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OK, a lot of the questions I'm about to ask have been covered elsewhere at other times, but I just wanted to condense all the information into one place here. I'm just curious about these things from a purely statistical point of view...

Please keep your answers as short and simple as possible! Here goes...

1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

Yes

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

yes

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

yes

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

yes, have been and am now

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

I haven't been, and Im in a long term non married relationship now. We may get married someday.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

We have one beautiful daughter

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

Dislike except with partner or daughter

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

Dislike except with partner or daughter

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

Yes, reluctantly

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Only with great effort, for my partner's sake

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

yes, very occassionally

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

No

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

Have had

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

Not exactly sexual, but I do find black polo neck jumpers very attractive

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

Not using this term as such, but yes, only my current partner and past partners, much to their chagrinjava script:emoticon(':lol:')!

Thanks for taking the time to answer these questions!

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

yes

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

yes

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

I've had a few...

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

no

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

no

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

no, I don't like kids at all.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

I don't really like it.

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

dislike

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

no

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

no

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

no

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

no

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

no

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

no

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

I haven't told anyone.

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

yes - although i hate labels

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

yes for men

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

since my teens- a few!

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

yes i would love to be in a relationship

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

not married- would like to marry oneday

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

currently i dont want children- but sometimes it appeals to me

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

yes i love hugs and demonstrates of affection

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

kissing is ok with me

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

no never - i just couldnt

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

no

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

yes

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

no never

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

no - i sometimes think i would like to try it, but i cant imagine being able to.

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

no way

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

my sister and my best friend know

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1. Cellibate is the term I use.

2. I'm drawn to humour and intelligence, period.

3. In kindergarten, or so I thought.

4. I have, no interest in decades.

5. Never.

6. Never.

7. Hand shakes and hugs are ok.

8. I enjoyed kissing as a teenager; no interest in decades.

9. A few, but not in decades.

10. Nope, doesn't interest me.

11. I have on occasion.

12. Not in decades.

13. I have, but not in decades, way too much baggage/luggage comes along for the ride -- and that's the obstacle that's always completely turned me off, and someone's family, no interest in ever meeting anyone's mother or family.

14. Nope.

15. I would have to care to even ponder -- but I don't care what other people think, never have. I'd consider myself a C -- or a Loner, never have understood what folks mean when they use the term lonely, just not enough alone time in my world.

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

Yes

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

No

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

No and no

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

No, no, and no

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

No, no, and no

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

No. God, no.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

Hate it

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

Hate it

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

Never. I am virgin. Never so much as kissed anybody.

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Yes.

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

Yes. Too much. Trying to stop

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

No

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

No, no and no

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

No and no

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

My family suspect. Nobody else.

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For what it's worth ...

1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

Yes

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

Yes

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

Yes but not recently

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

No; yes; no

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

No; no; no way on God's green earth

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

No; thought of physically having kids disgusts me. Potentially might adopt / foster later

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

Dislike (if you mean from strangers or officials)

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

Like general affectionate contact with close partners but not kissing (*euch!*)

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

Not now; have been in the past

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Definitely not

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

No; yes, as a confused teen

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

No

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

No; yes in the past

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

No

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

None, though my ex knows from bitter experience that I don't fit the popular definition of sexual "normality".

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

Yes

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

Yes

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

Just once

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

No

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

No

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

No

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

Depends how I'm feeling at the time

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

Really hate it

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

No

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Yes

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

No

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

No

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

No

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

None of them.

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

Mmyes

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

Hardly

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

No

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

I never have been, but I would like to be

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

No

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

No

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

Dislike

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

Dislike

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

No

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Never tried

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

No

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

No

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

Never have, but I'd sort of like to try

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

No

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

None

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

Not really..I have my moments.

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

Yes.

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

Yes, though I am attempting to decipher whether my sexuality and intuition of thoughts towards another are more a result of people-pleasing submissive traits I carry.

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

I have been physically, though not sexually with another person in a relationship. I've also had a sexual relationship without any contact, so hard to say.

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

No.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

No.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

For the most part. I'm avoidant of people when it comes to physical contact.

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

Yes, for the most part. I'm more uncomfortable than anything else, though I can like it when done properly.

