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Do asexuals masturbate?

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Gho St Ory Qwan

I do, out of necessity. The arousal isn't tied to anything, just my area going "Hey! Don't ignore me!" at random times.

LMAO

Yeah so true. I'm getting the hurting side of it ONLY nowadays. And its really frequent. makes me wonder if I'm a perv but its like linked to NOTHING! ='[ Something must be wrong. I don't get any response/relief afterwards either. I just get too tired and sleep lmao and I'm very very very pissed off because I hate doing it, it hurts before, and its a waste of time completely now.

I should go see a doctor but I don't wanna be touched. Especially there. The worse part of the body. bleh *wishing the body was male again* *sigh*

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Hua Baoyan

I only get horny during that time of the moon cycle. I grind my female parts on the bed. It feels really good, but I feel impure after doing it. I have a few fetish paraphernalia that turns me on, but men never do.

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Gho St Ory Qwan

I only get horny during that time of the moon cycle. I grind my female parts on the bed. It feels really good, but I feel impure after doing it. I have a few fetish paraphernalia that turns me on, but men never do.

lol

yeah, I don't get the insertion thing. it's never crossed my mind as something that'd solve the weird feeling. Besides I'm averse to the idea of most types of penetration (even when doctors look in my ear and stuff...) =/

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Sikanda

I do, but only very rarely. I don't like doing it either. I get asked this same question a lot, and I just tell people the truth. I get turned on sometimes but I can never identify what it's connected with. I know that I have never gotten turned on by another person, never been sexually attracted to anyone. And fetishes are out, because I've never been turned on by objects or situations. I think my body just gets aroused on it's own. The only thing I can think of that has ever turned me on was the idea of sex. And not the idea of myself having sex with another person. It's either just the idea of penetration or of two other people getting it on. Bring me into the picture and I'm turned right off. I only usually get aroused around twice a month, during ovulation and right before menstruation (sorry about thr TMI). Damn you XX chromosome...

Anyway, when I get aroused it's not like "YES, this is the BEST feeling in the world! UUUNGH!" It's more like "Damn, I'm gonna have to go take care of this because it's ANNOYING. AS. HELL." I try to get it over with as quickly as possible, and while I do it I don't really think about anything. Afterwards I really don't feel good, sometimes I even feel a little bad because I feel like I'm being controlled by my body.

Most sexual people are confused and can't understand what I'm saying when I try to explain this to them.

Same here...I hate being aroused its the most annoying feeling in the world...And I only get that way at certain parts in my cycle too...It drives me crazy because it literally gets to the point it HURTS like really hurts so bad I want to cry...And yet masturbating is not that great at best its just scracthing an itch(and not very well I may add) and at worst its physically,emotiionally, and mentally umcomfortable!!! So I can't really masturbate anymore because it kinda hurts(well anything pentetrative anyway like I could never use a sex toy or anything *shudder*) and I feel like shit afterwards...I actually had a guy I am chatting with on an online dating site and he wrote me a few weeks back saying something along the lines that I should masturbate because if I got an orgasm he thinks I won't be asexual...

Firstly I reinterated that sexual attraction and libido are not the same thing...then I laughed :lol: and told him that I indeed have in the past especially when I was a teenager(darn hormones)but never derived much pleasure with/from it...people say orgasms are the most amazing feeling in the world to me it was just a small release and a HUGE feeling of relief to get it over with...Not to mention it takes forever...I mean seriously it can take me an hour or more...it gets sooooo boring...what the heck is so great about that?!?!?!?! I am interested to see if he responds to any of this lol I will be sure and tell you all if he does...I mean seriously I don't get it...

If I never had any kind of sexual urge again my entire life I would be completely happy...If their was a way to turn of arousal and even thoughts of sex I'd do it...Knowing I am asexual and not really caring to have sex beyond a mild human curiousity to see what it would be like these feelings/thoughts seem pointless and make me seriously disgusted with myself...

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Sikanda

You know whats BETTER then masturbation/arousal? Eating chocolate!!! I derive wayyyyyyy more pleasure from that then I ever could from masturbating! :P :lol: And I don't feel so disgusted afterwards...

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Skya

I try to masturbate everyday. I don't do it if I'm not in my own bed though... rarely I watch porn or hentai (japanese animation, straight). I do watch yaoi 1-3 days in a month though (japanese animation, homosexual guys).

