When Sex Comes Up in the "Real World" Poll

[Hot_Air_Balloons]

Just curious about people's reactions. There might have been a poll on this before, I'm not sure. I'm repulsed so I don't want to hear it! lol :P Sometimes the world gets me down too...

Hopefully I didn't forget anything on the answers. I did the best I could thinking of choices.

For Me:

Sex in a Conversation:

Try Not to Listen but Stay Anyway so You Don't Look Weird

Love Scenes:

Turn the Channel as Quickly As Possible When I'm Alone

You Are In the Store and See A Magazine with the Topic of Sex on the Cover

Notice it and Get Really Annoyed at the World

You're On the Internet and Porn Comes Up on the Computer

You Yell in Disgust and Click it Off As Fast As Possible!

How Do You Feel In General About the "Sexualized World"

It Depresses You..Why Can't the World Be More G-Rated, or More Like You

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For the first one, my write-in answer would have to be "Sit there with a O_O + :I look on your face because you're trying to repress how weirded out you are".

[Copeland]

For the sex scene one I end up just feeling awkward. I tend to only see those when watching TV and the like with my Dad. =_=

As for the sexualized world I find it actually kinda comforting because if people didn't have a like for sex, I might not be here right now. Babies and what not. Also I don't mind it because it allows me to take a look into the minds of sexuals and see what they see clearer than I would on my own, not being one of them and such. I find it intellectually intriguing, but I might have this outlook because no one has bothered me for sex due to my androgynous appearance while being in high school .Oh, I also find it confusing so that might also contribute to why I find it intellectually intriguing. I can't stand not understanding something that affects me and I'm surrounded by.

[P is for...]

i'm unsure why you've asked for responses from asexuals only in the subheading, and then included choices that would appear to pertain specifically to sexuals. seems odd.

[Copeland]

Whoops, double post. Mai bad

[annwyl_cariad]

Sex in a conversation: I put "Not sure/varies" because it varies a lot depending on who's talking and specifically what they're talking about. If it's a close friend or family member talking about their own sex life, I tend to excuse myself from the conversation because seriously, I'd prefer not to think about these people in that context. If it's friends or acquaintances talking about sex in a more general way, I tend to listen with an intellectual interest. If it's strangers talking near me, I tend to just put my earbuds in or something.

Sex scene on TV: "Leave it on, it's just boring." I usually take the opportunity to get up and get a glass of water or go to the bathroom or check my email or something. They don't bother me, I just don't care. It's like a commercial break. That's assuming it's just a gratuitous scene. If I think it has potential for plot or character development I'll stick around.

See a magazine about sex: "Indifferent." I basically just ignore it. It's easy enough to look away and not pay attention to it.

Internet porn popup: "Yell in disgust and close it." The incursion of sex into my life suddenly and unexpectedly will provoke this reaction. This includes everything from internet popups to sudden non-sequitur sexual conversations to changing the channel and finding myself in the middle of a sex scene. I'm okay with seeing representations of sex out in the world as long as I'm adequately prepared for them.

In general: "Only at certain times." Generally the sexual world doesn't bother me that much...just every once in a while something gets on my nerves. But most of the time I just do my best to ignore it and go about my business.

[Jingo]

I only get angry at the world in general occasionally. I get frustrated talking to some friends of mine because they just change everything into something sexual, even the most...innocent and sex-free comments. Like really, you must have your mind permanently in the gutter to make "that's what she said" jokes out of some of these things. It's just annoying. <_<

Most of the time I can't be bothered to care, though.

[Kafka Sometimes]

Sex in a Conversation:

This doesn't bother me at all. I, of course, don't have anything to add to conversations about actual sex, since I've never had it. However, I happen to have a fairly filthy mind, as do most of my friends and co-workers, and the things we say to each other and the jokes we make on a regular basis are pretty bad, lol.

Love Scenes:

I certainly have no desire to watch actual porn, but a sex scene in a movie or TV show doesn't bother me in the least. I don't particularly look forward to a scene like that, but the fact that it's there doesn't bother me. Hell, I've watched True Blood in the company of friends many times, and that show has graphic sex scenes in almost every episode, lol.

You Are In the Store and See A Magazine with the Topic of Sex on the Cover

Usually I try not to look, but that's more because I'm totally paranoid that someone is going to see me and then think that I have an interest in the magazine. It's a completely ridiculous and irrational fear, but then so are most of my fears, lol.

