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For my Advanced Placement Composition and Language class, an assignment is to write an argumentative paper. I chose asexuality as the subject of mine. A good deal of the psychologists and "average Joe"-type people out there seem to be rather skeptical about asexuality, especially viewing it as a sexual orientation. My goal is to argue concise points and get them to agree with my opinion (that it is).

This is a free-response questionaire. Elaboration on any answers will help me with my report; the more detailed you are, the more information I can gather. However, some of these questions contain MATURE CONTENT, and you can feel free to not answer them if they make you uncomfortable. Any answers you give will help me, even if you do not complete the entire survey.

Thanks for anything you guys do to help me. <3

The questions are as follows:

1. How old are you?

2. What country do you live in?

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

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1. How old are you?

25 and a half ;)

2. What country do you live in?

Australia

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

None.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Mostly hetero, but only because my physical attraction is toward females. I could be romantic toward anyone. And my gender issues confuses it again...

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

Yes.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

Since the idea of sex was known to me I always had the idea I was not interested in it. I assumed it was a part of my autism.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

Masturbation is ok for those bored times. I'd count sex as disturbing, but it's more complicated than that.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

No. Virgin.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

Does High Functioning Autism count? Also ADD.

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

My self esteem can't be rated linearly.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

Physically on occasion during high school. Verbally quite often throughout high school and sometime beyond.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

Not really, I'm content as I am.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

No further thoughts.

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1. How old are you?

68

2. What country do you live in?

United States

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

Jewish.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Romantic hetero

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

Yes.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

I always knew I didn't want/like sex but didn't know there was anything such as asexuality until two years ago.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

Disgusted or bored, mostly disgusted.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

Yes, for all my adult life, to sustain relationship/seem normal.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions

Phobia, anxiety, OCD

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

6

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

Verbally in relationships and in school.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

If it were more understood and acknowledged as a valid orientation, it would be fine.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

I hope younger asexuals have an easier time of it.

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1. How old are you?

23

2. What country do you live in?

Australia

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

None.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Hetero.

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

No.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

About 12-13, when I first started to like boys romantically (though I'd never heard of asexuality and thought there must just have been something wrong with me instead).

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

Disgusted.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

No.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

Not diagnosed with anything specific, no, but my hormones have given me trouble with some things in the past.

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

3

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

Physically and verbally, yes, at school when I was little. Sexually, no.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

It only causes me distress when I worry that people will turn me down/not accept me because of it. I don't want to change - that'd be like saying I'd want to change to be someone who likes to frequently pick their nose and eat it! Who would want that? Ew.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

I have none at the moment.

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1. How old are you?

19

2. What country do you live in?

Australia

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

Atheist

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Aromantic

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

No

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

I've always felt just exactly like me. It's other people being different it took me a while to realise. I guess finding this site, earlier this year.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

I just think it's irrelevant.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

No

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

No

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

7

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

No

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

No distress, no change. I am who I am.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

Nothing for you here, sorry.

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1. How old are you?

19

2. What country do you live in?

England

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

No specific religion I'm afraid. My beliefs border on pagan, but I try not to tie myself too closely with specific groups in that way.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Pan-romantic, or just simply romantic - bi is too limiting a prefix.

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

I have been in a few.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

I didn't actually think "Oh, I'm asexual" until I joined AVEN but had known from the early onset of puberty I didn't associate myself 100% with the more well-known orientations.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

I'm in a relationship which includes sex, and my drive is up-and-down so I masturbate occasionally when I'm not sexually active to check if everything's still working. I think both sex and masturbation are very good things for a lot of people.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

Only really when I've been tired - I have sex primarily to please a partner and show my affection, but I don't consider doing it when I'm sleepy unwanted as such. Just grouchy sex.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

Not officially, no. I suffer from frequent bouts of severe depression however.

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

9

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

Not that I can remember but the first 16 years of my life are a black spot.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

This is a difficult question, my answer varies. When I look at it from the point-of-view that I have relationships with people who are more sexual than I, I would change it if I could for sheer convenience - a lot of people are put off by my 'meh' attitude. On the other hand though, I'm content with myself and what I am.

