What was your first kiss like?

[hideandseek]

my first kiss were pretty bad (as were most of my other kisses.) its not that there was anything really wrong with them, but i never felt that "spark" that i was supposed to feel. (now i know why. duh im asexual) so kissing always felt to me like some kind of "show" and that i had to "perform." it always made me extremely nervous and i so was thinking about it the entire time, just trying not to be a disappointment. nothing about it felt natural at all. i do enjoy being kissed on the cheek and i guess the occasional soft kiss on the lips (to show affection and not necessarily attraction), but any of that fancy sloppy kissing? forget it.

[Rounx]

Haha, of course I'm serious :D We had a 5 minute discussion on it, and it was settled. He knows how I feel and at one point he asked 'can I kiss you when we're engaged or do you want to wait longer?' Such a sweetie <3.

You seem quite surprised Zoid |P

I'd love to hear your thoughts.

[Hydraulic]

Hated it. Hated it, hated it, hated it. And they always expected it of me, and expected me to like it.

[zoidberger]

You seem quite surprised Zoid |P

I'd love to hear your thoughts.

It just doesn't seem like a thing that one would wait for.., as in, I see no added benefit to wait to kiss until engagement...

[Rounx]

You seem quite surprised Zoid |P

I'd love to hear your thoughts.

It just doesn't seem like a thing that one would wait for.., as in, I see no added benefit to wait to kiss until engagement...

An opinion of yours for which I'm quite grateful. :P

And yeah, I agree with Zoids. I mean, if neither of you wants to kiss, then uhh, great I suppose. But I don't know why exactly it would be something a couple would avoid. It carries neither the physical or emotional risks or complications (at least not to the same extent, by any means) of sexual intercourse. It just seems a little over-the-top to me, but if both of you are happy with that that arrangement, then go for it, I guess.

I see what you mean here, there may not be benefits per say, but being a very nervous person when it comes to such things. It will also be my first kiss, and I don't really want to have a panic attack (which would probably happen), I still need time to get used to the idea. He knows that, and he's willing to wait. Engagement seems like a nice deadline, as it probably wont happen for a while yet.

Also, being a repulsed/traumatized by sex type of asexual, kissing and cuddling is 'as far' as we will get. We already cuddle a lot, which I've just started getting comfortable with, and he does not want to go to fast for me.

Also, being Christian, most people 'save themselves for marriage', since I will not be having sex anytime in this lifetime, kissing seems to be the only thing to 'save'.

I'm not saying this is the best way to do things, it's just personal preference I suppose.

[sweettreats]

I have been kissed several times by several different guys... Some I knew, some I didn't. ALL of the kisses were terrible. They were so pointless and boring, and it seems to be natural instinct in men to instantly try shoving their tongues in your mouth, which is even more annoying and pointless. I could possibly get used to tongue-less kisses, but as all my kissing experiences have inflicted tongues upon me, it is hard to say for sure.

[Porygon]

Awkward and unexpected. The guy (my boyfriend at the time) pretty much grabbed my face and tried to stick his tongue in my mouth, which I blocked with my teeth. Afterward I was more concerned with the fact that someone else's saliva was all over my lips than that I had (sort of) just had my first french kiss.

[erhldjkfhsljdh3544]

I had a wonderful first kiss when I was...oh boy..17? Maybe 18. So my ex and I were hanging out at the beach with another friend of hers and then she walks me out into the water. After a very confusing minute or so of standing there she kisses me, wouldn't change anything about it. Haha..I was so nervous after that that I went home claiming I was suffering from heat exhaustion.

[indigostar25]

Feel a little strange writing this as a lot of people seem to be saying they either hated their first kiss or there was nothing special about it *hides*

I even feel strange thinking back to my first kiss, didn't think I would ever kiss anyone, never saw the attraction of it. But it'd be a month or so I'd been with this guy, we were lying side by side and just tickling and messing around so I was pretty relaxed, and definately not expecting it. He knew I was very very shy, so he put his hand over my eyes and kissed me. So I guess it was pretty sweet of him to do that :3 we're still together now... so I guess it can't have been all that bad o_O lol. It kind of progressed from that really.. but I'm not too interested in kissing, I know when I've been apart from my boyfriend and then see him again I can't kiss him for a week or so because it's just so uncomfortable!

[kateri_karui]

Wow, so many people who seem to have vivid memories of their first kisses!