You're On the Internet and Porn Comes Up on the Computer

Porn, for the most part, I just have a problem with its existence. I find the concept itself to be kind of disgusting.

How Do You Feel In General About the "Sexualized World"

I wish that sex wasn't such a huge deal to most people, but there's nothing I can do about that, so it doesn't really bother me.

[HMTQ - Madge]

Sex Comes Up in A Conversation:

I put "Listen with real interest, intellectually". I may be in the minority here, but sexual jokes and conversation (As long as it isn't talking about real experiences with sex) doesn't really bother me. ^_^

A Love Scene Comes Up on TV:

I leave it on and complain. In most cases it will usually cause me to not take interest in the series/movie as a whole. :lol:

You Are In the Store and See A Magazine with the Topic of Sex on the Cover:

Ignore it/get a little annoyed. I'm used to all the magazines like this by now.

You're On the Internet and Porn Comes Up on the Computer:

I just shrug and click off of it. It's not really a big deal to me.

How Do You Feel In General About the "Sexualized World":

It's pretty annoying to be honest. It's depressing how hard it is to find media that isn't sexual. However, like with magazines, I'm pretty used to it by now and I'm able the joke around about sex and the like. Doesn't mean it doesn't annoy me, though. :lol:

[KAGU143]

Re: porn popups.

I immediately run a virus definition update and a full system scan!

I don't visit porn sites or anything even remotely related to them, so, even though the porn itself is meaningless to me, the fact that it can pop up on my computer is very disturbing. (It has only happened to me twice in over 10 years)

DO NOT WANT!!

-GB

[Gho St Ory Qwan]

Re: porn popups.

I immediately run a virus definition update and a full system scan!

I don't visit porn sites or anything even remotely related to them, so, even though the porn itself is meaningless to me, the fact that it can pop up on my computer is very disturbing. (It has only happened to me twice in over 10 years)

DO NOT WANT!!

-GB

My brother was looking for online episodes of the TV series Lost on our family computer a few years back. I came into the computer room and saw his new page come up and was horrified to see a naked woman legs going east and west not at all concealing the horror between.

He too was horrified and quickly explained himself.

From then on I'd say 'Are you lost?' and make my hands look like spreading legs lmao to tease him.

Sometimes porn pop-ups make no sense to the search at all. >.<

[Hot_Air_Balloons]

For the first one, my write-in answer would have to be "Sit there with a O_O + :I look on your face because you're trying to repress how weirded out you are".

GOOD ANSWER! I should have thought of that to add in there!

[Hot_Air_Balloons]

i'm unsure why you've asked for responses from asexuals only in the subheading, and then included choices that would appear to pertain specifically to sexuals. seems odd.

I did that because a lot of people on here who identify as "asexual" are still out there doing sexual things. Yeah that one confuses me too! But there are options for them.

[Hayley]

Sex Comes Up in A Conversation, What's Your General Reaction? It depends on who I'm in the conversation with but, generally, I'm happy to join in. I'm in a sexual relationship and not disturbed by sex at all, so if it's a close friend I'm usually happy to join in.

A Love Scene Comes Up on TV We don't have a TV but if a scene comes up in, say, the cinema I'm indifferent. Or maybe more bored. It's really of no interest.

You Are In the Store and See A Magazine with the Topic of Sex on the Cover I'm indifferent - it might not be of interest to me, but it is to other people. Same as magazines with the topic of motorbikes.

You're On the Internet and Porn Comes Up on the Computer I close it? I'm not disturbed by porn, but don't much want to view it either.

How Do You Feel In General About the "Sexualized World" It varies. I don't feel part of the "sexualised world", but then I don't see the world as being overly sexual either, so generally it doesn't bother me.

[Selk]

In conversation:

- Sometimes listen, sometimes just zone out and retreat to my daydreams until they're done, but either way, I don't say anything unless directly prompted.

On TV:

- Bear through it but be mentally cringing and thinking "this would've been a better film/show/etc without the sex scene". They're boring and unnecessary and detract so much.

In magazines:

- If it's a nude, I may actually look. I draw a lot and so I might observe anatomy. I generally flick away though.

On computer:

- Click away as soon as I can. Not because I'm disturbed, but because if it is pornographic, I clearly don't intend to be there and popups are bloody annoying!