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

No, not face to face. (i.e. Webcam--etc has been it)

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Occasionally. I've ventured through the many types seeking something that does it for me and found little. I usually have to initiate physical contact with myself to become actually aroused.

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

Occasionally.

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

No. I do occasionally get obsessed with them or physical drawn to them, but I rarely ever get a sexual arousal towards them, it is purely a "want to spend time with them" feeling.

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

I haven't tried it, though I wouldn't be object to trying it out to see whether or not I actually enjoy it at all.

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

Possibly. I tend to be drawn towards ample hips and rears at times and really the only time I allow for masturbation nowadays is through exhibitionism in front of another, so that would be a fetish, but the circumstance behind it is less straight forward than it seems.

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

A few of my friends. I've told my parents once, but they shrugged it off as "you haven't found the right person" so it wasn't taken seriously. Until I get a firm idea about what exactly I am, I won't be able to convince anyone.

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

Mostly

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

Yes-with a few exceptions women

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

A few, but I resist them as leading to stress (I have an anxiety disorder so I try to manage my stress)

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

Not sure. I've seen so many bad examples and so few good ones that it seems like it would be a big gamble.

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

No and No.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

No and No.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

I like it unless there is something about the person I don't like or that makes me uncomfortable. Sometimes with men I might be uncomfortable (that male homophobia rearing it's ugly head) though usually I don't have trouble hugging men.

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

Haven't had much opportunity, but I think I would like it as long as it doesn't get too close to sexual. Kissing: no tongues with the kisses, and not the long-passionate kind. If you saw Spiderman II, the scene were Mary Jane is kissing her fiance upside down; she first gives longer kisses which I couldn't care less about and then ended with several little closed mouth kisses which looked like they would be nice to experience.

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

No. Afraid AND uninterested in sex.

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Mostly no (disgusted by anything that focuses too much on genitals); unless it has the person clothed sufficiently that they could go out in public like that and also if it involves my fettish.

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

Yes. In fact a urologist recommended it for health reasons (I'll spare you the details).

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

Yes, but I kind of think it is the clothing (short shorts or leather) that arrouses me as opposed to the people.

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

No, No and No.

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

Yes, bondage and leather clothing-though if it gets too fetishy it suddenly becomes a major turn-off.

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

Some friends-one of which got me to search for asexual on the internet (which lead me hear :D ).

Great questions! This needs to be a poll!!!

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Curious Kelly

Hi! I'm new here, read an article in New Scientist that gave this address and was so intrigued! Haven't had chance to read much of the posts yet but this questionnaire was a cool idea, learnt loads already by reading the responses. Will def read more as is opening my eyes to a sexual identity I never knew existed!

1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

No, but currently celibate.

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

Yes, always thought of these things as some how combining with an X factor to produce sexual desire. I mean, I don't have sexual feelings for people unless I'm attracted to them in all those ways.

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

Loads, more in my teens tho. Can be people I know or famous people.

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

One serious relationship when I was in my teens. He turned out to be a sadistic person and I got very badly hurt emotionally. Hope I fall in love again, but with a kind person.

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

Never been. Would maybe like a long term relationship but am waiting to see who I meet and where life/my feelings take me.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

Dunno. Def wouldn't want kids now, but dunno how I'll feel in ten years.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

Mostly dislike. Not from a tactile family and I prefer people to demonstrate platonic love with words or gestures.

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

Like a lot if it's with a partner I know and trust.

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

Have been celibate for over 6 years now, and had very little sexual contact over that time. Had sex a few times when I was in my teens but was mostly left feeling disappointed or frustrated.

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Oh yes! Not bog-standard stuff tho, erotic bits from good movies or well written fiction and Nancy Friday's books. I like to fantasise and write my own.

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

Yep, regularly.

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

Yes.

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

See 9. Hope I will enjoy sex when I find a partner who can give me the kind I want, so I'm hoping I will have sex again.

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

Invent them to amuse myself when fantasising.

