paulasexual Posted December 19, 2010 Share Posted December 19, 2010 Its this issue I suppose thats made me realise Im asexual - the divide between functioning in this way, but not having any desire or interest in reality to perform sexually in any way. Repressed? No, just as ive said no drive or interest in reality. Link to post Share on other sites
CopyFox Posted December 19, 2010 Share Posted December 19, 2010 I agree with what most people here are saying: some do, some don't. I personally am one of the ones that does NOT. I have never felt the urge to masturbate, even when I become physically aroused, which is fairly often because the stories I read usually have sex in them. I suppose I like the feeling of arousal, but it doesn't make me feel like "finishing" or touching myself. Makes me itchy, more than anything, and tired. Link to post Share on other sites
E.winEla Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 I will do it on nights when I'm desperate to get to sleep. Like alcohol, it can be a good sleep aid. Other than that I rarely do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Wineblood Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 I've found that my need to do so has significantly decreased since I started doing (semi)regular exercise. When I first started, I went about five days without feeling any kind of urge at all and it was nice. Since then I've at least halved the amount I masturbate (no accurate figures :)). My theory is that I was vented physical frustration that way and that my sex drive is a lot lower than I thought it was. Link to post Share on other sites
efAston Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 When I was a teenager once somebody said to me "no matter how hard you try to stop masturbating you can't do it". I almost immediately responded with a silent "challenge accepted". I had my first wet dreams (the first ever was about HR Giger's Alien, that was weird) after the first couple of weeks and then I figured out how to actually stop myself from being physically affected by the wet dreams. I can tell you with no degree of uncertainty that blue balls are real, and they are AGONY. I ended up deciding that even if I didn't feel like masturbating, it was less mess to do it once in a while than waking up to it. Mind you, since I gave up self harm, it hasn't been that rare, and I can't say that I'm always uninterested in it either. Link to post Share on other sites
dizzying Posted January 17, 2011 Share Posted January 17, 2011 I enjoy masturbation but I only tend to do it when my libido flares up, and there's no rhyme or reason to its patterns. I can go weeks without feeling the need for sexual release and sometimes I want to get off three or four times in one day. I suppose I'm different from other asexuals in that I DO fantasize about having sex with specific people (like partners or celebrities or people I saw in public that I found aesthetically attractive) but fantasy does not translate into actually wanting to have sex with another person. I think this describes me extremely well. I guess I am one of the fewer people that have responded to this thread that do think about sexual activity during masturbation. I do masturbate when the need arises, and I will watch pornography to get off. Unlike many who have posted before me, in such cases I DO find other couples having sex together arousing and I can fantasize about other couples having sex. However, in such fantasies I am never participating in the sexual activity. I can't fathom the idea of it happening to me, and I have no desire to participate in any sort of sexual activity with another person. Being on the receiving end of someone's sexual desire or having sex with someone myself -- I find that idea really absurd and not arousing at all. The fact that I have NO desire to engage in sexual activity with another human being -- it was because of this that I started to consider the fact that I may be asexual? Help! Is there anyone else in my situation? I'm new to this forum and I'm still quite confused about my sexuality... Any articles/definitions/links on people in my specific situation would be appreciated, if there are any! Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Stormy Wether Posted January 17, 2011 Share Posted January 17, 2011 I guess I am one of the fewer people that have responded to this thread that do think about sexual activity during masturbation. I do masturbate when the need arises, and I will watch pornography to get off. Unlike many who have posted before me, in such cases I DO find other couples having sex together arousing and I can fantasize about other couples having sex. However, in such fantasies I am never participating in the sexual activity. I can't fathom the idea of it happening to me, and I have no desire to participate in any sort of sexual activity with another person. Being on the receiving end of someone's sexual desire or having sex with someone myself -- I find that idea really absurd and not arousing at all. The fact that I have desire to engage in sexual activity with another human being -- it was because of this that I started to consider the fact that I may be asexual? Help! Is there anyone else in my situation? I'm new to this forum and I'm still quite confused about my sexuality... Any articles/definitions/links on people in my specific situation would be appreciated, if there are any! Thanks! Yes, I do the same and some others have posted similar things. I made up a fictional couple :) Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted January 17, 2011 Share Posted January 17, 2011 I wouldn't even know how, nor have I felt arsed to figure it out. /shrug Link to post Share on other sites
ajp Posted January 17, 2011 Share Posted January 17, 2011 I do masturbate sometimes - not very often. Hardly ever infact. It feels nice but i always feel a bit guilty after. I wouldn't want to act out sexual intercourse for real because it just isn't my thing to get intimate with another person in that way. I would definately call myself asexual and i dont plan to have sex in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
Hanna Posted January 17, 2011 Share Posted January 17, 2011 I don't because it makes me feel really repulsed and perv afterwards for hours, i almost get a seizure.... so it's not worth it at all for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Alexandra-the-Great Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 I do, and quite frequently. I do get aroused, but not by the idea of having sex or any real person. In order for me to ever get aroused, I have to completely replace myself with someone else. As a slash (male/male pairing in a fandom) fan, I usually replace myself with one of my favorite characters. I do not get aroused in the slightest if my fantasies have me anywhere in them. Of course, sometimes, I don't think of anything at all, or I'll be reading or online shopping or something completely irrelevant to anything sexual at all. Sometimes I do it because I actually feel turned on by something, and sometimes I just do it because it is great at relieving tension and stress. Link to post Share on other sites
Member25303 Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 I do....my urges are out of random, and not aimed at anyone....I don't masturbate often, just once in a while each month especially before my period, just only when the urges hit...I do think of a guy but it's no one I know...just a made up image....but I've never been attracted to men (I may think he's handsome, but that's about it - sex wasn't on my mind at the time), plus I have no desire to go out and have sex with a real guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest member25959 Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 .......YES, yes they do. I don't masturbate, I wouldn't even know what to do. Oh wait, the OP posted this just over a year ago now. Link to post Share on other sites
RandomDent Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 I'm also fairly certain they left AVEN not long after joining. Thread closed due to necromancy. RandomDent. Link to post Share on other sites
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