Incredibly Ace Moments

[rainbowocollie]

Hey, so. Does anyone else just tend to subconsciously assume others are aroace by default....? When I hear people talk about having a bf/gf or a "body count", I react with legitimate surprise.

[rainbowocollie]

10 minutes ago, colliethecollie said:

Hey, so. Does anyone else just tend to subconsciously assume others are aroace by default....? When I hear people talk about having a bf/gf or a "body count", I react with legitimate surprise.

Also, the first time I heard someone talk about a "body count", I was so confused. Like, wait....you've killed people? lmao

[spooky_moss]

On 11/21/2020 at 9:34 AM, J.Rose said:

I had a bit of a mythology phase because I was really into astronomy and constellations and ancient history. I remember researching on what it was like for women in Ancient Greece and Rome because that’s what we were learning about in school. I then found out about the Vestal Virgins that serve Vesta and can take a vow to stay unmarried virgins for their whole lives. Needless to say I was immediately like, « That’s what I would do. Man, I wish they had something like that now. » So, 12 year old me made a whole YouTube playlist with stuff about the Vestal Virgins and I straight up dressed as Vesta for Halloween. I feel like that should have been the first sign. 
 

TL;DR : Other girls had crushes in middle school, I wanted to swear a vow of virginity to a goddess. 

Haha, this makes me cackle because it's SO RELATABLE. It reminds me of how, in my high school history class, we had an assignment where we had to dress up and personify an ancient Greek god or goddess for a round of speed dating. It was a really fun project, and little aroace me who didn't yet know she was aroace was so excited to become Artemis for this project because "it'll be funny and ironic!". And now I realize that should have been sign # 892398 about my sexuality, LOL

[Cowgirl_Kat]

Moments that made me realize I was very ace:

-Telling all of my friends in middle school that celebrity crushes were stupid and there's no way a 20 something mega star would be interested in a 12 year old fan girl unless he was a creep.

-Being weirded out by One Direction or Justin Bieber obsessions

-Thinking shipping fictional characters or wanting to have sex with them was weird

-Being 100% grossed out by porn and very confused by the appeal

-That moment when I realized what "the carpets match the drapes" met😬

[I_Like_Art]

40 minutes ago, Cowgirl_Kat said:

or wanting to have sex with them was weird

PEOPLE WANT TO DO WHAT TO MY PLATONIC FICTIONAL BEST FRIENDS?!??

[hikarin]

1 hour ago, Cowgirl_Kat said:

Moments that made me realize I was very ace:

-Telling all of my friends in middle school that celebrity crushes were stupid and there's no way a 20 something mega star would be interested in a 12 year old fan girl unless he was a creep.

-Being weirded out by One Direction or Justin Bieber obsessions

-Thinking shipping fictional characters or wanting to have sex with them was weird

-Being 100% grossed out by porn and very confused by the appeal

-That moment when I realized what "the carpets match the drapes" met😬

Agree with all of those except for the shipping fictional characters part, since I somehow get that. I don't get shipping *yourself* or a self-insert with a fictional character though

 

I almost forgot people used to obsess over Justin Bieber. Never understood that, either. Are people into K-Pop stars for a similar reason?

[TrustTheCloak]

Reading content with more sexual thoughts/actions and thinking it is all overdone and exaggerated on purpose, and no one ACTUALLY thinks that stuff so much!

Apparently not...

Though to be fair, I don't believe I will ever really stop thinking this, at least while I am reading it

Edited December 1, 2020 by TrustTheCloak

[Sylvestra]

Anonymous internet conversation about sex in marriages:

 

S: If my wife cheated on me, I would not want to know about it. Nothing good can come of such a confession.

Me: How would you not notice that something is off if your wife cheated on you?

S: If she fell in love with someone else I would notice. But if she just had sex with a stranger because the opportunity arose I would not be able to tell.

Me: ...