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BlackJacq

I try to masturbate everyday. I don't do it if I'm not in my own bed though... rarely I watch porn or hentai (japanese animation, straight). I do watch yaoi 1-3 days in a month though (japanese animation, homosexual guys).

I watch yaoi too, and read it but not to masturbate. It invokes a different kind of pleasure that doesn't involve me touching myself. I like reading/watching yaoi/slash (also homosexual men but usually in writing and in fanfiction) A LOT more than I like any form of masturbation.

You know whats BETTER then masturbation/arousal? Eating chocolate!!! I derive wayyyyyyy more pleasure from that then I ever could from masturbating! :P :lol: And I don't feel so disgusted afterwards...

Agreed. Chocolate is so nice...

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annesleyefriendo

I don't masturbate... it doesn't make sense to me, and I've never really wanted to. I guess because the idea of any sexual interaction whatsoever makes me cringe, masturbation seems incredibly unappealing as well.

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Skya

Well, I don't consider masturbation to be sexual interaction. Interaction generally implies theres someone or something other than yourself involved.

*I don't always masturbate to yaoi. lol, it's sometimes just the romance or the giggly comedy bits you can get from it.

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Unbanned

I often do it to music. It feels pretty awesome when you time the orgasm with the drop.

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Cristine

I do masturbate every now and then because sometimes I get that urge. Like someone here said, it isn't really a bad feeling but it isn't particularly special either. It's uncomfortable and bothering. I always feel gross after-wards too. It's just really a burden to feel sexual arousal but not sexual attraction or romantic attraction. I'd rather not feel any need to do it at all. But I guess it isn't a big deal, it just is that way. I'm glad I'm not alone on this because at first I thought that masturbating excluded me from being ace but now I know that isn't true. ;)

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Gho St Ory Qwan

You know whats BETTER then masturbation/arousal? Eating chocolate!!! I derive wayyyyyyy more pleasure from that then I ever could from masturbating! :P :lol: And I don't feel so disgusted afterwards...

Agreed. Chocolate is so nice...

And doesn't leave you with the risk of transmitted infections or life forms growing in you.

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Changed773

"Do Asexuals Masturbate?"

All the friggin time! :lol:

I compare my need to do this deed to sexuals' need and love of sex. And I love doing this, too. :)

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andrea_deer

I don't. Never did, probably never will. I just don't like the idea and to be honest I found it off putting and somehow gross. Not as in, "I frown at you for doing that" kind of thing, just as "I don't really see how it applies to me, no really I have a fic to finish, kthxbye". *shrugs*

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Quill Pen Gentleman

I enjoy masturbation but I only tend to do it when my libido flares up, and there's no rhyme or reason to its patterns. I can go weeks without feeling the need for sexual release and sometimes I want to get off three or four times in one day. I suppose I'm different from other asexuals in that I DO fantasize about having sex with specific people (like partners or celebrities or people I saw in public that I found aesthetically attractive) but fantasy does not translate into actually wanting to have sex with another person.

So, masturbating is still regarded as asexual? I have that same thing too, where I feel all flared up sometimes and others where I don't feel at all. I fantasize about mostly kissing and holding hands. I don't really know if I'm asexual or not. Which is why I'm a member on this site.

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kamikaze

I personally do it and I don't consider myself any less asexual because of it. It's troublesome sometimes, but I don't really feel disgusted by it or anything. It aids to sleep and I tend to have stress related insomnia.

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NamTar
Asexuals also don't tend to fantasise about real individuals when masturbating, or even anything at all. I won't lie, I'm libidoist, and I can sometimes find myself thinking about my shopping list or what's for dinner. It's about the sensations really rather than anything else and I think that can be hard for sexual people to understand.

Ha, this. Nice to know other people don't just have hardcore porn fantasies... Most of the time, if I attempt thinking about actual sex, it starts to turn me off...

I'd just as soon have no libido at all, but since I do have a libido, I have before. Not often, because for me it's just a biological/hormonal type thing, an itch, I guess.

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Franz
It aids to sleep and I tend to have stress related insomnia.

That's the only reason why I do it.

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bluebanana2014

Nope.

