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A male sexual friend of mine was talking about how most people watch porn. Guys and girls.

Since I live in my asexual bubble, I found that kind of surprising. I mean, not to say I was so naive as to think no one watched it. I've always been aware that people watch porn, obviously. But I didn't really think they watched it that much. Do they? :unsure: Or that apparently the majority of people watch it...?

I've never watched porn myself. Basically I've just never felt the want/need to, never been curious at all. (Then again I'm ace, so there you go.) There are better things to do with my time. So I probably just assumed (once again, and incorrectly) that most people my age were like me.

So, just a question. What are some of the reasons people watch porn? Apart from the obvious of course, which is using porn to get off. :rolleyes:

My friend mentioned that one of the reasons guys watch porn is that (in his words) "you won't be as lost or unsure what to do", referring to real life situations, I suppose. Okay, so people watch porn to...learn? :huh: But then, why would you want to learn erm "actions" and/or "techniques" that you see in porn? I thought porn was supposed to be really exaggerated and icky. Not exactly the romantic stuff you'd want to re-enact with your SO in real life.

Or is my impression of porn all wrong?

And do other asexuals watch it?

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So, just a question. What are some of the reasons people watch porn? Apart from the obvious of course, which is using porn to get off. :rolleyes:

My friend mentioned that one of the reasons guys watch porn is that (in his words) "you won't be as lost or unsure what to do", referring to real life situations, I suppose. Okay, so people watch porn to...learn? :huh: But then, why would you want to learn erm "actions" and/or "techniques" that you see in porn? I thought porn was supposed to be really exaggerated and icky. Not exactly the romantic stuff you'd want to re-enact with your SO in real life.

Or is my impression of porn all wrong?

And do other asexuals watch it?

I've only seen a bit of porn... not nearly to the excess that many people do these days.

I'd say that the primary reason would be that it turns people on and some people can "place" themselves in the situation. As for the learning aspect... if you really wanted to learn you would seek other options than porn videos. At one point I watched a series of documentaries online that were aimed at instruction, increasing communication and "how to be a better/less selfish lover." It was a BBC documentary if my memory suits me correctly... anyways, I was curious as to the whys and also I wanted to better prepare myself to be able to please a partner, since I wasn't horribly interested in having sex myself. It showed scenes with people having sex, but it was much more tasteful and educational than having the pizzaman knock on the door while the husband was out :P

There is a huge variety of porn out there... but I would say that most people probably don't watch it for educational purposes, and if they do, there's probably a much better places to be learning...

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Hmm.. Female and sexual here. I watched porn at first because I was under the assumption that it was something that was supposed to be and would be sexually arousing.

It was not. I laughed my ass off at how ludicrous the scenes were. How silly some things. How there was no way that something was even possible and that there was no way it felt good. And OMG did you see that guys penis bend? he's having a hard time keeping hard! LOL.

So I guess the people that watch it so often are people who dont get sex in real life.. And if they are using pornos as a way to "relate" or "learn" Well... They are going to be really dissapointed when the girl slaps the shit out of them for cumming in her face. They wont be able to understand why their girl has no desire to do the positions and things that porno girls do.. Cause lets face it.. Sex standing up in stilettos is NOT gonna be comfortable.

So now I stick to hentai. Hentai is animated porn. Its a lot funnier than real porn and a lot of the time it features actual STORY and artwork. I prefer drawn nudity over real nudity, actually.. Drawn nudity can be more erotic in a fantasy sense.. and There is just some stunningly beautiful artwork out there.

So currently.. I guess you could say I love the art.

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Why do people watch cooking shows instead of actually cooking?

Why do people watch sports instead of going out and playing them?

Why do people spend time listening to music instead of playing it?

Why do people watch dramas on television or read novels or go to the theatre instead of interacting with other people?

Why do people read travel mags instead of travelling?

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we're an instant gratification society. Our microwaves, modems etc can never be fast enough and that includes our wanting to see people "score" without courtship

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Hmm.. Female and sexual here. I watched porn at first because I was under the assumption that it was something that was supposed to be and would be sexually arousing.

It was not. I laughed my ass off at how ludicrous the scenes were. How silly some things. How there was no way that something was even possible and that there was no way it felt good. And OMG did you see that guys penis bend? he's having a hard time keeping hard! LOL.

So I guess the people that watch it so often are people who dont get sex in real life.. And if they are using pornos as a way to "relate" or "learn" Well... They are going to be really dissapointed when the girl slaps the shit out of them for cumming in her face. They wont be able to understand why their girl has no desire to do the positions and things that porno girls do.. Cause lets face it.. Sex standing up in stilettos is NOT gonna be comfortable.