[Dr. Mendo]

14 hours ago, Cowgirl_Kat said:

 

-Thinking shipping fictional characters or wanting to have sex with them was weird 

This has long driven me crazy like does the story have nothing better to offer for discussion than who should be in a relationship with whom? I do not see the appeal. 

[the great acescape]

On 11/30/2020 at 10:20 PM, spooky_moss said:

Haha, this makes me cackle because it's SO RELATABLE. It reminds me of how, in my high school history class, we had an assignment where we had to dress up and personify an ancient Greek god or goddess for a round of speed dating. It was a really fun project, and little aroace me who didn't yet know she was aroace was so excited to become Artemis for this project because "it'll be funny and ironic!". And now I realize that should have been sign # 892398 about my sexuality, LOL

I felt the same way about Artemis and also Athena. 

 

Also the speed dating assignment sounds kind of fun, assuming the point is that you're in character as a Greek God or Goddess the entire time. I'd have definitely dressed up as Athena. 

[Aiv]

On 11/29/2020 at 8:47 PM, colliethefurry said:

Hey, so. Does anyone else just tend to subconsciously assume others are aroace by default....? When I hear people talk about having a bf/gf or a "body count", I react with legitimate surprise.

Me.

This applies to characters in books too. But then when the protagonist meets this specific character and starts acting oddly and you can just feel the narrator singling them out...then I think something like "Oh, that's right. I know where this is going." Sometimes it really annoys me when they introduce a romance to the story, but I think now I've accepted the inevitability of it. And sometimes it feels like the right thing for the character, but other times a little more forced, that they're adding something completely unnecessary.

[spooky_moss]

4 hours ago, the great acescape said:

Also the speed dating assignment sounds kind of fun, assuming the point is that you're in character as a Greek God or Goddess the entire time. I'd have definitely dressed up as Athena. 

Yeah, that was the idea! The teacher for that class was one of the "fun teachers" at the school so there were a few really neat projects in that class. Athena would've been an awesome choice too, tbh - I'm personally partial to Artemis though 😉 Especially because she's associated with the moon (sooo pretty!) and greyhounds (one of my favourite dog breeds!)

[Aiv]

16 hours ago, spooky_moss said:

Yeah, that was the idea! The teacher for that class was one of the "fun teachers" at the school so there were a few really neat projects in that class. Athena would've been an awesome choice too, tbh - I'm personally partial to Artemis though 😉 Especially because she's associated with the moon (sooo pretty!) and greyhounds (one of my favourite dog breeds!)

Between Artemis and Athena? That would definitely be a hard choice for me. And then adding Hestia/Vesta into the mix as well.

[SunlitMoonlight]

On 11/29/2020 at 10:57 PM, colliethefurry said:

Also, the first time I heard someone talk about a "body count", I was so confused. Like, wait....you've killed people? lmao

YES SAME MY FRIEND I WAS LIKE "uuuuuuuuhhhh why are you talking about people you've killed in public???? where are the police??? law enforcement??? help???"

and also "Wait why does how many people they've killed something you would care about so lightly in a relationship if it were me i'd be kinda concerned that i was dating a serial killer..."

[Meowmocha]

On 11/29/2020 at 8:47 PM, colliethefurry said:

Hey, so. Does anyone else just tend to subconsciously assume others are aroace by default....?

In junior high and high school, some people talked about sexual stuff. But there were other people who were modest and didn't talk about stuff like that. I hung out with a lot of Christian girls, and they didn't really talk about stuff like that. My friend might mention she had a crush on So-and-so, but never said anything that would imply sexual attraction. If some of the people I hung out with lusting after people, I sure wasn't aware of it. Learning otherwise would have totally blown my mind. I kind of assumed some of the most modest people were probably like me. Plus I didn't even know what asexuality was until after I got out of high school.

 

On 11/30/2020 at 8:14 PM, Cowgirl_Kat said:

-Telling all of my friends in middle school that celebrity crushes were stupid and there's no way a 20 something mega star would be interested in a 12 year old fan girl unless he was a creep.

