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8 minutes ago, Sherlocks said:

Me: Im so lonely! Why does no one want me! Me when dating: Why am I dating this person? Ew they want to touch me. God I hate this im so out! 

Me: I want a partner but no one likes me.

 

Cisgender Hetero Guys: Hi!

Cisgender Lesbian: Hi!

 

Me: Dear God no....

 

Nonbinary demiromantic asexual problems. 😭

 

 

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19 minutes ago, AceOfHearts_85 said:

Me: I want a partner but no one likes me.

 

Cisgender Hetero Guys: Hi!

Cisgender Lesbian: Hi!

 

Me: Dear God no....

 

Nonbinary demiromantic asexual problems. 😭

 

 

Me: I really want someone to share my life with 

Random guy/girl: Heyyyy you free tonight? 

Me: I wonder if my platonic best friend would like to just be flatmates for the rest of our lives..? 

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On 11/24/2018 at 8:21 AM, will123 said:

I was 44 when I stumbled across a newspaper article. Like I've posted elsewhere I didn't think of 'not wanting sex involuntarily' as opposed to celibacy was a thing. I had no thoughts of looking it up on the 'net because what would I have searched?

 

I'm kind of envious of the younger asexuals who seem to know what to look up.

 

In a way what us asexuals that have found out about asexuality later in life is horrible. Some of us haven't the faintest clue about sexual references or have absolutely no interest in sexual activity but have no idea why. I can see why some people would think that they're broken. We're bombarded from an early age (probably earlier now than when I was a pre-teen in the 70s) with the message about sexuality being everywhere.

Yes, I admit I’m also envious of the younger generation who finds out early. I’m happy for them but wish I could have had the tools to make the right decisions in life. I’m in a horrible marriage that I would never have gotten into had I known I was ace... for both our sakes. Hard to start over but hard to imagine living like this the rest of my life...

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10 hours ago, Aloney said:

Ummm, I'm still confused about your story... Even with the specification of it probably relating to sex, I can't seem to find out how mirrors would..??? Did he... like watching himself..? Ugh, sorry, I was just trying to explain it to myself since it doesn't exactly make sense in my mind 😅

After being married to a sexual several decades, I am aware of a lot of how they think, even if it’s not how I think. I’m pretty sure it was so he/his partner could see themselves having sex... ewwww

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2 hours ago, AceOfHearts_85 said:

I'm positive it was because he liked watching himself and his sexual partners from various angles in bed.  If you have mirrors above you, you can see in multiple directions.  It's kind of like porn, except using mirrors instead of camera shots.  Get it?

No, we don't get it. We have a lot of questions about this and we want none of them answered.

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3 hours ago, Celyn said:

No, we don't get it. We have a lot of questions about this and we want none of them answered.

Oh well.  You just got them answered.  LOL 😂

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On 11/19/2018 at 3:31 AM, ~Adair~ said:

Do I win at writing? I win.

Of course you win!!

 

On 11/21/2018 at 3:35 AM, Vårin said:

Why did you have to ruin it Joss Whedon (show creator)?

Do you know what else he ruined?

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7 hours ago, Aloney said:

Me: I wonder if my platonic best friend would like to just be flatmates for the rest of our lives..? 

Honestly, though, I have an ace/aro friend the year above me and we're going to be roommates and have our own cooking show for ourselves. I love him; he is fantastic.

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Maybe they were magnifying mirrors? 😋 😋 

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Taking online quizzes that have questions about what turns you on and who you're into sexually and all that noise and not knowing how to answer because there is no "I don't even care about sex" option. 

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8 hours ago, Vårin said:

I guees it kinda made sense why he had showed me how to play strip poker a few days befor. 

Well, that came out of left field.  😶

 

Seriously, though, how exactly was that supposed to work?  "I have a crush on this girl so I'm gonna teach her how to play strip poker."  😒

 

I don't even know how to play regular poker.

