articvibe Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 More and more i find my friends coming to me for advice on relationships and in general the person of the opposite sex about how they think what particualr mannerisims mean and so on so forth. I dont particularly mind i find the entire thing fairly amusing but i was woundering if anyone else was in the same boat people coming to you for realtionship advice a gender translator or coming to you after a bad break up or someting like that. In essence are there anyother asexuals out there who are effectively sexual mediums bridging the stupid sexual divides that they seem so intent on creating between the gender types. Link to post Share on other sites
Whynotbeme2 Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 I am quite non-judgmental and ...well, awesome... but I do find myself the person people call about their sexual irregularities... but they did that before I realized I was ace. I guess I just have a sage visage. Its probably the sideburns. Link to post Share on other sites
Dara_Effe' Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 No, I don't have that problem, but I'm pretty new to all of this anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Marco - Proprietor of Doom Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 Those who can't do; teach. Link to post Share on other sites
Fireflies Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 All the time. My friends call me, rant to me. It's probably just because I hate telling them to shut up. But I do think I give good advice. Link to post Share on other sites
randakinley Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 yeah. my friends all do that to me. they did that to me before and even more now that they know i am asexual, at least the ones that know i am. i swear, it is like they think that since i don't really have any interest in them then i have an unbiased opinion and therefore am more legit and would have better advice than sexual people. i don't get it, but apparently my advice has helped many people so whatever. Link to post Share on other sites
FallenAngel Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 I used to be known as the relationship help girl. Thank god they never asked about sex though because I wouldn't be able to help them there haha Link to post Share on other sites
Fi_Loubet Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 I've mentioned this in another thread recently, but: I actually get quite a lot of my friends asking for my advice, they seem to think that my asexuality gives me a certain objectivity; and makes my advice somehow superior. I always try to qualify my advice with 'this is how it looks from outside' and similar disclaimers. Link to post Share on other sites
knout Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 I can't say I have people asking me about that, but one specific friend do it all the time. And he says I'm pretty good at it, although I've never had a relationship, it still feels good to help :) Link to post Share on other sites
. . .but there are sounds Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 Yeah, actually. Though, not just for relationships, something about me seems to provoke people to tell me their problems. I don't feel that my advice is particularly sage, but I don't mind. Link to post Share on other sites
In_Omnia_Paratus Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 My friends ask me for help all the time and I'm like "I really don't know how good this advice is going to be...considering" but they ignore that, Apparently I'm really good at giving advice...so they keep coming back :D It's nice to feel needed :D Link to post Share on other sites
annwyl_cariad Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 I basically always get those kinds of questions, and always have, even before I started identifying as ace. Especially as it became increasingly clear to others around me that I was totally uninterested in sex, they ask me because they know I'll give a purely rational answer. It's like, if they want a lovey-dovey answer, they'll go to someone else, but if they want the cold, hard, unsugarcoated truth, they'll come to me. When one of my best friends came to me for help last weekend, I believe she used the phrase "you're unclouded by like, emotions and hormones and stuff." Which wasn't exactly true, as I was metaphorical inches away from clawing the eyes out of the douchey guy that was pressuring her for sex...but I know she meant romantic emotions. Thankfully, no one ever asks me for sex advice. While I do believe I'm qualified to give advice about interpersonal relationships and how one human being should treat another, they all know I am absolutely unqualified to help them spice up their sex lives. XD Link to post Share on other sites
sunny_girl Posted November 6, 2009 Share Posted November 6, 2009 Yup! I seem to be the go-to person, which I find really amusing, but oh well~ But, just because they come to me for advice doesn't mean that they necessarily take it. *sigh* Link to post Share on other sites
Jillianimal Posted November 6, 2009 Share Posted November 6, 2009 My cousin came to me once about problems with her bf since she didn't have anyone to turn to at the time, really needed to talk & we're really close. I told her that I probably wasn't the best person to give advice on relationships. She said I might've been the best person to ask since my mind wasn't blurred by being in relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
articvibe Posted November 11, 2009 Author Share Posted November 11, 2009 Those who can't do; teach. Haha yeah 21-15 thanks for voting people i thought there would have been more yes' because im apparently a mini relationship guru but meh i think its just because im an imparshal observer asexy power peoples and to all my voters :cake::cake::cake::cake::cake::cake::cake::cake::cake::cake::cake::cake::cake::cake::cake::cake::cake::cake: Link to post Share on other sites
prettyeyes Posted November 11, 2009 Share Posted November 11, 2009 I am definetly my friends' go-to person for relationship advice and sometimes sex advice. I guess they can tell I'm not blinded by "Omg sex sex sex" and that I fail to get googly-eyes over romance. Link to post Share on other sites
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