Fayetje Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 I didn't know there were so many people out there like me! :D Um...well,a little about me,I suppose? Well,I'm 16,and all throughout my younger teenage years I always considered myself sexual,because I guess I never really took the time to ponder it. I've had one or two crushes in my lifetime,but it wasn't 'til a few years ago that I realized I wasn't quite like everyone else. My friends are mostly female,as am I,and would always be talking about the latest celebrity heartthrob they were swooning over,and they wouldn't understand why I had no input in the conversation. "Hey,Chantal! Don't you think Josh Hartnett is cute?" "Well,he's...okay." I knew that I didn't really like boys,or girls,in that way;but I didn't think anything of it. Then,earlier this year,my mom started nagging me about not liking boys. She would always ask me if I thought anyone at school was cute,if I liked anyone in particular,etc. I would always say no. She would ask "Why not?" I told her I just didn't like anyone like that. She then would nag me about not dressing like the girl that I am. I said I didn't care about makeup or trendy clothes,that I'm not trying to impress anyone with my outward appearance. She often asks me if I think I'll ever get married and have kids,and I say no. Then she says, "Oh,well,I thought the same thing when I was your age,you'll change your mind later." I hate it when she says that! I am 70% sure she thinks I'm a lesbian in denial. This year I have proclaimed myself officially asexual. I'm not interested in sex or even romance,and I don't quite know why. Part of it,I think,is indeed my mom,who is very sexual and can't seem to live without her sexuality. Something about that,I think,has helped to turn me off to the whole concept. And,well,I guess I just have other things I like to do more; reading,writing,singing. I have other things on my mind than sex-and often one of those things is my favorite historical person,Lafayette,whom I call myself "obsessed" with,but everyone blows that out of proportion,and no one can seem to understand that my admiration for him is indeed platonic. Er...yeah,I think I've said enough. Maybe too much. I look forward to meeting everyone! ~Faye Link to post Share on other sites
junie99 Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Welcome to AVEN! :) Link to post Share on other sites
Live R Perfect Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Welcome to AVEN, Faye! :D Good to meet you, so to speak Link to post Share on other sites
Kombucha2000 Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Hello and welcome to AVEN, fayetje! my mom started nagging me about not liking boys. She would always ask me if I thought anyone at school was cute,if I liked anyone in particular,etc. I would always say no. She would ask "Why not?" I told her I just didn't like anyone like that. She then would nag me about not dressing like the girl that I am. I said I didn't care about makeup or trendy clothes,that I'm not trying to impress anyone with my outward appearance. She often asks me if I think I'll ever get married and have kids,and I say no. Then she says, "Oh,well,I thought the same thing when I was your age,you'll change your mind later." I hate it when she says that! I am 70% sure she thinks I'm a lesbian in denial. yeah, I can relate and I'm sure a lot of people here can too. I sometimes get that from my mom. Especially with the future family bit. I just roll my eyes when she asks me when I'm going to have kids :roll: She's not too bad about it though. Well, make yourself at home and have some cake Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Hello! :D My mother has only recently been doing that, 'So...is so-and-so a good friend?' thing trying to figure out if I'm dating anyone. Personally I find it inappropriate that she's asking in the first place. WE won't ask you if you're dating anyone! Sit down and have a chat! Cate Link to post Share on other sites
Kez Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Hiya! My mum used to bug me as well, 'So, met any nice men at uni?' 'Sure mum, they're all nice!' Link to post Share on other sites
mindlife Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 I have other things on my mind than sex-and often one of those things is my favorite historical person,Lafayette,whom I call myself "obsessed" with,but everyone blows that out of proportion,and no one can seem to understand that my admiration for him is indeed platonic. Woh! You have wonderful taste. Did I tell you I've never outgrown crushes? I've got the hots for Hawthorne, and there's a piece of my heart hovering over Poe's house in the Bronx to boot! Welcome to AVEN! Link to post Share on other sites
Shockwave Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Hello and welcome to AVEN. Link to post Share on other sites
cijay Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Hi Faye! Good to see you've found your way here, make yourself at home. when it gets to be too much, just pose the opposite to your mother. Ask her how she'd like it if you suddenly expected her to lead an asexual life. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Hello and welcome to AVEN! Ouch, the dreaded "you'll change your mind when you're older" response. I get that from both my parents. It's really, "you'll one day see things the RIGHT way." :P Hang in there and have some Link to post Share on other sites
fluffy_hime Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Welcome! Link to post Share on other sites