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48 minutes ago, Bronztrooper said:

Well, that came out of left field.  😶

 

Seriously, though, how exactly was that supposed to work?  "I have a crush on this girl so I'm gonna teach her how to play strip poker."  😒

 

I don't even know how to play regular poker.

Well, strip poker is a way to get the clothes off the girl, and then maybe things will go from there...  (Strip poker is where you bet your clothing instead of money)

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Hahaha, now I'm imagining someone's crush completely wrecking them in their own game of strip poker, and being completely oblivious about why they are blushing and being awkward about the situation 😂

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schroedingersdog

I bought an ace ring today :3 I used to have a cheap one I bought on vacation once, but it broke (I think it was plastic); then at the store today I happened to see a silicone one and just had to buy it. Won’t break this time. >:3

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1 hour ago, Zash said:

Well, strip poker is a way to get the clothes off the girl, and then maybe things will go from there...  (Strip poker is where you bet your clothing instead of money)

Oh, I know that, but I was thinking of the whole thing about "I want my crush to like me" rather than the "I want to see my crush naked" thing.

 

I guess I forgot about the sexual side of crushes for a moment. 🤷‍♂️

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15 hours ago, Vårin said:

Noo.. What? 

BLACK WIDOW NOT HAVING ANY LOVE INTERESTS

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4 hours ago, Aloney said:

Hahaha, now I'm imagining someone's crush completely wrecking them in their own game of strip poker, and being completely oblivious about why they are blushing and being awkward about the situation 😂

Knowing me, if I got invited to play the game, I wouldn’t even get the implication that getting invited essentially amounts to being hit on (and likely propositioned for casual sex). Also, I’d probably refuse based more on the fact that my luck is terrible than being afraid of having to strip down. I mean while you’re swimming, you’re only in a swimsuit so having to remove some of my clothes wouldn’t be a big deal to me. Though obviously, I’d rather not do it.

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HeartandBrain

A couple of days ago I was at Subway with my mom. First, I was absolutely starving, and when I get that hungry, I am basically unresponsive. I need food to even possibly interact with people beyond purchasing my food. Second, I am horrible at recognizing flirting - a fact that endlessly amuses my mom. 

 

So, we walk in and I expect her to order as we decided to share a sub and she had a coupon to use. After a few minutes of discussing bread options and toppings with some slight input from the guy behind the counter, she nudges me forward. I was confused. Why didn't she just order? 

 

Shrugging, I made it through the meat, cheese, and condiment requests. My voice was monotone and my polite thank you came with bared teeth that was not so much a smile as it was a warning to heat the chicken with haste. My mom rang up the food. I took hold of the bag and basically dragged my mom out of the store and into the mall's designated eating area. I was mostly silent as I began to devour my food. My mom laughed a little as she began eating her half.

 

"The sub was only five dollars," she said. "He gave us a discount." 

My brain slowly pulled up the image of the boy at the counter. Yeah, I thought. We had a coupon. 

 

She apparently read my thoughts because she continued, "The discount was 10% AND he let us use the coupon. He was staring at you the whole time! Didn't you notice? I think he was trying to flirt, that's why I had you order!"

 

No mama, I did not notice. 

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7 hours ago, HeartandBrain said:

She apparently read my thoughts because she continued, "The discount was 10% AND he let us use the coupon. He was staring at you the whole time! Didn't you notice? I think he was trying to flirt, that's why I had you order!"

 

Thats a creepy way to flirt.

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Anthracite_Impreza

I get extras at the car wash because at least one fancies me, I'm happy to take advantage ;)

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I 'm a married woman of a certain age (as in older than most here) and have to put up with my married women friends and their jokes.  None of them know I am ACE. I have a good friend who is constantly posting pictures of shirtless men in kilts on her facebook page. Its a normal thing for my family to hear me suddenly say out loud 'OH MARIA! STOP IT!'