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GirlInside

I told the person who asked me this that I do, but I don't like to masturbate, except I like the way I feel afterwards. I also told him that there are asexual people who don't want to be sexual no matter what. So of course I left it open to a continuum. I would like to hear other peoples' thoughts on this. So, you know, I would appreciate some actual facts to back up my ideas. I mean, I see where he's coming from because masturbation takes the other person out of the picture, but... Anyways, feel free to discuss.

It's the same with me. I mostly do it for stress relief. And I have to go into fantasy to make it fun enough, but I don't like sexual fantasies.

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Sherlock

Yes, I like to fantasize about something romantic. Cuddling, holding hands, having my hair stroked, nice back massages. That's probably the closest to being "turned on" I usually get.

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sharpy

I do it out of sheer boredom it feel ok but being a guy my orgasm is nowhere near as lonng or as fun as a womans but hey its quick and less complicated than sex

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N. L.

I masturbate as I do have a libido - a low libido but a libido nonetheless - and masturbation is certainly a lot less uncomfortable than trying to have sex with someone who I have zero physical attraction too. Also, in my experience, masturbation is more fulfilling to my libido than actual sex because sex is just too uncomfortable/awkward.

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Fall Child

Erryday of my life.

Just about, anyway. I actually enjoy it a lot. I must be a pretty weird asexual. :P

But no, I actually have some fetishes and that's normally what I end up thinking about. But sometimes I find my mind wandering to other, completely unrelated things, or just not thinking of anything at all.

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ushuaia

Yes, I do. Often. And I enjoy it.

And (not sure if anyone asked, but I'll say it anyway...) the interesting part about when I do it (TMI warning here people) I think about girls, but not girls who are 'sexy' in the conventional sense. I usually think mroe about girls that I see in real life, even though there may be sexier girls that I saw that day. Thinking about celebrities doesn't do it for me, I have a more off-beat taste.

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Gho St Ory Qwan

I do it out of sheer boredom it feel ok but being a guy my orgasm is nowhere near as lonng or as fun as a womans but hey its quick and less complicated than sex

I've stopped being able to orgasm so I'd say its probably more fun for you because at least you can get it.

I've noticed oddly enough my mind can connect somehow to being male physically because if I imagine masturbating with a male body rather than female I get closer to an orgasm faster. but something has just stopped me getting one for the last few years which is highly frustrating. But yeah...

Sometimes I wonder if with a male body I would be more inclined to have intercourse too (general penetration is something I don't like the idea of, not just sexual), maybe I'd be ok being the dude. not that I'm a guy rather than girl. I'm genderfluid. it just occurs to me that being male bodied may have suited me better in that aspect. Plus female bodies have too many downers. -.- (no offence if that can be taken badly by any)

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Rishkaana

I masturbate, but I have yet to feel an orgasm . . . or anything for that matter. I don't get aroused, I don't even notice that anything's happened. Might help explain the asexuality

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Receuvium

Frequently. In fact it's a full-blown addiction. The weird thing is I'm testosterone deficient. Which leaves me thinking, shit, what would it be like it if it was back to normal? Worse, what if I was attracted to something? It really gives an insight to why so many people, men especially, can't seem to control their sexual impulses, it must really be extremely powerful.

I can relate to all the people saying it's this annoying sensation, like an itch, that you just have to get rid of. At the same time, it has these strange connotations for me of comfort and being completely alone, something about it is rhythmical and refreshing, like a great song felt rather than heard. So I couldn't say I don't enjoy it.

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trisarahtops

Masturbation and I have a weird relationship. Kind of a love-hate, kind of a boring-exciting, kind of thing. It's hard to describe, but I can relate to some people above.

I can relate to the lack of sexual thoughts during the whole thing. It might have started from some kind of sexually related thoughts, but during, it doesn't do much for me to try to add sex to it. Sometimes it seems like more effort than it's worth, other times it can be enjoyable. I have kind of noticed a higher interest before and after my periods. I'm still working out some details.

Short answer: Yes. See above posts for details.

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Gho St Ory Qwan

I have the habit of forgetting what I'm doing part way through or getting too bored to carry on.

Sex is a big turn off. I try to throw it in but with all the censorship my mind does its more difficult and awkward. And sex just isn't sexy. -.-

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