Guess you could say it's a bit like me dying my hair black for convenience with extensions, heh. Happy with what I am, but being sexual would be a lot easier relationship-wise.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

Nothing really comes to mind, sorry.

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1. How old are you?

( 21 )

2. What country do you live in?

( Canada, Québec )

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

( Chistianism, always been athee )

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

( hetero-romantic )

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

( 2 of em: one 3 months, the other 1.5 years and still going )

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

( since always )

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

( on me: nauseous. about others: indiferent. in fiction: facinated.)

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

( no, virgin, but I perform oral on my partner.. I don't WANT to but I don't really CARE about it )

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

( um.. a burn-out at 19 because of school )

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

( 8 )

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

( never )

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

( some distress when the one I love talks about how he misses sex, I'd never change )

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

( I wonder why most people can't understand my feelings, after all, they all been a kid who didn't care about sex not so long ago..)

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SpirallingSnowy

1. How old are you?

26

2. What country do you live in?

Australia

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

None particularly strongly, if pressed i will say Christiadelphian.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

hetero romantic, but open to anything romantic wise.

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

about 8. Any relationship ive entered has been romantically serious for me.

longest lasted 1.5 yrs, shortest a few weeks, all with sexuals.... *sigh*

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

When a friend introduced me to AVEN - I was about 22. I always knew i didnt quite fit the sterotypical sexual mold.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

Masterbation i dont really want to hear about it from other people, but myself - only to fix an annoying itch or as stress relief.

sex - other people they can do whatever they want, as long as it doesnt involve me. As far a sex for me is concerned, i had it in the past but have no burning desire to repeat it, although i would consider it any relationship and work out where all parties stood.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

Yes. I cant count the amount of times i have had to sustain a relationship, to appear normal, or to try and get my emotional needs met by being what someone else wanted.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

ADHD, Generalised Anxiety Disorder, BPD traits, Depression. My mother suspects im an Aspie or atleast have some Aspie traits.

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

any given day it would be flit between 3 - 8 depending on my headspace.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

Phsyically and verbal yes, all during school times verbally and physically only a few times. sexual abused no.

Have had people who were very sexual pushy with me and made me very uncomfortable though.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

Nope. dont wnat to change it. Causes a little distress because so many rels havent worked and i never knew why. But on the whole no.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

Dont have any sorry.

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Kurai-Tenshi_Niks

1. How old are you?

18.

2. What country do you live in?

Australia.

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

Buddhism.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Bisexual.

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

Two.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

16.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

Masturbation i'm okay with. I'm slightly repulsed with sex though.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

Never had sex.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

Anxiety/Panic disorder. Depression..caused by chemical imbalances.

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

8.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

Yes.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

No, i like being asexual.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

None, sorry :)

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1. How old are you?

20

2. What country do you live in?

Scotland.

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

None.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Pan-romantic

(Though technically it's not, being that I'm still to find a masculine person attractive, but it's the best term I know for it, so I use it.)

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

I've never been in a romantic relationship, serious or otherwise.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

I've always known, right from when I first learned about sex, that it wasn't something I was interested in, and I knew that when it seemed everyone else became sexual I didn't, but I only knew I was asexual when I read the Wikipedia article just before joining AVEN.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

Sex: I'm fairly repulsed by sex - it doesn't appeal to me in the slightest and I have no intention to ever do it. I have no problem with other people doing it though, just I'd really rather they didn't tell me about it.

Masturbation: I'm completely indifferent to it.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

Nope.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

My psychologist pretty much so said she I most likely had Social Anxiety Disorder.

(I assure anyone and everyone that this doesn't affect my sexuality - I'm not looking at people and wanting a sexual relationship with them but being to scared to start one; I'm not wanting one in the first place.)

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

At the moment it's probably around 6, but has been known to be right down at 1 on occasion.

