Guest Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 http://www.canoe.ca/Health9911/21_sex.html Yet another article to get your blood pressure up! Link to post Share on other sites
mindlife Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 I notice that these "sexual anorexics" "act out" with prostitutes or other games. These are not asexuals by any stretch of the imagination. The article makes me feel like an apple looking at an orange. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 I don't deny that there must be some people who are traumatized into "aversion desire disorder." However, I don't like 2 things in the article: 1. "I've seen men in their late 30s or early 40s who've never dated a woman, never kissed a woman or held her hand and never want to because they're so shut down sexually..." 2. They deliberately, silently starve themselves of sex -- and may not even know it. Both quotes imply that if you don't want to be sexual, you just don't realize that you have a problem. The article should only address people who are distressed by the fact that they can't participate in sexual acts. Link to post Share on other sites
fluffy_hime Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 Hehehe...an apple looking at an orange. Classic. The image is four apples, the word AND, and then four oranges, Mindlife. Link to post Share on other sites
mindlife Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 Graphic amplification. Cool. Link to post Share on other sites
ApolloSeek Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 This article has nothing whatsoever to do with asexuality. Reacting to it is a waste of time. Chill, Tressa. Link to post Share on other sites
Jayann Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 It's okay, Steve, she knows. The article should only address people who are distressed by the fact that they can't participate in sexual acts. See? It's all cool. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 Yeah, the article wasn't like "blind angry rage" level, I just thought they should specify that people with this disorder have to feel distress. I mean, saying "You might not even know you have it!" sounds pretty lame. I can just see some guillable businessman or housewife, rocking back and forth, thinking "Am I into sex enough?!" :lol: Just like those TV news shows that are like "We'll tell you what in your house can kill you, after these messages." Link to post Share on other sites
ApolloSeek Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 This was a pop pysch article. Hence the mild sensationalizing. Have to sell the magazines, you know. Link to post Share on other sites
Adnama Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 and now we're compareing sex and eating disorders, wonderful. Oy! Ahh well. Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 I think it's a pretty bad comparison; you can die from anorexia (keeping yourself from food is what comes to mind), but not from lack of sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Kombucha2000 Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 I think it's a pretty bad comparison; you can die from anorexia (keeping yourself from food is what comes to mind), but not from lack of sex. there are people out there who probably think you can die without sex :roll: Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 The thing about it that gets me is that line about not knowing it. Anorexics KNOW what they're doing. And I agree that it should be about people who are distressed by the fact that they have a low sex drive or whatever. It just sounds like something some guy could use. 'I read it in an article...You just don't know that you're sick! Get some therapy to be sexual!' Cate Link to post Share on other sites
Kombucha2000 Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 The thing about it that gets me is that line about not knowing it. Anorexics KNOW what they're doing. actually I've had brushes with eating disorders and other personality problems and I wasn't consciously aware of them. Several years ago I developed a compulsion for excerise, but it was very gradual. I was in my own little world exercising all of my free time. It was during the summer, and by the time fall came it had finally hit me when I was trying to figure out when to excerise around my class schedule, and had I kept to it, I wouldn't have had time to do homework. Scary thing. I've also had strict dietary patterns and tried not to sway away from them, but I made rational explanations for my behaviors, even though subconscious I must've known there was something wrong, but not consciously. Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 Huh. I've always been aware of when I was abusing myself. I suppose I thought other people knew what they were doing, but couldn't stop for whatever reason. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
Kombucha2000 Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 for me, it depended on what I was doing to myself. When it came to diet/excercise, I wasn't aware, and my mind would rationalize my behavior. But for other things I did, I knew what I was doing was wrong, but I didn't care. Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 But diet and exercise is good, right? :? Link to post Share on other sites
Silly Green Monkey Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 Proper diet with all nutrients present is good, exercise is good, but only as long as it's done for fitness and fun. Dieting and exercise only to lose weight isn't good, like compulsive exercise. Link to post Share on other sites
Kombucha2000 Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 everything in moderation.... Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 I just want to build up and look better. . . . Okay, and not have fat :P I do have fun when I exercise, though. Link to post Share on other sites
Kombucha2000 Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 I just want to build up and look better. do you have access to a gym? Weight training 2-3 times a week is ideal for muscle building. Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 I have a weight set, but mom won't let me take it upstairs. You never know, it might fall through the floor and land in the kitchen! I told her the weight of every single one of my desks and furniture weighs more than the set, but "I SAID NO AND THAT'S FINAL!" Come to think of it, she's away for three weeks . . . :twisted: Link to post Share on other sites
Kombucha2000 Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 are you able to use them downstairs? You can also work muscles without weights, like with push-ups, ab crunches, pull-ups, leg lifts, and there's also isometrics. Link to post Share on other sites
fluffy_hime Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 Just like those TV news shows that are like "We'll tell you what in your house can kill you, after these messages." :D Fear-mongering. Ever heard of The Culture of Fear by Barry Glassner? EDIT: Gorax, rather than taking the weights upstairs why don't you just...you know, go downstairs? Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFly Posted July 30, 2004 Share Posted July 30, 2004 i think this is my favorite moronic line in that article: deliberately, silently starve themselves of sex -- and may not even know it. it's deliberate.....but they dont know it? how the fuck does that work? yeah it's so deliberate they dont even know they are doing it? pffff furthermore..how stupid is it that she makes a comparison to eating disorders!!!!!...clearly not a very good mataphore!!!! how can you have a sexual purge? "expulsion of sex from your life" i would assume. I dont know anyone that binges and purges with sex. hmmm i want to go to a Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous Sexaholics Anonymous meeting i bet that would be interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted July 30, 2004 Share Posted July 30, 2004 You can also work muscles without weights, like with push-ups, ab crunches, pull-ups, leg lifts, and there's also isometrics. I do that already :mrgreen: Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted July 30, 2004 Share Posted July 30, 2004 Wanting to be strong and healthy is one thing. Being obsessed with weighing 12 pounds and having 2% body fat is another thing. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted July 30, 2004 Share Posted July 30, 2004 12 pounds . . . Hehe whoa. Assuming you meant 120 :D I'm trying not to go below 135. 2-5% body fat souns nice, though! Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted July 31, 2004 Share Posted July 31, 2004 No, I was being facetious. I meant 12. I weigh 120 lbs, so that doesn't seem too thin. My BMI is 19, so I'm still ok. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
Zorui Posted July 31, 2004 Share Posted July 31, 2004 I think it's a pretty bad comparison; you can die from anorexia (keeping yourself from food is what comes to mind), but not from lack of sex. there are people out there who probably think you can die without sex :roll: I don't know. But there are people who think going a month without sex drives one insane. Link to post Share on other sites
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