So in essence, people are too dumb to know that what they're looking at isn't real life, and that real sex in the real world isn't like that.

(Suddenly sees the irony of me talking about real sex in the real world.)

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Hmm.. Female and sexual here. I watched porn at first because I was under the assumption that it was something that was supposed to be and would be sexually arousing.

It was not. I laughed my ass off at how ludicrous the scenes were. How silly some things. How there was no way that something was even possible and that there was no way it felt good. And OMG did you see that guys penis bend? he's having a hard time keeping hard! LOL.

So I guess the people that watch it so often are people who dont get sex in real life.. And if they are using pornos as a way to "relate" or "learn" Well... They are going to be really dissapointed when the girl slaps the shit out of them for cumming in her face. They wont be able to understand why their girl has no desire to do the positions and things that porno girls do.. Cause lets face it.. Sex standing up in stilettos is NOT gonna be comfortable.

So in essence, people are too dumb to know that what they're looking at isn't real life, and that real sex in the real world isn't like that.

(Suddenly sees the irony of me talking about real sex in the real world.)

Not necessarily. I think people are more than capable of taking an intelligent view of what they are watching, and knowing what's real and what's fake/fantasy.

As for using porn to learn, I don't think any sufficiently mature person would expect that if they tried some move they saw in porn that they're guaranteed the same result. But they may get inspired to try or to suggest something different to see how their partner likes it. If they do, something gained. If not, then you've learned something - even if it's something to avoid in the future.

Still, I certainly agree with the idea that porn caters to the tastes of those who don't get the sex they want in real life, whether that because they are unattractive or unskilled, or have a difficult to cater for kink, or a partner whose likes are different to their own.

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I read today that it's because of reproductive strategy and is based on nature. Many animals have a reaction to watching others our their species mating.

If 2 birds are mating and another male bird sees this, this male will violently disrupt the mating process and then mate with the female himself.

So in watching pornography, sexual men will by nature prepare an orgasm. Not that men that watch porn consciously know they are doing it for this reason. Obviously mating isn't happening here, but it is arousing, which is the appeal.

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I think most people start watching it for educational purposes, when they've just started exploring their sexuality and want to know how things work... After that, I suppose they keep watching it out of habit or because it does get them aroused. I dunno... the only times that I've watched it were out of curiosity or intrigue. It's a sort of "wow, people actually get a kick out of this or that, I wonder why?" or if I get something explained to me and I still don't understand how it works... anatomically... People also tell me that it stays interesting because there are different varieties and always different people, but I really don't get that. To me, one is the same as the next.

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Most sexual people I know claim that porn is pretty uninteresting (and I do too - but it can be kind of cool, there was this one thing with pterodactyls that was pretty hilarious).

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Cause lets face it.. Sex standing up in stilettos is NOT gonna be comfortable.

TMI!!!!!!!

I've had sex standing up in stilettos and it was HOT.

/TMI

I occasionally like to watch porn. I'm not really sure why, but it is sometimes just what you want... And some porn is definitely better than others. I tend to like the amateur stuff better than the actual "professionally" done porn. It's not as fake, and sometimes looks like something you'd actually want to do with another person.

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Cause lets face it.. Sex standing up in stilettos is NOT gonna be comfortable.

TMI!!!!!!!

I've had sex standing up in stilettos and it was HOT.

/TMI

I occasionally like to watch porn. I'm not really sure why, but it is sometimes just what you want... And some porn is definitely better than others. I tend to like the amateur stuff better than the actual "professionally" done porn. It's not as fake, and sometimes looks like something you'd actually want to do with another person.

I never got the stiletto part, <_< . I suppose you like to wathc porn sometimes like I like to read erotic novels mow and then. Kind makes me almost want sex but the feeling vanishes quickly.

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Same reason people watch any kind of film: for kicks.

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Hentai or anime porn of any kind doesn't usually bother me. Real life porn though freaks me out and I'm usually mentally scarred for a little while when I accidentally see it. I hate real life porn....

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I occasionally watch it just to deal with me sex drive, but it's not that often, just because I'm Grey-Ace and not full Ace.

I just figure most people watch it because it's "hot" and lets them fantasize about it or something. That or they're just bored and it makes them un-bored and very "happy".