-Being weirded out by One Direction or Justin Bieber obsessions

-Thinking shipping fictional characters or wanting to have sex with them was weird

With people like music artists or actors, I thought it might be cool to meet them. But even with individuals that I found attractive, I just imagined chatting with them or hanging out. I didn't fantasize about dating them or anything.

And then there's the fictional characters people often have crushes on. Newt Scamander, for example. Sure, he has an adorable personality and appearance. But if I entered the wizarding world and met him, we'd just be nerding out about animals and magical creatures. While others might dream of going out with him, I'd be more interested in petting his gryphon.

I also don't get the whole 'screaming and freaking out' thing when in the presence of some attractive celebrity. Especially the fangirls who literally faint. (In general, I hate it when people are screaming at a concert. You paid to attend a concert so you could screech and drown out the music? There are some live versions of songs I don't like because there's so much screaming from the audience.)

[Aiv]

11 hours ago, Meowmocha said:

With people like music artists or actors, I thought it might be cool to meet them. But even with individuals that I found attractive, I just imagined chatting with them or hanging out. I didn't fantasize about dating them or anything.

And then there's the fictional characters people often have crushes on. Newt Scamander, for example. Sure, he has an adorable personality and appearance. But if I entered the wizarding world and met him, we'd just be nerding out about animals and magical creatures. While others might dream of going out with him, I'd be more interested in petting his gryphon.

Why would anyone go on a date when petting gryphons is the alternative? Darn it, now I want to pet a gryphon!!

[Aiv]

On 10/31/2020 at 9:50 AM, Wholock314 said:

I made a thing 🤷🏻‍♀️

 

Heres the link to the pattern for those interested: https://www.braceletbook.com/patterns/normal/21532/

🖤 🤍💜I am so making that!!!!🖤🤍💜

[Aiv]

On 11/3/2020 at 10:28 AM, I_Like_Art said:

Also, does anyone know of a petition to change the abbreviation bf to mean best friend instead of boyfriend? lol

It doesn't?!! Wow, I would totally sign that petition.

[FJO8]

just discovered this:

there is a *hot* character in One piece that is called Ace

found him by simply typing ace into my search engine lol

[TrustTheCloak]

HOLD ON

Wait... I just realized this

On dates, when they put a mint a mint mouth to freshen up...

That's not to make their breath smell okay?

It's so they will taste good if they kiss?? 

What!?

How have I not known this... T-T

[daveb]

20 minutes ago, TrustTheCloak said:

That's not to make their breath smell okay?

It's not? I didn't know that.

[TrustTheCloak]

1 minute ago, daveb said:

It's not? I didn't know that.

*cOnFuSiOn*  /j

Yeah... that completely flew over my head... T-T

[MakeupJunkie4]

On 12/5/2020 at 4:35 PM, an~imperial~votress said:

It doesn't?!! Wow, I would totally sign that petition.

BF means boyfriend, BFF means best friend forever so... *shrugs* What really irritates me is when people type "bestfriend" all in one word, instead of "best friend". Like...how much time are you REALLY saving by omitting one space...?? LOL

[will123]

2 minutes ago, MakeupJunkie4 said:

BF means boyfriend, BFF means best friend forever so... *shrugs* What really irritates me is when people type "bestfriend" all in one word, instead of "best friend". Like...how much time are you REALLY saving by omitting one space...?? LOL

In my case it will always be girl friend! In my 20s (I know ancient history) my buddies would say, "Oh Cathy's your girlfriend" "Nope, she's a friend that just happens to be a girl!"

[I_Like_Art]

2 hours ago, TrustTheCloak said:

HOLD ON

Wait... I just realized this

On dates, when they put a mint a mint mouth to freshen up...

That's not to make their breath smell okay?

It's so they will taste good if they kiss?? 

What!?

How have I not known this... T-T

Wait...woah...but why, they should focus on the food?? Isn't that the whole point of going on a date? for food? (I mean, it's not but it sure seems like it should be the main motivation)

[MarRister]

2 hours ago, TrustTheCloak said:

HOLD ON

Wait... I just realized this

On dates, when they put a mint a mint mouth to freshen up...

