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9 hours ago, ryn2 said:

I can’t say it’s never happened to me before but I work hard to at least get the maple leaves dealt with.  The oak leaves come down all winter and are stiff and non-flat so they don’t cause the grass and plants any trouble.

We're afraid of what our lawn will look like next spring. No chance to get any raking done and it snowed. Only good thing is that our three oak trees don't lose their leaves until partway thru the winter.

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Just now, hypercat said:

Hi I am 64.  I have never knowingly met anyone else who is asexual so I am on my own as always. 

Welcome @hypercat.   Hope you enjoy hopping in to this over 50 thread!   You are knowingly meeting all of us now and most of us are asexual here.  :D Oh and here is some welcoming virtual :cake:

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35 minutes ago, will123 said:

We're afraid of what our lawn will look like next spring. No chance to get any raking done and it snowed. Only good thing is that our three oak trees don't lose their leaves until partway thru the winter.

Same!  I’m hoping I can move some of them out this coming weekend but it has to melt more first!

 

My oak starts coming down in November and continues until its new leaves come out in May.  My neighbors love it.  Not.

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41 minutes ago, hypercat said:

Hi I am 64.  I have never knowingly met anyone else who is asexual so I am on my own as always. 

Welcome and :cake:

 

You're lucky that the UK has lots of ace meetups. Maybe even some close to wherever you live there. Seems to be a thriving asexual community there. :) 

Just ask @Skycaptain. :) 

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Welcome to AVEN, @hypercat!

Nice photos, @cdrdash Interesting how the smoke hangs out in the lower elevations.  

@Mocha Jo Elsa is almost ten and as long as she doesn't overdo it for exercise, she manages her arthritis.  Also, she takes Gabapentin and Tramadol for the pain and peanut butter flavored glucosamine biscuits for the joints.  She will remind me if I haven't given her the afternoon meds by about 5 PM.  This medicine regime has worked will for the last six months or so.  As far as she is concerned, the meds are just tasty treats twice a day.  I hope your Maya is doing OK with old age-15 is a ripe old age for any dog.  The dog that lives across the street from me is also named Maya.   You were so kind to adopt her as an older dog, was it last year or two years ago now?.

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1 hour ago, hypercat said:

Hi I am 64.  I have never knowingly met anyone else who is asexual so I am on my own as always. 

Welcome to AVEN! 🍰 You're not alone with this friendly community. This thread is pretty much about anything but asexuality. Entertaining and at times educational.

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Hello @hypercat. Don't know where in the UK you are, but if it's anywhere within reach of Kent, there's a meet in Rochester on 8th December and there will be at least one person there who will be older than you (me). I hope you soon get to meet a lot of people even if it is on line not in real life. 

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2 hours ago, Tunhope said:

Hello @hypercat. Don't know where in the UK you are, but if it's anywhere within reach of Kent, there's a meet in Rochester on 8th December and there will be at least one person there who will be older than you (me). I hope you soon get to meet a lot of people even if it is on line not in real life. 

Birmingham this coming Saturday, too.

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6 hours ago, Midland Tyke said:

...I remember Brian Rix doing this televised live! Priceless. 

 

Interesting working day today...just before lunch , in comes the customer services general manager. 'I'm leaving today' she says. Off she goes, leaving us with our jaws on the floor. A meeting is called for the afternoon and when we attend, we're told that she has been made redundant as her job is  no longer required...then the same person that says this goes on immediately to say that her job will be advertised! Strange redundancy!

 

I feel very sorry for her because she had worked there for 14 years and seen the place through some very hard times. I remember her saying the place was her life. Big mistake, as it's turned out. Oddly enough, the person telling us about the redundancy was employed by the redundant manager only last year...I smell a rat.

 

Weird start to the week. Wonder what will happen next?

 

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26 minutes ago, chandrakirti said:

A meeting is called for the afternoon and when we attend, we're told that she has been made redundant as her job is  no longer required...then the same person that says this goes on immediately to say that her job will be advertised! Strange redundancy!

Ugh!  That’s always so annoying!  Either the job is redundant, in which case it doesn’t get backfilled, or the person is being fired, in which case cowboy/girl up and do it.  :(

 

Either way, that sucks!

