just as I don't feel the need to have sex. I don't think this information could be useful for anyone, and if it was, I'd tell them about it openly.

[noysoffer]

It's slightly complicated. My parents know that I've had sex before, so they believe that I'm ultra-sexual, but they don't know that I'm aromantic demisexual to both genders. When I tried to tell them, they told me to stop giving myself excuses to have sex with my friends. They're slightly conservative about sex (when it comes to their children), with man marries woman, have sex after wedding, make beautiful babies. Not my thing at all.

[Em_BR_Ace]

Mom only.

Dad doesn't seem to really care about that...

[Junebug03]

I tried telling my mom, and all she said was "When you meet the right guy, you will change your mind." So we don't talk about it. I could care less since she and I do not talk about things like this anyways. I don't even know if she understands what it is, even though I tried to show her the wikipedia site to help her understand. So I voted, I try, but they don't accept it/forget about it.

As for my dad, I haven't talked to him in years so he doesn't need to know.

[cenlyra]

I voted they don't need to know.

My mom tried asking once, after I'd left AVEN in her computer's browsing history. But then she flat out refused to believe it, saying she's known me all my life. (As if I haven't...)

I just kinda muttered "Whatever" and let it go.

So no, I'm not out at home. And I'm not gonna be.

[RebellioussSoul]

I voted they didn't need to know. I know how my parents are; I know it's been said that people can surprise you. But I know for a fact that my parents are too narrow minded to even accept it. They're not really open to any ideas outside of the 'norm' so I don't plan on ever telling them.

[AmoebaAssociate]

I try but they forget/ are adament I will magically turn into a nice cisgender heterosexual <_<

[Rossu]

Only ones who knows about my asexuality (and aromanticaly)are my two best friends. I haven´t tell my parents yet (I´m litlle bit scared :P) but maybe some day.

[strangeLady]

Neither of my parents know, but I'd be more likely to come out to my mom than my dad. Though, considering my dad has accused me of being a "dyke" on more than one occasion, maybe...... Actually not. Since he keeps bugging me about grandkids. Even though my brother is married and actively trying to have a baby with his wife, and I've been single for 5 years.

[Kalira]

I didn't vote, because, well. . .

-I've never met my biological father;

-if I never ran into my stepfather again it would be too soon;

-my biological mother has been my sister since I was adopted at nine months old, and is a little too 'out there' in her sexuality for me to be comfortable with her discussions quite often (she describes herself as the TMI queen) but I'm not sure how she feels regards to asexuality (of course, we don't chat that often any more, and mostly we talk about her, so it hasn't come up and isn't likely to);

-my mother is probably the first person I would have gone to when I was hit over the head by my own subconscious with the whole ace idea - if she hadn't died just before I heard about asexuality, and months before that event with the cluebat and my own mind.

So. Were my mother alive, I would definitely have spoken to her about it, even before I had totally decided (assuming I have now. . .) that I fit as grey-a. As for any other parental figures . . . either totally a non-issue or none of their business or both.

[1Eleven1]

I'm not entirely sure how to answer - my parents know I didn't get into a relationship until recently, and I have voiced to my mom before "I have no interest in sex", so she knows. I figure she thinks it will change later in life, but I doubt either of them will care if it doesn't. They know it's my life and my choice. If it comes up I will tell them directly, but it's not something I feel I need to tell them because I already know they'll accept me for it.

[Levon]

I tried to tell my mother, when I was in middle school or so and didn't really know that I was asexual. I told her I was never having kids, and I don't think I ever really planned to get married--it was what people were supposed to do, but I don't know if I ever really saw myself in that life.

One of my brothers knows, I think. And I post it on FB, so it's public information...but I don't think my parents know, but they should've figured it out by now. They don't even know I had a boyfriend when I was 20, so they think I only did when I was 14. So they ought to realize there's nothing going on.

[Ginger Watson]

I'm not out because my dad has made comments about aces being sociopaths and my mom keeps telling me how fun I'll think sex is, trying to convince me to. Ive been single for a long time but I'm still in high school. I don't want to hide but I dont want to say if they think like that.

[5_♦♣]

Since I've last replied, I've indirectly told my mom. As I've told her about my job, so yeah...

[honor is all]

No, neither of my parents know about my asexuality. I see no reason to tell them. If I was sexual, I wouldn't make a point of telling my parents which sexual acts I liked - so I see no reason to tell them the opposite, that I don't enjoy sex at all.

I find sex comes up as a subject more often among friends, so a few of my friends know that I don't like sex from it being mentioned in conversations where it was appropriate to the topic at hand.

"I wouldn't make a point of telling my parents which sexual acts I liked" (slow applause) bowing My thoughts EXACTLY.

[Tanwen]

Both of my parents are dead (at may age you sort of expect it) however, my sons both know and are fine with it. :)

[Patrisha]

I attempted to tell my mom about it but she said only freaks think like that and i just havent met the right person. since then ive met someone so she thinks she was right. he knows and is ok with it, but there isnt a need to bring it up to my parents again

[Chveya]

I'm not out as a demisexual to my parents yet, honestly because it doesn't seem like that big of a thing to "come out" about, because my brand of it doesn't really challenge any heteronormative lifestyles. But mostly because, as an 18 year old, I still live at home and coming out as a demisexual would mean that I decisively have sexual feelings for my current boyfriend. I really don't want to attract any kind of attention or questioning about that side of our relationship until I'm securely out of the house. For some reason, my parents think that because I haven't had sex with him yet, we've been completely chaste in every way. I'm perfectly content to let that delusion continue.

[LazyShade]

My Mum knows and was really understanding when I told her I'm asexual, but I felt I should have explained more about it. She didn't tell my Dad which was surprising and so I've asked her to tell him.