JimmyJ Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Yeah, my parents think that I am sleeping with my best friend ( I guess that guys and girls can't be friends without sex) and I went away for the weekend with another female friend and my parents said that Laura (my best friend) would get jealous and get mad at me for cheating on her. When they say comments about sex of relationshps I just say 'whatever' and walk away. Link to post Share on other sites
dabishop Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 La Fayette entered the French Army at the age of 14. He was nineteen and a captain of dragoons when the British colonies in America proclaimed their independence. At the first news of this quarrel, he afterwards wrote in his memoirs, "my heart was enrolled in it." Can't think of a better infatuation, offhand! Sounds like you've already done some good work in sorting out the oppositional emotions from the true beliefs. We're here to help you in the discovery and doing of that maddeningly elusive "your own thing" thing. Welcome! Link to post Share on other sites
wombat Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 BOOYA! How you doing! Welcome to AVEN! SHIZAM! Wow....this dance is really gonna be tough...I don't even know how to pronounce your name....minor set back. I think it sounds somewhat like "lafayette" so it souts like FAY ET JUH Maybe? OH WELL, CAUSE HERE WE GO! *Does the WoMBaT Dance!* We got another one! We got another one! 16, and asexy, this lady's not out to get sha, Lafayette is her hero, so welcome fayetje! BOOYA! *applause!* Welcome to AVEN! Link to post Share on other sites
Ellen Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Um...well,a little about me Welcome to AVEN Faye. Link to post Share on other sites
Chuk Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Welcome to AVEN!! Hope the situation with your mom improves... sounds like a pain. In the meantime, you can always take refuge here. Link to post Share on other sites
silentcrow Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 Faye: Welcome to Aven! :D I suppose Faye is a nickname? If not, who is Chantal? naissur9: What a great Avatar...hee-hee. Link to post Share on other sites
GaliGwogi Posted July 12, 2004 Share Posted July 12, 2004 welcome to AVEN, Faye! :) This year I have proclaimed myself officially asexual. I'm not interested in sex or even romance,and I don't quite know why. Part of it,I think,is indeed my mom,who is very sexual and can't seem to live without her sexuality. Something about that,I think,has helped to turn me off to the whole concept. Interesting. My parents seem to be in the hyposexual range as far as I can tell, so I wonder if that has influenced me? But other habits held by my parents have helped turn me away from them personally, too. (Sorry, my brain is currently too lazy to write that more clearly) I have other things on my mind than sex-and often one of those things is my favorite historical person,Lafayette,whom I call myself "obsessed" with,but everyone blows that out of proportion,and no one can seem to understand that my admiration for him is indeed platonic. For what it's worth, I can relate to having Platonic obsessions. I think deep reverence for one historical person can (often but not always i guess) be a healthy and educational thing, and enriches many peoples lives when creatively developed. honest i've seen it happen. Too bad if people misinterpret it, maybe they be envious of your favor. :) glad you're here! take care, laura Link to post Share on other sites
Fayetje Posted July 12, 2004 Author Share Posted July 12, 2004 Posted: Sun Jul 11 5:19 pm Post subject: For the debt of honor for General Lafayette....izzard moment -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- BOOYA! How you doing! Welcome to AVEN! SHIZAM! Wow....this dance is really gonna be tough...I don't even know how to pronounce your name....minor set back. I think it sounds somewhat like "lafayette" so it souts like FAY ET JUH Maybe? OH WELL, CAUSE HERE WE GO! *Does the WoMBaT Dance!* We got another one! We got another one! 16, and asexy, this lady's not out to get sha, Lafayette is her hero, so welcome fayetje! :lol: Thank you! I don't know quite how to pronounce it. I'll have to ask my friend why she tacked a -tje onto "Faye". Link to post Share on other sites
Fayetje Posted July 12, 2004 Author Share Posted July 12, 2004 I suppose Faye is a nickname? If not, who is Chantal? Yeah,Chantal is my real name. I don't respond to it too well online,though. o_o Link to post Share on other sites
Fayetje Posted July 12, 2004 Author Share Posted July 12, 2004 Thanks for all the warm welcomes,everyone! ^_^ Link to post Share on other sites
Kez Posted July 12, 2004 Share Posted July 12, 2004 La Fayette entered the French Army at the age of 14. He was nineteen and a captain of dragoons when the British colonies in America proclaimed their independence. At the first news of this quarrel, he afterwards wrote in his memoirs, "my heart was enrolled in it." I saw 'dragoons' and went 'since when did France have dragons?' :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
Carsonspire Posted July 12, 2004 Share Posted July 12, 2004 Welcome to AVEN, Faye! Link to post Share on other sites
kala Posted July 12, 2004 Share Posted July 12, 2004 welcome.. welcome Link to post Share on other sites
alexparker Posted July 13, 2004 Share Posted July 13, 2004 WELCOME! Wow, your story is so much like mine I can't hardly believe it. Have some ! Link to post Share on other sites
Jordan Posted July 13, 2004 Share Posted July 13, 2004 Howdy, Faye! :D Link to post Share on other sites
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