In general:

- It can really annoy me, mainly in conversations - EVERYTHING has a "dirty meaning", so I've given up avoiding them. Other than that, I just sigh at those silly sexuals and their obsessions and carry on with my life. :P

[Guest member31022]

Sex is just amusing, and my lovely friends who are sexual share this opinion. Our sex discussions are fun :D

[JJButterworth]

Sex in general has no effect on me it does not excite or anger me. What gets me more upset is those world summits were world leaders go to "solve" world's problems but all they can do is get their photo taken and agree to do the same thing somewhere else.

[henrik]

Nobody's this interested, but I'm bored so here we go:

Sex Comes Up in A Conversation, What's Your General Reaction?

In the past, I would just retreat from the conversation and try not to comment in any way. I don't want to impose my orientation and I saw no reason to tell anyone if they didn't ask me.

Nowdays I'm not so accommodating. The way I see it, if they're talking about overtly sexual things, then they're imposing their orientation on me and there's no reason not to respond in kind. If the opportunity arises, I just blurt it out and hope that it kills the ongoing discussion. The success rate is not very good, but provides some entertainment anyway.

A Love Scene Comes Up on TV?

Well, I don't have a TV, but I do watch quality television shows on DVD. I just tune off for the duration, check my email, think about what I should eat or think about work. Then when the scene is over, I start to pay attention again. Depending on the show/movie, I might do this for every scene about love and relationships. But only if I feel that that aspect of the story does not advance the plot in any way.

On some shows, we do get some really kick ass music during sex scenes, so I can also pay full attention to the music.

You Are In the Store and See A Magazine with the Topic of Sex on the Cover?

Stores are full of all kinds of magazines, most of them not only idiotic, but increasingly dangerously ignorant about the world. I do not pay any attention to any magazines at stores, I subscribe to the ones I find worthy. (In my case: Time, Creative Screenwriting Magazine and a Finnish astronomy magazine.)

You're On the Internet and Porn Comes Up on the Computer?

Fortunately this happens less and less as people become more educated on how to use the internet and crude malware programs don't result in porn storms like before. Basically I do not see porn on the internet. If that were to happen, I'd click away and make a mental note about not repeating the circumstances that resulted in the display of such material.

How Do You Feel In General About the "Sexualized World"?

I often ignore it, sometimes get extremely annoyed. But most of the time I make fun of it. The extreme measures people go in order to have 30 seconds of carnal fun are exceedingly amusing if you really look at it.

[Gho St Ory Qwan]

How Do You Feel In General About the "Sexualized World"?

I often ignore it, sometimes get extremely annoyed. But most of the time I make fun of it. The extreme measures people go in order to have 30 seconds of carnal fun are exceedingly amusing if you really look at it.

So true. XD

[Hermathena]

In conversation:

- Usually I listen . I want to understand motivations and feelings behind the phrases.

On TV:

- Love scenes with no explicit sex details i like . I am a pretty romantic person so I am drawn to mild love scenes. If there is porn, I change the channel.

In magazines:

- If it is an article about sex trends I usually read . i want to know what makes the society tick. Porns or nudes I never look at. h.

On computer:

- Click away as soon as I can. I dont like porn and I dont trust also porn sites for distributing viruses etc.

In general:

- It doesnt bother me that the world in general revolves around sex and I dont mind me being asexual whene everybody else is not. But I really want to have as much theoretical knowledge on the subject as I can (since I cannot have a personal experience on it) so that I dont feel as an idiot when people are doing and discuss things around me which I dont understand .

[Copeland]

Robert, I agree almost wholeheartedly with you my good sir. When it's such a big influence on one's surroundings it's important to know about. Also it's fascinating how much it affects people's decisions and lives.

[Rivan Vox]

Heh. I have an overly extensive knowledge of sexual matters because I wanted to be good at roleplaying sex two years ago. And because I listen too much, and most of my friends are VERY sexual.

I'm fine with sex- it's somewhat fun to talk about, and I've watched porn with certain people before. it's just something my friends do that I don't, nothing more than that. (also some porn is hilarious)

[LoNeR bY dEfAuLt]

the only one i couldn't find an answer about was when porn comes up on the computer - my reaction is to either (depending on the content) look in general disbelief, or else just laugh at how silly it is, then click it off

[henrik]

I hope it's not rude to promote it like this, but this poll and topic was extensively covered in the latest episode of A Life podcast. I already posted my responses on this thread, but on the show you'll hear comments from other panelists as well and my responses in much higher detail.

http://alifepodcast.wordpress.com/2010/10/10/a-life-34-encounterings/