(Once again, this being low isn't related to my asexuality: I don't care if if people could never find me sexually attractive - in fact, I like it that way.)

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

I was bullied for nine years by countless different people whist at school (which led to the answers to the two previous questions); all but one occasion was verbal. I've never been sexually abused.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

No, it doesn't cause me any distress; I've been asexual for over nineteen years now and can't imagine being, nor do I want to be, any other way. I'd probably only date an asexual too, so if ever I should end up in a relationship, my being asexual won't be the cause of distress.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

I don't have any at the moment.

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1. How old are you?

20

2. What country do you live in?

United States

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

atheist (but I love studying religions, so a happy atheist :) )

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

a-romantic

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

nothing serious in a romantic sort of way.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

I got worried as to why I didn't like people romantically around 16. I didn't classify myself as asexual until I turned 18 and found AVEN.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

Whatever makes people happy. I'm not going to stare or stone people, so I guess I'm sort of apathetic about it. Though for some reason, people kissing is the grossest thing to me and I have to look away...

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

No, I've had dates and relations to seem normal and if they wanted to go a next level I ended it.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

No, but I prefer not to go to doctors. (they always try to label me with some sickness when I'm perfectly healthy)

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

on a usual basis 8, when I dress up 10.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

nope, everything is peachy keen

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

Sometimes I can get pissy about it but at the end of the day, I'm proud of it and I doubt I would ever change who I am.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

My goal in spreading the word about asexuality, is to show that we all come as varied as sexual people. We aren't all ugly hormonal imbalanced shutins afraid of intimacy. We're just like everyone else, but with a different orientation.

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1. How old are you?

18

2. What country do you live in?

Britain

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

None.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Hetero, I guess.

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

Yes

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

Last year.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

Fun fun fun.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

No.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

Not at the time of writing.

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

Dunno...6/7?

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

Verbally I think...:3. Not because of being asexual though. But it may have somehow contributed to my being so.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

No.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

Umm...none right now. Oh wait, why just religion? Why not political orientation too?

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Mimicking Sanity

How fun.

1. How old are you?

Eighteen.

2. What country do you live in?

England, Great Britain.

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

None at all.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Aromantic, heh.

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

No, nor have I been in a 'casual' one.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

I can't exactly remember. I realised a short while before joining Aven, regardless.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

I'm sickened by the ideas. Other people may do as they wish, as long as I'm not involved. In any way.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

Never have.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

Diagnosed as 'Schizoid'. I'd rather not have been given such a title from one who may have as many 'problems' as the people they meet though.

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

Five, maybe? Neither low nor high.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

No, no, and no.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

None whatsoever. I'm pretty happy.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

I haven't much to type for this, ah well.

Socio-economic class wouldn't have any place in this survey, I imagine?

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1. How old are you?

23.

2. What country do you live in?

Brazil.

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

No religion but I have my beliefs.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

I don't know!! That's the whole reason for my username. ^^ I'm unsure whether I'm aromantic, heteroromantic or biromantic. And I don't really know if I want to find it out.

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

No. Not serious nor of any kind.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

Ever since I can remember. When all kids at school could only talk about kissing and stuff, I knew I did not want to do it. But people would say I was a late bloomer so I'd let it go. By the time I was 16 I was sure I was not like the other people I knew.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

It's not for me. When I do feel sexual tension I have my own muscular exercises to let it go. No way I'm putting my hands down there.

Now, sex, sometimes I feel disgusted by the idea of sex, other times I feel apathetic.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

Virgin.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

My hormones have been checked twice. LOL Very very normal. I do have OCD but I do not link it to asexuality.

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

I've been told I have low self esteem but I don't know. I'd say sometimes it's a 3, others it is a 9. I do have my ups and downs.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

I am constant target of bullies. Does it count? I have been sexually harassed and somewhat abused before but I do not link it to any thoughts of asexuality. I was already the way I am right now towards sex. It did confirm how humans are disgusting thou. And gave me some fear towards sexual people, but did not change the idea I had about my ownself.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

I would not change. If offered the "magic pill" I'd happily refuse it. But being asexual does cause me some sort of distress at times. In fact, it is not the being asexual in itself but my personality linked to it and the way I respond to people. The sexual world frightens me at times and I would really like to find some real life friends who would not link the idea of sex to every single conversation.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

I know it is childish and selfish but I would like to know how it would be to live in a world where sex was not overrated. How about a population of 85% asexuals?