To be honest, I can't remember my first kiss very well. I know it was about five years ago (I was 17), because he and I began dating around V-day, and became "official" within a month or so...and the kiss was likely what "sealed the deal", so to speak. We were probably just saying goodbye one night. Apparently it wasn't a momentous occasion for me, or you'd think I'd remember more. 9_9 What I do recall was eventually going to my mother and announcing that we'd kissed. She asked how I liked it. I responded along the lines of, "It felt kinda...ehh." And then, after a moment, "It was wet. :|"

(All of our [rare] kisses were "ehh" after that, except for the one time he instigated a french kiss. Then it was just EW. Sadly that kiss is thus more memorable than the first. )

[ThePieMaker]

I had a wonderful first kiss when I was...oh boy..17? Maybe 18. So my ex and I were hanging out at the beach with another friend of hers and then she walks me out into the water. After a very confusing minute or so of standing there she kisses me, wouldn't change anything about it. Haha..I was so nervous after that that I went home claiming I was suffering from heat exhaustion.

Now this is adorable.

[vrazda verlaine]

We had just talked about how we both had feelings for each other, after it had been going in that direction for a couple of weeks. I was reluctant to get into a relationship with him because I'm asexual, but he told me he thought we could make it work, so we made it official. When I knew we were about to kiss, I wanted to initiate it, but I hesitated too long, and he did it first. I thought I was going to like kissing him. I was surprised and very disappointed when it happened and I found myself thinking "...this is not pleasant at all. "

[aoimist]

My first (and only) kiss was pretty awful. It was last summer (age 20) and long after I discovered I'm ace, but I was curious as to how a kiss is supposed to feel. I met a guy at a club and danced with him. Later he tried to kiss me, and at first I refused but then thought, why not? If people like kissing so much, maybe I should give it a try and maybe I'll actually like it. But it was awful and felt purely mechanical to me. <_< (I remembered seeing a youtube video on how to kiss and was trying to recount the instructions and follow them...) The entire time I was thinking, what am I supposed to do and how long is this going to last? After it ended, I though it was over with and I wouldn't have to kiss him again, but when he tried to kiss me again, I hid in the coat closet until my friends were ready to leave. I don't think I'll be kissing anytime soon... ^_^

[Lucrezia]

I'm going to have another one of the rare answers, in which I actually enjoyed my first kiss.

It was Canada Day, and I was 18, so it must have been July 1, 2004. One of my best friends, E, and I had been seriously crushing on each other for months. We both knew it but were too shy to do anything about it.

It was a sleepover celebration in her backyard. There were about seven of us in a giant tent, and we'd all had a little bit of alcohol; not much though. It was kind of fun, having a little bit to drink underage. Being a 'rebel' and all that, haha. Anyway, we all started up a game of Truth or Dare at 4 in the morning or so. Eventually my other best friend, B, who was fed up watching us dance around each other for months, just dared us to kiss each other.

E and I glanced at each other and then she crawled over in the tent. I was still lying down on my back, so she straddled me and kissed me. I was incredibly nervous, but at the same time, excited. I remember, my arm came up of its own accord and slid around her neck. We must have made out for at least half a minute.

That was my first kiss and it was French, no less. We really surprised the others because they expected a fast, chaste kiss. ^^

[marusian]

My first non-familial kiss was when I was 7 or something, and I don't remember it (it obviously didn't leave a big impression). To me, kisses are just a way of showing affection - they're not magical or anything. I'm happy to hug and kiss friends to show friendly affection (nothing romantic). I hug and kiss friends and family. My first romantic kiss was when I was 17. I kissed my now-ex-boyfriend. It was like a normal kiss, but the emotions were...different. Same action that I'm used to, somewhat different kind of affection. [i loved it, by the way.]

[Alan Degas]

Aww Lucrezia, what an awesome first kiss! ^_^

[Lucrezia]

Aww Lucrezia, what an awesome first kiss! ^_^

Thanks~ It was special and I wish everyone could enjoy their first kiss like I did.

[AsExUaLGaNgStA]

Mine was kinda lame....

A dude I was datin decided he wanted to kiss me on our third day goin out without tellin me or warnin me first. So uh... He kinda moved in, and I panicked and turned my head to the side. Then he kissed my cheek. And then I felt so bad that I shot him down so I kinda lunged at him and kissed him. But then it wasn't... interesting at all so I kinda dumped him right after. My first and only relationship *sigh*

[Lucrezia]

Mine was kinda lame....

A dude I was datin decided he wanted to kiss me on our third day goin out without tellin me or warnin me first. So uh... He kinda moved in, and I panicked and turned my head to the side. Then he kissed my cheek. And then I felt so bad that I shot him down so I kinda lunged at him and kissed him. But then it wasn't... interesting at all so I kinda dumped him right after. My first and only relationship *sigh*

Perhaps he wanted it to be romantic and spontaneous? Don't worry though, relationships aren't always fun. :P You're not missing out on much, though it depends on whom you have a relationship with, of course.