That's not to make their breath smell okay?

It's so they will taste good if they kiss?? 

What!?

How have I not known this... T-T

Lol I'd say it is for both. Freshening the breath, so they seem kissable should the other person catch a whiff of their breath. And also in the hopes that there will be a kiss, because, yeah, bad breath kisses aren't the greatest so it would ensure it is a better experience if they are worried about their breath. 

[Sylvestra]

17 hours ago, TrustTheCloak said:

HOLD ON

Wait... I just realized this

On dates, when they put a mint a mint mouth to freshen up...

That's not to make their breath smell okay?

It's so they will taste good if they kiss?? 

What!?

How have I not known this... T-T

I don't understand this. First of all, I hate mint, both the smell and the taste. It is absurd to assume that everyone will like it. 

 

Secondly, your breath only needs "improving" if you are either a smoker or have some actual problem (e.g. dental) that should be taken care of. And I don't see how a mint would make it okay for me to kiss someone who smells of smoke or worse.

 

(There is a joke in my country about a guy who expects an important visitor, but farts right before the visitor is due. To cover up the smell, he sprays his apartment with a lot of fir needle spray. The visitor comes and the host proudly asks him how the apartment smells. The answer: Like the forest where someone took a shit.)

 

 

[Dodoa]

11 hours ago, Sylvestra said:

I don't understand this. First of all, I hate mint, both the smell and the taste. It is absurd to assume that everyone will like it. 

 

Secondly, your breath only needs "improving" if you are either a smoker or have some actual problem (e.g. dental) that should be taken care of. And I don't see how a mint would make it okay for me to kiss someone who smells of smoke or worse.

 

(There is a joke in my country about a guy who expects an important visitor, but farts right before the visitor is due. To cover up the smell, he sprays his apartment with a lot of fir needle spray. The visitor comes and the host proudly asks him how the apartment smells. The answer: Like the forest where someone took a shit.)

 

 

Considering what most toothpaste tastes like, I think there is a universal assumption at play here...

 

And speaking as someone who has kissed a few people in theatre productions on stage (and had people yell at me from spittle flying distance in the same circumstances), there absolutely is a need to improve people's breath even if there isn't a problem, if they want to put their mouth close to mine. It's not so much "bad breath" as it is just smelling (and tasting if it's that kind of kiss) a stale and somewhat digested version of whatever they ate last. It's not always disgusting, but depending on when and what it was it can be. Though I guess people would be more tolerant of that kind of thing if they were actually interested in kissing rather than just following the instructions in their script book.

[Bronztrooper]

On 12/7/2020 at 10:50 PM, will123 said:

In my case it will always be girl friend! In my 20s (I know ancient history) my buddies would say, "Oh Cathy's your girlfriend" "Nope, she's a friend that just happens to be a girl!"

Yeah, stuff like that is annoying.  I just refer to all my friends as "my friend" when talking about them to someone else, regardless of who they are.  Any assumptions are on the person I'm talking to, not me.

 

12 hours ago, Sylvestra said:

I hate mint, both the smell and the taste. It is absurd to assume that everyone will like it.

Same, but moreso the taste.

[will123]

5 hours ago, Bronztrooper said:

Yeah, stuff like that is annoying.  I just refer to all my friends as "my friend" when talking about them to someone else, regardless of who they are.

That's how I refer to a person/friend to someone that has no knowledge of who I'm talking about.

 

That's how I WISHED my friend would've phrased things when he was 

Spoiler

fucking

his way thru the Peterborough phone book.

 

'Anna and I...'

'Barbara and I...'

'Connie and I...'

'Debbie and I...'

And so on ...

It just so cringey. Every time I talked to him it was a different woman. Me knowing the other person's name meant nothing to me as I never met any of his 'partners'/friends. I never asked how him and Janice were doing because his friend's name likely was Sarah at that moment.

 

He never mentioned the same person twice. I just wish he realized how awful it sounded.