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As for using porn to learn, I don't think any sufficiently mature person would expect that if they tried some move they saw in porn that they're guaranteed the same result. But they may get inspired to try or to suggest something different to see how their partner likes it. If they do, something gained. If not, then you've learned something - even if it's something to avoid in the future.

Still, I certainly agree with the idea that porn caters to the tastes of those who don't get the sex they want in real life, whether that because they are unattractive or unskilled, or have a difficult to cater for kink, or a partner whose likes are different to their own.

Ahh.. It might have been highschool and highschoolers are considered immature.. But I knew people who did think that Porn was how things really worked >.< So that comment about people being idiots trying to learn from porn was actually based off real life experiances. Sorry if it seems a bit broad and narrow minded.. But I honestly have had to deal with people going "What? It doesnt happen that way?!"

Cause lets face it.. Sex standing up in stilettos is NOT gonna be comfortable.

TMI!!!!!!!

I've had sex standing up in stilettos and it was HOT.

/TMI

LOL. But was it -comfortable-? And Now Im suddenly wondering if maybe the Stilettos might force you to stand or balance yourself in such a way as to force a position that caters to more feeling in sex? Ill never try it, but now I'll always wonder.

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As for using porn to learn, I don't think any sufficiently mature person would expect that if they tried some move they saw in porn that they're guaranteed the same result. But they may get inspired to try or to suggest something different to see how their partner likes it. If they do, something gained. If not, then you've learned something - even if it's something to avoid in the future.

Still, I certainly agree with the idea that porn caters to the tastes of those who don't get the sex they want in real life, whether that because they are unattractive or unskilled, or have a difficult to cater for kink, or a partner whose likes are different to their own.

Ahh.. It might have been highschool and highschoolers are considered immature.. But I knew people who did think that Porn was how things really worked >.< So that comment about people being idiots trying to learn from porn was actually based off real life experiances. Sorry if it seems a bit broad and narrow minded.. But I honestly have had to deal with people going "What? It doesnt happen that way?!"

I don't doubt that some people do :) (especially highschoolers :rolleyes: )

Cause lets face it.. Sex standing up in stilettos is NOT gonna be comfortable.

TMI!!!!!!!

I've had sex standing up in stilettos and it was HOT.

/TMI

LOL. But was it -comfortable-? And Now Im suddenly wondering if maybe the Stilettos might force you to stand or balance yourself in such a way as to force a position that caters to more feeling in sex? Ill never try it, but now I'll always wonder.

TMI

High heels certainly help if the man is taller than the woman. (Or so I've heard :unsure::ph34r: :P)

/TMI

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Urgh... porn is just about the most disgusting thing in the world... >< Okay, so I've never actually seen any, but I've heard it before. (I was trying to close my eyes and cover my ears as much as possible.) Where the heck do those squelching sounds come from? And why is the girl screaming curses the whole way through? Is that stuff really hot for some people? o_o

Excuse me while I puke, please.

Yaoi doesn't bother me, though. At least, the non-graphic stuff. I like shonen-ai and too often the genres overlap. As long as they only show the faces or something (which happens a lot) I can watch it without wanting to regurgitate.

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Why people watch porn, much like why people watch anything, varies. My typical experience has been that a lot of people, if not most, watch it to arouse themselves and from there they masturbate. In this way they start to wire their minds to associate porn with the pleasure of an orgasm, which makes the bond that much stronger.

Now, as far as people using it to learn, this can indeed happen. When I say learn I mean in the sense that there are different techniques and positions that perhaps you and your partner would have never thought of but you saw on a video and decided to try it out in person. If that happens and it works then fantastic, you just learned from porn. Unfortunately, there are people who think that is the way sex is supposed to be and those people will be very disappointed. Sometimes it can be just like in the porn but at that point it's the fantasy becoming reality. Either the two partners have agreed to do it that way and engage in that kind of sex or, possibly, both partners have watched porn and had such limited/bad experiences with partners and they feel that's how it's supposed to be. In that later case that's just very sad.

For those of you out there who are very much ace and don't know what sexual attraction is like this is going to be something very hard to understand. You will look at porn and only be able to analyze it for the actions on the surface since you can't feel what those actions are supposed to bring out in viewers. Porn like anything else has better and worse examples available if something seems comical to you it may seem that way to everyone (and indeed, that may be the point, there is a whole stream of comedy porn). Maybe what they do on there looks gross to you but just remember that there are people out there who will see that and not only be aroused they may actually love what's going on and wish it would happen to them. There are just too many ways a person can feel pleasure and everyone has a different benchmark.