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1 hour ago, ryn2 said:

Either way, that sucks!

Agreed. 

 

Many years ago I worked at a place managed by an incompetent manager (to be charitable). I had just passed my 6 months trial period there. Then the guy laid off several people, including me. It was commonly suspected that he laid off the people he did as a roundabout way to get rid of a senior employee. He couldn't fire that employee outright because he didn't have just cause. He just didn't like the person. And he couldn't lay that person off without laying off everyone in that section with lower seniority. Then a few months later they reopened the jobs, and had to re-hire most of us because we had first choice when the jobs were reopened. The person he meant to get rid of had already gotten into a better position elsewhere, so it worked out for that person. The rest of us were just pawns in the whole business.

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19 hours ago, Muledeer said:

Welcome to AVEN, @hypercat!

Nice photos, @cdrdash Interesting how the smoke hangs out in the lower elevations.  

@Mocha Jo Elsa is almost ten and as long as she doesn't overdo it for exercise, she manages her arthritis.  Also, she takes Gabapentin and Tramadol for the pain and peanut butter flavored glucosamine biscuits for the joints.  She will remind me if I haven't given her the afternoon meds by about 5 PM.  This medicine regime has worked will for the last six months or so.  As far as she is concerned, the meds are just tasty treats twice a day.  I hope your Maya is doing OK with old age-15 is a ripe old age for any dog.  The dog that lives across the street from me is also named Maya.   You were so kind to adopt her as an older dog, was it last year or two years ago now?.

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Elsa is beautiful! I am glad her arthritis is managed- bigger dogs have more trouble than small ones like Maya. I do give her a glucosamine supplement because she is a little stiff with age, but still getting around as well as any 15 year old! We have our evening toddle around the property and that is sufficient for her. I adopted her almost 2 years ago now when she was 13. I have forgotten the name of the site I was using to upload pictures, or I would put one in!

 

Have a happy Thanksgiving everyone!

 

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1 hour ago, daveb said:

Agreed. 

 

Many years ago I worked at a place managed by an incompetent manager (to be charitable). I had just passed my 6 months trial period there. Then the guy laid off several people, including me. It was commonly suspected that he laid off the people he did as a roundabout way to get rid of a senior employee. He couldn't fire that employee outright because he didn't have just cause. He just didn't like the person. And he couldn't lay that person off without laying off everyone in that section with lower seniority. Then a few months later they reopened the jobs, and had to re-hire most of us because we had first choice when the jobs were reopened. The person he meant to get rid of had already gotten into a better position elsewhere, so it worked out for that person. The rest of us were just pawns in the whole business.

Reminds me of a friend who was let go because she was the senior of two employees. The person the firm kept was barely keeping their head above water due to their inexperience.

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2 hours ago, daveb said:

And he couldn't lay that person off without laying off everyone in that section with lower seniority.

Sleazy!  Too bad he didn’t put all that energy into doing his own job better.

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I was once the subject of a corporate reorganisation that reduced the total job count by just one. Me! Strangely all the people who reported to me at that time (about 200 or so) got new reporting lines, but none of the new positions, somehow, were sufficiently 'new' that they were advertised or subject to interviews. It was such a poor show. I'd been with the company nearly 20 years. But I was lucky - redundancy terms were good (and I made sure they got better given the inappropriate way they'd gone about it) and in truth I wasn't suited to the company. I managed to get another job soon and it was better for me (or at least it was for a while); and it started me off in a different working pattern altogether, too.

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On 11/17/2018 at 10:37 AM, chandrakirti said:

not that I'm implying we all have arthritis here because we're over 50....😄

Actually, we probably all do have arthritis of at least one kind or another, whether we're conscious of (or bothered by) it or not -- it's a standard hazard of reaching this age range. Speaking of which, I've newly graduated to the next decade and might wander over to the 60s forum to poke my head in.🙂

 

@ryn2, belated sympathies on the sudden departure of your partner. I wish you well in transitioning to your next phase and hope it has many good things in store for you.

 

Welcome, @hypercat! I hope you get to meet plenty of fellow forum members in your area. :cake:

 

@cdrdash, your visit with Bob sounds positive notwithstanding the conversational complexities. 