 

Then there was the time Fifty Shades of Grey was popular and my friends were all on there giggling about it. I told them I wasn't interested in it because it was so badly written. Then there was Outlander. I read the first book and said I thought it was going to be more science-fictiony with the time travel thing and it wasn't for me. Then came Game of Thrones.  Read the first book, watched a few episodes. I said I didn't care for that kind of fantasy, I was more in the 'Quest' type of story.  I'm going to start running out of excuses and I 'think' they have noticed that I don't make jokes, comments or in any way refer to my sex life. When the conversation goes in that direction, I fall silent.  They know I'm fairly liberal and not puritanical,  but there is a bit of me that wants to see how they would react to the idea of 'appointment sex'. 

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34 minutes ago, starweb said:

They know I'm fairly liberal and not puritanical,  but there is a bit of me that wants to see how they would react to the idea of 'appointment sex'. 

"Appointment sex"? As in, agreeing on a date and time that one will have sex with one's partner? Or did I understand it wrong? I think if I were to be in a relationship, well, I would probably have sex if my partner liked it, but I'm afraid it would be something of an appointment, with us 😅

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43 minutes ago, starweb said:

I'm going to start running out of excuses and I 'think' they have noticed that I don't make jokes, comments or in any way refer to my sex life. When the conversation goes in that direction, I fall silent.  

I think you might be more aware of it than they are, maybe? I think the same thing sometimes, people seem to talk about things that just don't occur to me and I'll not say anything or just smile. I think they're probably thinking more that their joke failed or that perhaps you're a little more proper? I run into the same issues, but no ones ever said anything to me or given me vibes or looks for not 'fitting in'.

I used to worry about it too and then I think I got tired of being so anxious about it all the time. I'm sure by now they know that that's just how you are and don't mind.

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43 minutes ago, Aloney said:

"Appointment sex"? As in, agreeing on a date and time that one will have sex with one's partner? Or did I understand it wrong? I think if I were to be in a relationship, well, I would probably have sex if my partner liked it, but I'm afraid it would be something of an appointment, with us 😅

It was twice a week, (not the same days) but husband didn't know about it.  It was something I came up with on my own so maybe it wasn't exactly an 'appointment' as me scheduling it.   That's just what I called it. It was an appointment for me. Apparently, it worked. 

 

There was an episode of The Big Bang theory that touched on this. It was Amy and Sheldon's honeymoon and he kept scheduling 'coitus'  and it confused the hell out of Amy until he explained that if he wasn't a very physical person and if he didn't schedule it, he might forget about it. She said to go ahead, just to not let her know in advance. 

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34 minutes ago, CrimsonSpell said:

I think you might be more aware of it than they are, maybe? I think the same thing sometimes, people seem to talk about things that just don't occur to me and I'll not say anything or just smile. I think they're probably thinking more that their joke failed or that perhaps you're a little more proper? I run into the same issues, but no ones ever said anything to me or given me vibes or looks for not 'fitting in'.

I used to worry about it too and then I think I got tired of being so anxious about it all the time. I'm sure by now they know that that's just how you are and don't mind.

It's not something I worry about. If anything, I find it funny and wonder if they'll ever catch on.

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On 11/24/2018 at 9:22 PM, Bronztrooper said:

Upside is that people like you know what it's like to go through most of your life not knowing about asexuality, which generally leads to a desire to prevent others from having to go through the same.  Learn from the experiences of elders and all that.

 :wub: (that's a more positive emoji than the redface one) 

 

You're making me blush! LOL

 

Yes, reading what others have posted definitely have made me feel empowered to talk about my life experiences (sometimes TMI LOL).

 

I guess that's why at times I've gone a bit overboard in discussing some aspects of my life. Seeing posts here I know I'm not alone. I want others to know that they are not alone either.

 

I'm always here to offer a kind word to the younger folks here. If I can can them in understanding that being asexual isn't a negative, that is great. If anyone ever wants to PM me, feel free to do so.

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