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I assume that sexual people do just watch it to get themselves aroused, before they either masturbate or have sex - I know some couples watch porn together; even if they're in a relationship and getting real-life sex, it still doesn't seem to remove the need for/enjoyment of porn. Like you, I'm sometimes surprised at how many people habitually watch it just like any other entertainment.

Porn involving women makes me feel sick (female here). Gay male porn is different and doesn't bother me per se - but it's usually boring because of the total lack of emotion. If you were sexual, just the physical action alone would be enough to be of interest, but if you do actually get mental enjoyment from the idea of male/male but need it to mean something... there's not much there for you. It's just mechanical.

I do admit, though, that I recently watched one gay series of movies. The two main guys were very cute, seemed into each other, and within the movies, there was a little plotline where they were actually supposed to be falling in love. Although I still got bored as usual with a lot of the mindless action and fast-forwarded through it, some of the making out and foreplay was quite nice.

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As for using porn to learn, I don't think any sufficiently mature person would expect that if they tried some move they saw in porn that they're guaranteed the same result. But they may get inspired to try or to suggest something different to see how their partner likes it. If they do, something gained. If not, then you've learned something - even if it's something to avoid in the future.

Still, I certainly agree with the idea that porn caters to the tastes of those who don't get the sex they want in real life, whether that because they are unattractive or unskilled, or have a difficult to cater for kink, or a partner whose likes are different to their own.

Ahh.. It might have been highschool and highschoolers are considered immature.. But I knew people who did think that Porn was how things really worked >.< So that comment about people being idiots trying to learn from porn was actually based off real life experiances. Sorry if it seems a bit broad and narrow minded.. But I honestly have had to deal with people going "What? It doesnt happen that way?!"

Cause lets face it.. Sex standing up in stilettos is NOT gonna be comfortable.

TMI!!!!!!!

I've had sex standing up in stilettos and it was HOT.

/TMI

LOL. But was it -comfortable-? And Now Im suddenly wondering if maybe the Stilettos might force you to stand or balance yourself in such a way as to force a position that caters to more feeling in sex? Ill never try it, but now I'll always wonder.

I don't actually think *comfort* was much on my mind, to be honest. :P

And why wouldn't you try it? (Not saying you should or shouldn't, but I'm just curious.)

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I myself don't understand what others see in porn, but oh well. If they like watching it, I'd say let them. As long as they drag me into it, theirs no problem with me. Maybe sexual people see it differently.

~ToAsT

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I was also naive enough to think that most people don't watch porn regularly. Now I'm going to be looking at people on the bus and so on and thinking "I wonder if s/he watches porn?" <_<

I don't watch it on my own but I have watched it on occasion with friends: not hardcore stuff but old-fashioned, '70s/'80s porn. The ludicrous costumes and bad acting are actually rather funny when you're drunk/in the right frame of mind. All the moaning and groaning is offputting though. It's also one of the things that puts me right off the idea of real sex.

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Lol...I tried watching the porn 'Pirates' one time, because people had told me it was really funny. I could only watch about 20 minutes of it, because the acting was so horrible! I couldn't stand all the stilted and forced lines.

The sex itself didn't much bother me, it was almost like watching an informative film (or maybe that's just the state of mind I was in). I've seen far worse in my Health class. At least these bodily bits weren't covered with oozing sores...bleh...the grossest thing was the women's boobs, they were so huge and obviously fake, they looked diseased.

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LimeTreeArbour

i know all about it being a young lad - ive seen a bit but it does nothing for me; my best mate is well into it though

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-Porn could be a useful tool to help understand what's going through sexual people's heads when they're horny.

-And there are a few docu-porn films out there that have helped me learn a bit about non-asexual people's sexuality. -But films like that are few and far between. -Most of the porn out there is pretty horrible -and especially when it presents degrading imagery as 'sexy' to impressionable people, who then go on to use sex as a way of degrading people to get their own sadistic kicks.

-Only a comparatively tiny amount of porn is found to be erotic by women -mainly 'cos the vast majority of porn producers and directors are horrible exploitative men -who insist forcing their female stars to have massive boob jobs, -force them to swallow cum when they don't want to, -or insist on a male centred cumshot at the end of the movie.

Blehhh! Horrible!

Porn doesn't remotely turn me on but I'm open to watching porn, or other material deemed 'erotic' as a learning tool. -But I'll only do that if the material has first been deemed OK by feminists.

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As for the learning aspect... if you really wanted to learn you would seek other options than porn videos.

*cough* Wikipedia *cough*

Although, according to Conservapedia, Wikipedia is porn.

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