[randakinley]

Uh, actually my first kiss was what made me break up with the guy. I was scared because I thought something was wrong because it grossed me out and I felt nothing. Haha. I used the "you are too much like a brother" speech and then didn't date anyone for like three years until my sister pressured me into it.

[ExeCUTE]

I remember everything but the actual kiss. Mainly due to the fact that I spent the whole time plotting to get away and being terrified.

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And don't even speak to me about last night. After that, I don't even understand how people can construe non-pecks-on-cheek-kisses as unsexual.

Damn sexual parade, you made me miss the Asexy valentines meet. <_< [/rant]

[TouchofDestiny]

My first kiss was okay. I really liked the girl but the thing was. I didn't feel anything special. It was just, okay then :P But afterwards I had a really bad feeling though. Didn't really know why. But the setting and everything was quite romantic though. We both finished working and she got a little necklace as a gift and that's when it happened. But she was my only love until now. I broke up a week after since I really didn't feel the connection anymore.

Funny thing is, it wasn't my only kiss. One day I was working and I got a phone number from a French speaking girl, so I thought it would be cool to be friends with here. So after work, I met her and we started talking. And just before I want to go on the train, she grabbed me and kissed me and I didn't know what to do at all. And all of my friends were watching there, it was quite embarissing. I felt really bad because I didn't stop, but I didn't want to offend her or anything. Then I told her about me of course and I never heard from here again... I felt really bad that she was hurt I think but I really didn't know what to do.

So those were my two kisses...

[KieranTheWerewolf42]

I have never been kissed or on a date (unless prom counts). Anyway, I was 17 at senior prom and my "date" who I went with because his girlfriend broke up with him at the last minute and I felt bad tried to kiss me. Emphasis on tried. He surprised me and I have a thing about unexpected touching so I punched him before he could touch me and ran into the bathroom. When I came out, I had been "dumped" for his ex. I just sat by the chocolate fountain for the rest of the night.

[Fjallstorm]

I didn't feel nothing on my first kiss, and on my first sexual relationship.

They were like the others. I don't really understand why people say that first time is very important and it marks you for the rest of your life.

[Cruel_Intentions]

The first time I kissed a girl, it grossed me out. The first time I kissed a male it was electric. Now, the concept nauseates and confuses me at the same time. I haven't kissed anyone in years.

[Nakedbones]

The first time I kissed someone I actually thought it was pretty gross...the fact that I didn't really like the guy probably had a lot to do with it (I just wanted to know what a kiss felt like)

However, the first time I kissed my bf was amazing. It made my head spin.

[FallenAngel]

Mine was kinda lame....

A dude I was datin decided he wanted to kiss me on our third day goin out without tellin me or warnin me first. So uh... He kinda moved in, and I panicked and turned my head to the side. Then he kissed my cheek. And then I felt so bad that I shot him down so I kinda lunged at him and kissed him. But then it wasn't... interesting at all so I kinda dumped him right after. My first and only relationship *sigh*

Reminds me of the first time I almost got kissed, but didn't. It was my 15th birthday. My boyfriend at the time (we broke up later, but now we're back together lol) pulled me into the staircase at school and gave me my present, which were two roses and said something really romantic, along the lines of "one rose represents me and one represents you. You can put this in your locker so that you can see it everyday and know how much I care about you." And then he leaned in to kiss me. I have no idea why, but I turned my head to the side a little. I think it was because of nerves or something; I don't know. He ended up kissing the inner portion of my cheek, like between my left cheek and my mouth.

It would've been a nice first kiss....

[Norboo]

Also, being Christian, most people 'save themselves for marriage', since I will not be having sex anytime in this lifetime, kissing seems to be the only thing to 'save'.

I'm not saying this is the best way to do things, it's just personal preference I suppose.[/font]

That is so sweet. That is how I felt about kissing in my teens. Although, I think that is the best way to go, especially if it the "furthest" you can go in this lifetime. And it will also prove that they must really like you to wait that long.

I have no idea if I would enjoy kissing, but even if the first kiss is bad, it doesn't mean that all future kisses will be bad. I use to hate the idea of marriage or even being stuck with some girl when I was a kid and always kept imagining myself being some bald guy with glasses living on some remote part of the world when I am 50. Then I realized that maybe I should give myself to somebody even if I don't want to and just kept trying to modify my thoughts and like years later, I liked the idea of marriage and being bonded with a girl even though I still hadn't hit puberty by then. So I think a person really wants to modify how they feel about something, then it is not impossible to not like kissing if you just learn to like the idea of it as being a form of bonding. Only reason I even modified my mind to like the idea of being bonded with a girl was because I didn't really see anything wrong with it like I do with porn and I also saw that it would benefit the girl somehow and that my dislike was purely neutral preference and not from a moral point of view.

