the frog queen Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 short of hiring a private investigator or outright asking a man how interested he is in sex (because we all know people lie), what are some clues that he may be a lot more (or less) sexual than he appears? Link to post Share on other sites
pejoratist Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 My suggestion: don't play games. Just ask him. Link to post Share on other sites
chibiryuu Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 I don't know how "eager" the average sexual male is, and it's probably highly dependent per person, situation, other relationships, stress, and the like. I can't think of any way short of asking them, either. Link to post Share on other sites
the frog queen Posted November 4, 2004 Author Share Posted November 4, 2004 My suggestion: don't play games. Just ask him. but what if he's just totally repressed and in denial? even if he tells me what he believes to be truth, it could lead to major trouble. :? Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 My suggestion: don't play games. Just ask him. They lie. I HAVE asked. 'Oh, I just like being friends with women...I'm not that into sex...' Then they make a pass. And another one. And if I let them probably another one. Until they get bored or realise you're really not going to sleep with them and go off to find someone who WILL sleep with them. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
the frog queen Posted November 4, 2004 Author Share Posted November 4, 2004 My suggestion: don't play games. Just ask him. They lie. I HAVE asked. 'Oh, I just like being friends with women...I'm not that into sex...' Then they make a pass. And another one. And if I let them probably another one. Until they get bored or realise you're really not going to sleep with them and go off to find someone who WILL sleep with them. Cate so, at the risk of getting groped, i guess one could test the waters a bit by putting yourself in situations where they could make a pass at you. given enough time, that would probably weed out those with low libido and perhaps even repression. Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 I would NOT recommend doing that. That may be seen as flirting or wanting them to make a pass. Why can't you just tell them you're not interested in sex? Cate Link to post Share on other sites
cait Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 what are some clues that he may be a lot more (or less) sexual than he appears? His squishy insides EXPLODE! Okay, now I'll give my honest answer, I just couldn't help myself. 1. If he talks about or mentions sex a lot, even if he is saying that he is not into it, it means he is thinking about it. 2. If he looks at girls, constantly points out who is wearing a short skirt (even if it is to make fun, he is still looking). 3. Always remember that no matter how much a guy claims he does not like porn you should not believe him (unless you know he is being sincere, somehow). 4. Any guy who refers to females as "chicks" likes sex, wants sex, is a condescending jerk (I don't care how nice the guy is, he's a jerk! Tell him that!...for me). 5. I realize that when joking around, sexual inuendos can be quite funny, but the more a guy makes the more sexually repressed he is. 6. If you are dating a guy (or something), the more he touches you ... well ... with some guys it's just evident in the way they try to touch you or hold you (for example, you try to move around and get comfortable, and he's a bit forcible/prevents you from moving around much to get comfortable or something). 7. If he's a scorpio, there is a really good chance he is really sexual. (I don't mean to offend anyone who is a scorpio, I am sorry). 8. If he thinks you are "hot". 9. If he ever mentions the size of his penis to his friends (that's a given, I'm just running out of material here). 10. And ummm...for sake of coming up with ten...If he listens to really bad hip hop you know he wants a little something...something... n' yeah. I am sorry if some of these are stereotypical, bear in mind some of it might root from the anger I have developed against males over the years. Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 See, I'm loathe to try to give you clues to look for because I've known a few guys who never talked about sex but who were quite sexual--I only found out about just HOW sexual they were from their wives or after I'd known them for several years. BUT if you really want clues I would second several of cait's--if he notices other women or if he talks about sex a lot. Those seem so obvious, though. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
jhhalpha Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 I'm a guy. I think about sex a lot, and I talk about sex a lot. I wont touch unless touched first though. And I have never met anyone I would want to have sex with, despite thinking about, and talking about sex a lot. Though that could have been me trying to pretend I was "ordinary". Innocent until proven guilty I s'pose, there is no way to really know. Link to post Share on other sites
Metsubo Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 I'm a guy. I think about sex a lot, and I talk about sex a lot. I wont touch unless touched first though.And I have never met anyone I would want to have sex with, despite thinking about, and talking about sex a lot. Though that could have been me trying to pretend I was "ordinary". Innocent until proven guilty I s'pose, there is no way to really know. Seconded like woah... Link to post Share on other sites
Chameleonthing Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 I know several men who 'fess up to appreciating porn. They could just be honest and liberated and unashamed and therefore abnormal from the average man... but if you conversationally bring up porn (the right way--- awkward silence, then- "What's your favorite kind of porn?" is not the way to go!) and continue a discussion about the pros and cons of the art (or something), I'd say that would give a clue. And there's a quiz in "The Hipster Handbook" with one question that asks about porn habits. I had no clue one of my friends was so sexual until he unhesitatingly answered that yes, he was a man with a deep appreciation for pornography.. (I have NO idea how it happens, but I've discussed sex and porn with pretty much all of my friends at LEAST once or twice. It's all I talk about with some.) Link to post Share on other sites
A-Ole Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 7. If he's a scorpio, there is a really good chance he is really sexual. (I don't mean to offend anyone who is a scorpio, I am sorry). I'm a Scorpio, and I'm not offended; on the contrary, I've gotten endless amusement over the years out of pointing out to people how wrong those astrological descriptions are, not just because of my asexuality but with every other aspect of the supposed personality traits of Scorpios. There's no secret, magic way to know the "real truth" about someone's personality; all you can do is watch and wait... or, listen to your inner doubts and walk away. Link to post Share on other sites
cait Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 7. If he's a scorpio, there is a really good chance he is really sexual. (I don't mean to offend anyone who is a scorpio, I am sorry). I'm a Scorpio, and I'm not offended; on the contrary, I've gotten endless amusement over the years out of pointing out to people how wrong those astrological descriptions are, not just because of my asexuality but with every other aspect of the supposed personality traits of Scorpios. There's no secret, magic way to know the "real truth" about someone's personality; all you can do is watch and wait... or, listen to your inner doubts and walk away. That is true, but it is oh so fun to learn about and compare people to their astrological charts. Just so you know, astrology is a lot more than your star sign. I am not a big fan of horiscopes either, I hardly associate those with astrology. I really enjoy it and don't think it's total BS. It is just that there are so many factors, you really can't define a person with astrology, but that isn't the point of astrology! And my whole scorpio description was really more of a "hah hah" type thing anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
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