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1. How old are you?

20

2. What country do you live in?

UK

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

None - agnostic rather than atheist, though.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Unsure: love people without desiring a relationship with them. Bi/a

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

No.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

When I left secondary school, and realised that characters in school-based dramas were in love. I realised that we weren't all just waiting to grow into sexuality. This would be about a year after I first read this new scientist article, but when I first read it, I still thought it was something "adults" were.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

I just don't see the point.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

No.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

I've been diagnosed as depressed, and medicated for it in the past.

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

2. I'd say this is more related to question 9 than my asexuality.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

Not properly, no. I was called a lesbian because I wouldn't admit who I fancied, but that's defiantly not a cause of my aceness...

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

No. I'm happy being single, and given that no-ones ever attempted to make me non-single, I think being sexual would cause more distress in my current situation.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

Just because no-one's tried to lay me doesn't mean I'm trying to put a brave face on it.

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1. How old are you?
24.
2. What country do you live in?
USA
3. What religion do you identify with, if any?
Passingly Christian, more agnostic than anything.
4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?
Mostly a-romantic.
5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?
I've been engaged....
6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?
I've always known I was different. Early twenties maybe is when I figured I wasn't just a 'late bloomer'.
7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?
Pretty much apathy on all ends, though certain thing will make me say EWWWW.
8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?
Yes...
9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?
No.
10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?
6. It used to be lower, but I think I'm about average for self-confidence now.
11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?
Nope.
12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?
Nope.
13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.
Um.... Don't really have one. :D
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Adm_Twister_JCOM

1. How old are you? 21, but my mental age is 72.

2. What country do you live in? USA

3. What religion do you identify with, if any? Christian

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic? Non-romantic

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship? No

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual? 12, but I had no confirmation until age 20

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)? Repulsed

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)? Not at all

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)? No

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem? 7

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused? No

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could? No to both

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject. None

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1. How old are you?

18.

2. What country do you live in?

Britain.

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

None.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Aromantic at the present time, and for the forseeable future; however, I can envisage giving a heteroromantic relationship a go at some point in my life.

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

No.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

Around 2 years ago, aged 16ish.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

Masturbation is something I can enjoy, I am sort of curious about sex, but actually having it is not a priority for me.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

Never had sex, so no.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

My GP and a counsellor said I "probably" had depression when I was 15, I don't know if that counts as a diagnosis.

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

Hmm... 6?

My physical self-esteem is at about 4, but I have quite a high opinion of my own intelligence, so intellectual self-esteem would be around 8.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

Verbally yes; bullied at school a bit. Nothing massively traumatic, it was more a case of being ignored with me.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

I'm alright with my sexuality at the moment, I am interested to see how it develops... if it changes, it changes, that's fine.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

Perhaps this survey could have included something about other social interactions; introvert or extrovert, that sort of thing... though there is info on that elsewhere on the board.

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1. How old are you?

36.

2. What country do you live in?

USA.

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

Stoicism.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Hetero-romantic.

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

I've been in a few.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

Somewhere in my early thirties.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

It feels good.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

No.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

No.

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

9.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

Verbally, yes.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

No and no.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

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1. How old are you?

23

2. What country do you live in?

Germany

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

Liberal Christianity

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Heteroromantic

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

No

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

At the age of 15 or 16, when both a friend and I had some feelings for girls but his included sex, mine didn't.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

There's more interesting things to life.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

No

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

No

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

6

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

Just some bullying at school.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

No. Never.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

None.

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1. How old are you?

18.

2. What country do you live in?

USA

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

Christian, but not religious at all - I was raised Christian and went to a Christian private school for nine years, including church, chapel, sunday school, etc, and though I like the values, I don't really believe in it. So I guess, I have my own set of beliefs.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Hetero-romantic.

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

I've never been in any kind of romantic or sexual relationship at all, no dating, no kissing, no experiementing, no nothing. But I would like one someday.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

I've always been that way, but it was when my friends started to experiment in the six grade that I started wondering why I wasn't like that or interested in that. I used the word "asexual" in describing myself jokingly, not knowing that it was a real thing. It wasn't until this year, in June, at the age of 17 that I stumbled upon this website and finally felt at home. :)

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

I do masturbate a couple times a week, but it's just relief, not really pleasure. I'm fine with other people having sex, they can do as they please - but I, myself, have never had the desire for it. So, apathetic, I guess.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

Nope, I'm a virign to everything. ;)

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

Nope. I'm perfectly normal (if there is such a thing).

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

9.9 - I am very, very happy and comfortable with who I am.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

Nope.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

No, I'm perfectly happy with it. I don't think I would want to change it.

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1. How old are you?

19

2. What country do you live in?

United States

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

None but I'm very open minded

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Pan-romantic asexual

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

Yes

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

Earlier this year. Not because I thought I was sexual before but more because I never really gave it much thought.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

I'm not bothered by it.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

Yes..somewhat..bit of a gray area..not sure if it classifies as sex..so No..sort of.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

Not yet

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

5-7 depending on what day it is

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

Yes

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

Nope..I'm fine with it

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

Nothing to add

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1. How old are you? 24

2. What country do you live in? ireland

3. What religion do you identify with, if any? iffyism - a mixture of the good parts of buddhism, christianity, agnostic and other religions

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic? hetero romanticf

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship? nope

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual? 3 or 4 years ago

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)? apathethic. i masturbate occassionally in order to stop sperm build up in the testicles

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)? nope

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)? nope. i'm the good kind of crazy, uncertifianle

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem? 7

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused? nope

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could? nope

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject. none

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1. How old are you?

24 in a couple of days

2. What country do you live in?

Finland

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

atheist

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

pan-romantic asexual

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

yes

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

I guess I've always known I was "different" but I only came contact with the term asexual a couple of years back.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

indifferent

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

yes

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

depression

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

umm... around 5 perhaps

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

verbally since the first day of school, every day for 6 years and after that every now and then.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

no / no

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

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1. How old are you?

16. 17 in a couple weeks.

2. What country do you live in?

Canada.

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

No religion. One would call me an atheist.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Hetero. Very possibly pan or bi, though.

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

No. I don't plan on getting into any kind of a romantic relationship for quite a few years at the least.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

I've known for a while that I was never interested in sex, but only a few months ago (maybe June of this year?) did I find the term asexual.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

I'm apathetic towards sex. I can watch porn, watch sex scenes on TV and movies, and all that. I'd only be repulsed if I had to partake in such inane acts.

As for masturbation, 100% neutral. I masturbate a couple times a week, but that's simply for relief, not because I enjoy it.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

No. Still a virgin.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

No. But the school counsellor wants me to go to the doctor to get a professional diagnosis and see if I really do suffer from depression and anxiety.

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

3-8. Depends on the day, who I'm with... A number of factors.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

I was a target for bullies up until last year--which was when I left the mainstream schooling.

It was mostly verbal abuse. In grades 3 and 4 I was a victim of physical abuse--somewhat. Mostly all that person did was randomly come up to me and give me a couple hard kicks and then leave. He did also punch me a few times. Seemed way worse then than it does now.

Never been sexually abused as far as I know.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

Before I knew that I was normal I was extremely embarrassed at the fact that I didn't ever want sex. Now that I know I'm normal, I'm content with it. I still haven't completely come to terms with my asexuality, but I would never change.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

No further thoughts.

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1. How old are you? 19

2. What country do you live in? UK (Wales)

3. What religion do you identify with, if any? Agnostic

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic? pan-inclined

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship? No

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual? 14 I appreciated I never fancied anyone and I was staying that way - 15.5 I got the words.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)? Fine by me. As long as I feel comfortable I'll roll with it - I'm quite curious if anything.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)? No

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)? Not diagnosed but I probably had unipolar depression.

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem? 8/9

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused? At school, bullied pretty viciously, last one particularly, first one more in primary school, middle one not really.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could? Only because my identification seems to be getting in the way of my LGBTetc career ambitions.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

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1. How old are you?

17 (18 in just over a month).

2. What country do you live in?

UK.

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

Apatheism. So, essentially, none.

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

Hetero-romantic.

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

Yes.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

About a year ago (the relationship I was in at the time is mainly responsible for me realizing I was a bit different), but I didn't actually know about asexuality until the start of this year.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

Apathetic and slightly repulsed.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

Yes.

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

OCD is strongly suspected both by myself and others, but I haven't had an official diagnosis

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

2.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

No.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

No.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

I'm done.

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1. How old are you?

I’m 22

2. What country do you live in?

U.S.A.

3. What religion do you identify with, if any?

I identify closest to Buddhism

4. Do you identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, or a-romantic?

I labeled myself as Hetero, but since the discovery of Aven my identity seems to be slowly switching over to a-ro.

5. Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

If you would consider the relationships during your teenage years to be serious, then yes.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

When heard the name and discovered what it was.

7. What do you think of sex and masturbation (Disgusted, apathetic, etc.)?

Sex- ugh, disgusted MB – Human

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn’t want to (to sustain a relationship, seem “normal”, etc.)?

Yeah…… to sustain a relationship

9. Have you ever been diagnosed with any abnormal mental conditions (Manic depression, hormone imbalances, etc.)?

Nope none

10. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being “very high” and 1 being “very low”, how would you rate your self esteem?

Concerning looks, my self esteem would prob. be in the range of 4-6, depending on the people I’m with and the mood I’m in.

Concerning intelligence, my self esteem would be about 8.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually, or verbally abused?

My ex-boy friend would at times verbally abuse me. Things that had to do with my physical appearance and sex related subjects. This went on for about two years between the ages of 17 and 19.

12. Does it cause you distress being asexual and/or would you change if you could?

It causes me distress because I want the companionship of a man but feel it’s impossible to find someone who doesn’t want sex.

If I could change..ummm… I think I just might want to. I don’t think anyone understands just how hard it is to find a guy who doesn’t need to have sex.

13. Please share any final comments you have on the subject.

I’m glad to see that I’m not alone

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1. How old are you?

48

2. What country do you live in?

Wales, UK.

3. What religion do you identify with'

Pagan/Roman Catholic.

4. Do you identify as hetero, homo, bi, or a-romantic?

Hetero-romantic.

5. have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship?

Yes, for 6 years when in my twenties, and for the last 13 years with a sexual man.

6. When did you first start to think you were asexual?

I have always been asexual, I just didn't know the term for it until two years ago.

7. What do you think of sex an masturbation?

Completely disinterested. Think it a waste of time.

8. Have you ever had sex when you didn't want to?

Yes, when younger to appear normal, when older I didn't care about that, but have done it to please a partner.

9. have you ever beendiagnosed iwth any abnormal mental conditions?

Yes, periodic clinical depression, but not related to my asexuality.

10. How would you rate your self-esteem?

9 - 10. Very happy with myself.

11. Have you ever been physically, sexually or verbally abused?

Bullied at secondary school for 4 years because I refused to conform to their norm. Was physically and sexually abused in a very brief relationship in my late 20s.

12. Does being asexual cause you stress?

No, it's part of who I am, I'm happy with it, and wouldn't change if I could. I have time for so many things that are more interesting, and don't feel the need to hang on to an unsuitable partner just because I need sex!

13. Any other comments?

Finding a community of people who are like me was fantastic. I would like it to be generally accepted as a sexual orientation, rather than a sickness of some sort.

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