 

Re: layoffs/corporate reorganizations -- they always seem to be handled so badly by people who you'd think would know better (or be more compassionate). When I was laid off from a longtime job, several other managers with whom I'd had close working relationships never said another word to me --  on the advice, I'd guess, of the company's lawyers. Because if they wished me well or expressed regret about my layoff, I might sue them or something? :huh: At least that wasn't nearly as bad as several cases I know in which longtime well-regarded employees were laid off and given all of 30 minutes to clean out their desks and be escorted out by a security guard. :(

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52 minutes ago, Semisweet said:

we probably all do have arthritis

Not me. :P (I won't claim any malady/condition that I don't feel and haven't had diagnosed) :P 

 

54 minutes ago, Semisweet said:

Re: layoffs/corporate reorganizations -- they always seem to be handled so badly by people who you'd think would know better (or be more compassionate).

Not in the case I mentioned. He sucked up to people above him, but everyone below him knew what an outstanding human being he was. :P 

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5 hours ago, daveb said:

Not in the case I mentioned. He sucked up to people above him, but everyone below him knew what an outstanding human being he was. :P 

By what you say @daveb, he sounds rather like another guy I used to know. But business is full of those!

@Midland Tyke, oddly enough my parting words to her was that she'll find something much better after all the work she put into this place.

@Semisweet, it's the same in the hospitals where I worked.People were warned not to speak to a forced leaver...I think it was to stop the real reasons for their departure being outed, saving the embarrassment of the dodgy managers..who usually sacked people before they outed the managerial machinations like fraud...

 

On arthritis, there's a very good advert on telly right now, with someone trying their best to get out of bed, gritting their teeth through the pain. Very accurate and will probably help increase the research funding for arthritic conditions. Well timed too, this is the time of year for the sore backs to make a reappearance...(rubs Voltarol vigorously...no puns now @Skycaptain!)

 

Caught sight of my bike in a shop window last night and my reflective spokes are working very well. I intend to cycle all year if it doesn't snow, so if a car/pedestrian gets me, it'll not be for lack of hi vis! Three front lights, two back ones, totally yellow jacket and trousers, reflective spokes....err is that overkill?😄

 

Happy Tuesday!

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@chandrakirti, the way that's been told makes me wonder if there's more to "made redundant" than meets the eye, not least because in UK employment law if a position which was made redundant becomes available within six months it must first be offered to the person laid off. 

 

Would I ever make a pun about rubbing vigorously to ease stiffness? 😋 😋 

 

We just had our first "wintery shower" of the season, that definitely had a touch of sleet in it 

 

 

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4 hours ago, chandrakirti said:

Caught sight of my bike in a shop window last night and my reflective spokes are working very well. I intend to cycle all year if it doesn't snow, so if a car/pedestrian gets me, it'll not be for lack of hi vis! Three front lights, two back ones, totally yellow jacket and trousers, reflective spokes....err is that overkill?😄

You can never be too visible biking!

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@Skycaptain, you were superbly set up for that pun.  Good one!

@chandrakirti Do you also wear a helmet when riding your bike?  It sounds like you have done everything possible to avoid a bike / car collision.   Sounds like a cycling Christmas tree  😎

I find the term "redundant" unusual when referring to a person.  I have always thought of it as a term in language usage.....like ...um...hot water heater.

Around here, we commonly use the terms "laid off" or RIF (reduction in force) when referring to workforce reductions.

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25 minutes ago, Muledeer said:

I find the term "redundant" unusual when referring to a person.  I have always thought of it as a term in language usage.....like ...um...hot water heater.

Around here, we commonly use the terms "laid off" or RIF (reduction in force) when referring to workforce reductions.

We use RIF/layoff for termination without cause where I live as well, but in my last job I worked for (and was laid off from) a medium-sized, US-based, international company that was quite RIF-prone so I got used to the term redundancy as well.

 

I think it’s technically the position itself that is redundant (as in duplicates something existing already) rather than the individual.  That’s why you’re not supposed to backfill it; officially, you’ve let the person go because the job no longer needs doing.

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