With the way I am presently, if I did get a girlfriend, and she was open to the idea of doing something like kissing, I would probably kiss her when she is still my girlfriend rather than waiting but not because it is a better way but just because girlfriend would be the highest I would go as it would be "marriage" to me. So if a girl was my girlfriend, it would be because that is the girl I decided to be with forever. I still think something like waiting until you are truly bonded through something like marriage is the way to go.

[Rounx]

I'm going to have another one of the rare answers, in which I actually enjoyed my first kiss.

It was Canada Day, and I was 18, so it must have been July 1, 2004. One of my best friends, E, and I had been seriously crushing on each other for months. We both knew it but were too shy to do anything about it.

It was a sleepover celebration in her backyard. There were about seven of us in a giant tent, and we'd all had a little bit of alcohol; not much though. It was kind of fun, having a little bit to drink underage. Being a 'rebel' and all that, haha. Anyway, we all started up a game of Truth or Dare at 4 in the morning or so. Eventually my other best friend, B, who was fed up watching us dance around each other for months, just dared us to kiss each other.

E and I glanced at each other and then she crawled over in the tent. I was still lying down on my back, so she straddled me and kissed me. I was incredibly nervous, but at the same time, excited. I remember, my arm came up of its own accord and slid around her neck. We must have made out for at least half a minute.

That was my first kiss and it was French, no less. We really surprised the others because they expected a fast, chaste kiss. ^^

Aww ;3 That is so cute.

Also, being Christian, most people 'save themselves for marriage', since I will not be having sex anytime in this lifetime, kissing seems to be the only thing to 'save'.

I'm not saying this is the best way to do things, it's just personal preference I suppose.

That is so sweet. That is how I felt about kissing in my teens. Although, I think that is the best way to go, especially if it the "furthest" you can go in this lifetime. And it will also prove that they must really like you to wait that long.

Thank-you ,&he is definitely willing to wait. He offered to be friends till I was ready to date (he used 2 years as an example). And, he's okay with kissing being as far as we go.

[Norboo]

I'm going to have another one of the rare answers, in which I actually enjoyed my first kiss.

It was Canada Day, and I was 18, so it must have been July 1, 2004. One of my best friends, E, and I had been seriously crushing on each other for months. We both knew it but were too shy to do anything about it.

It was a sleepover celebration in her backyard. There were about seven of us in a giant tent, and we'd all had a little bit of alcohol; not much though. It was kind of fun, having a little bit to drink underage. Being a 'rebel' and all that, haha. Anyway, we all started up a game of Truth or Dare at 4 in the morning or so. Eventually my other best friend, B, who was fed up watching us dance around each other for months, just dared us to kiss each other.

E and I glanced at each other and then she crawled over in the tent. I was still lying down on my back, so she straddled me and kissed me. I was incredibly nervous, but at the same time, excited. I remember, my arm came up of its own accord and slid around her neck. We must have made out for at least half a minute.

That was my first kiss and it was French, no less. We really surprised the others because they expected a fast, chaste kiss. ^^

Aww ;3 That is so cute.

Also, being Christian, most people 'save themselves for marriage', since I will not be having sex anytime in this lifetime, kissing seems to be the only thing to 'save'.

I'm not saying this is the best way to do things, it's just personal preference I suppose.

That is so sweet. That is how I felt about kissing in my teens. Although, I think that is the best way to go, especially if it the "furthest" you can go in this lifetime. And it will also prove that they must really like you to wait that long.

Thank-you ,&he is definitely willing to wait. He offered to be friends till I was ready to date (he used 2 years as an example). And, he's okay with kissing being as far as we go.

That is sweet indeed. I wish you both the best. You're very lucky to get somebody like that! I hope you guys have a wonderful life.

That reminds me of this girl in highschool that had her boyfriend since she was 13, and when I met her again in college, she was already married to him. :lol: I told her that I had always admired her relationship through out highschool, [being in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship since before that far back!? It's pretty amazing!] IT was the only relationship that I ever saw in any of my classes that didn't end! Most people in highschool weren't even able to last a week in a relationship. Also, she was also a very smart and clear headed person. She wasn't like other girls who worried about trivial things and wasn't into vanity. So I was very happy that she was still with the same guy years after highschool and she seemed pretty happy too. I also remember something interesting that she did in highschool, she had an album of photos of her and her boyfriend that goes back years. It was cute. Its kind of neat that there are people like that and I'm happy to have at least seen that kind of pair in this world.

So yeah, knowing about these kind of stories makes me happy. :lol: