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How did you self identify before self identifying as asexual


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Self Identify Before Identifying as Asexual  

  1. 1. How did you identify before self identifying as asexual?

    • Heterosexual
      124
    • Homosexual
      34
    • Bisexual
      45
    • Demisexual
      3
    • Pansexual
      18
    • I never identified strongly with any label
      23
    • I never identified strongly with any label until identifying as asexual
      98
    • Other, please explain
      11

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The poll I feel is pretty self explanatory.

It should be set so it is a "check all that apply" than a "choose the one that best describes you."

Not sure if 6, 7 are redundant, or not...at the time it seemed to make sense.

I would prefer to have a more exhaustive list, but even with 10 questions with up to 20 choices I am not sure it would be enough to have a complete list of the possible combinations.

To anwser my own question when I was trying to figure my own sexuality out I considered it possible I could be a lesbian, yet I knew that didn't make anymore sense than me identifying as heterosexual and if neither category seemed to fit bisexual sure as hell didn't work.

So I think I pretty much didn't identify strongly as anything until coming across asexuality.

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Before identifying myself as an asexual, I self identified as a homosexual. ^_^

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I went with heterosexual, seeing it as a 'default' until I passed the point where I wasn't going to 'bloom', but I didn't feel more than a passing connection to it.

I voted 1 and 7

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Until discovering asexuality last year, sexual orientation was something I only very rarely thought about - a few hours a year, if that. But in that time I vaguely considered I was heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual - but I never really identified with any of them at all strongly. So I only voted for "I never identified strongly with any label until identifying as asexual".

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I put "I never identified strongly with any label until identifying as asexual" because I never had a relationship or anything and never even mentioned liking people to my friends or parents so I suppose everyone assumed I was straight. But to myself, I never thought "I'm straight" or anything, I was ambivalent about sexual identity until starting college. Then I thought I might be bisexual, learning towards lesbian, since I had romantic crushes. But sex never played a role in my "crush" thoughts. So I was pretty unsure until I discovered...asexuality! And AVEN. And now I identify as a panromantic asexual.

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I always figured that I was Heterosexual since I've only ever been with guys. I still feel that I'm somewhat Heterosexual, but it really doesn't matter because I am asexual and like to have friendship relationships with both guys and girls. I still am not sure about romantic relationships, because with a romantic relationships I always have the thought in the back of my head that they will want to have sex eventually.

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I'm tempted to vote "I never identified strongly with any label until identifying as asexual", I identified strongly as asexual for a period of time after learning of asexuality, but to be honest I don't really feel comfortable within the asexual community all that much these days. Calling myself asexual feels awkward.

I always knew I wasn't typically heterosexual, and didn't really fit 100% with other sexualities that I came across, but wasn't all that bothered by it.

So, voted "I never identified strongly with any label."

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Nalle Neversure

"I never identified strongly with any label."

I had never thought about labels before learning about asexuality and so far it fits the best, but *shrug*

I'm me, very much not normal and somehow most abnormal among asexies.

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CrazyCatLover

I never identified with a label until asexual. If someone asked me what my orientation was, I would have probably replied "heterosexual."

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Sexuality never came up for me until I started to wonder why I wasn't doing what other people my age were doing, around 11th or 12h grade.. I would adamantly deny being gay, but that's about the only time it ever came up. I never really "felt" straight though. I never really associated with any sexual orientation until I learned about asexuality.

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Before identifying as asexual I identified as a pansexual. I seem to be the only one at this point. However, I did always know that I didnt want to have sex, for some time I just didnt know what asexuality is.

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I just called myself heterosexual since I had a couple of crushes on guys, but never on girls. Even then my crushes were kind of weak and I was never interested sexually.

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Didn't self-identify before; I was waiting to find out what I was, though I did expect I'd probably be straight as I knew that was statistically more likely. Thought I was a late bloomer. When I strongly suspected I wasn't going to develop sexual attraction I googled 'asexual', supposing that would be a good word to describe my orientation, and the rest is history. :)

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I chose the option that I didn't strongly identify with anything.

I identified as "straight" up until I was about 13 or 14. Around that age, I began to notice girls in a different way than I had seen them before and I started to wonder if I was actually bisexual. I didn't want to experiment, though, so I stuck with dating men. I still liked to "admire" women through all of that, though, and since I hated the sex I was having with my boyfriend, I wondered if I was actually a lesbian.

Up until I discovered that the "asexual" orientation was more than I had originally thought it was, I was identifying as "pansexual" (though I preferred the term "anthrosexual" due to negative connotations that 'pansexual' sometimes has because it is kind of misunderstood).

...So, basically, I had considered everything else before labelling myself a bi-romantic asexual. :D

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I thought I was going to be hetro when I grew up, but I didn't consider myself as such, because orientation was only something that mattered when you grew up.

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I had been thinking of myself as bisexual with some sort of depression (thus the lack of sexual attraction) but I hadn't 'come out' to anyone, so I checked the "bisexual" and "never identified strongly until IDing as asexual" boxes

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I had to vote for other because I'm dumb. lol Because I already used the word asexual before I knew it was a "real" word. But then after I voted I realized that made no sense since that was not the question. :wacko: (I think I should go have lunch, lack of food is making me way too slow. O.o) So I should have voted hetero since it was default. And that's what I took for granted as a "when I grow up it will happen" kind of thing.

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Straight but potentially bi. I realise now that I could imagine sex with another woman because I see sex as separate to the rest of romance/relationships. Today I identify as straight/asexual.

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I didn't think about it enough to identify as anything until I discovered asexuality.

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The Slimeinator

I voted for "not identified." Some people had the impression that I was homosexual, but whenever I tried to tell them I wasn't they thought I was some crack addict. :blink:

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mad_scientist

I kind of hovered between heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality. I wasn't attracted to men... I must be homosexual. Wait, i wasn't attracted to women either... maybe I was heterosexual. I know; I'm attracted to them equally; I'm bisexual! But I only get crushes on men...

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When I first thought about it, I decided I was bisexual, because I didn't prefer one gender over another. Then I learned of the term pansexual, so I used that instead, because gender didn't matter to me at all. Luckily, I later realised I was actually asexual.

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