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

N/a

Can I suggest another question to add to the questionnaire? I'm really intrigued to hear if everyone has fantasies and, if so, what they are like. I talked to some of my female friends about this and they all said they had sexual fantasies about other people and non-sexual ones too. A guy friend said he only had sexual fantasies. Would love to learn more about the fantasy lives of posters here!

xxxxx Kelly

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

I'm really not sure.

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

Yes, but not exceptionally strongly in the romantic sense.

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

No

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

On one hand yes, on the other hand I'm not sure how enthusiastic I am about the idea. I think there could be a lot of negatives that you don't think of until you hook up

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

I can't really see it, but then I'm only 21 and a student.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

I don't think so

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

Neither (i.e. I don't have a particular problem with crowds, but I don't really seek it out either.)

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

I don't come across these very often.

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

No, No

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Not very. The temptation to look at net porn is not really great, esp. when I know my connection is monitored.

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

Yes.

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

Yes, but not often.

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

See Q9. Any desire I do have to try SI is as far as I can tell down to curiosity, as such a big deal is made of it by other people. (It's a bit like if two thirds of your friends discussed marijuana all the time, and as big a proportion of the songs on the radio/films at the cinema etc. were on the subject, but you'd never experienced being stoned. I'm going to open a new thread about this, I think.)

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

Not that I can remember (though I'm not sure I understand what this question is getting at.)

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

N/A. I don't even know for certain myself yet.

Thanks for taking the time to answer these questions!

PS blue_canary is male.

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Good poll, here's my answers:

1. Yes, now I do.

2. Yes, all of the above, but mostly based on pyschological and personality characteristics.

3. Yes, happens to me a lot, I find myself thinking "I wish I could have a relationship with that person" its just never a sexual relationship.

4. Yes, I was in one brief relationship, but it didn't work out, because we wanted different things.

5. Yes, I'd like to be married/in a permenant relationship, because the idea of companionship and mutual support that comes with it appeals to me.

6. Yes, but I could live without them, that'd be entirely up to my partner.

7. I'm nuetral, depends on the contact and who its from.

8. See #7

9. No, the closest I've coming is kissing my ex, and that did absolutely zip for me.

10. Under very select circumstances, yes. But only if its nudity, female, without any kind of sexual acts taking place.

11. Uh... Alright, I'll be honest, yes, I have and still do.

12. Almost never

13. No, I haven't, and I probably only would if I was in a long term permenant relationship with someone and they requested it.

14. No, I can't think of anything

15. Anyone who read the post I made on my site's message board.

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Nugan

Further to my answer to Q10: Non-sexual female nudity is what low amount of porn I do view generally consists of

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

After a few days musing, I'm gonna go with a big enthusiastic YES!

(the :cake: surplus won me over, what can I say...)

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

Yes. Mostly intellectual, personality. SOMETIMES physical, but not generally.

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

Yes, I have had a couple crushes. It takes a lot for me to start liking someone that way. I might like someone right now, still trying to work that one out in my head.

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

From last spring until september I had my one and only romantic relationship. Not sure if "romantic" is the kind of relationship I would look for in the future. Very good friends is what I'm after.

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

Never been. Would like to be, someday, if I can find a guy who understands me and who I enjoy spending time with enough.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

In a decade, after I'm married, I would love to have kids. Having kids is something I've always dreamed of. I sort of hope that when I get to that point, I can temporarily set aside my sex-space-bubble so I can do it the natural way, but surrogacy wouldn't be bad either. I would also consider adoption if it became virtually impossible for me to be pregnant.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

Not a big fan, but starting to grow out of the "AHHH! DON'T TOUCH ME!!!" stage. Depends a lot on the person and how strong of a friendship I have towards them. The stronger the friendship, the more I'll allow contact, and the nicer it is, generally.

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

It's not bad....I don't really know. I tried it, and didn't hate it, but it wasn't really top priority for me.

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

Nope.

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Don't think so...

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

No, never, no way. *shudders*

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

None so far.

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

I haven't. Eventually, I might, once I'm married way in the future, just to see what all the fuss is about. (also, see question 6).

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

Hmm...can't really think of any.

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

No one. Might try to tell a couple of my really good friends...but then again, maybe not.

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

Yes.

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

I feel certain people to be beautiful, but I don't feel attracted to them. It's just like admiring artwork to me. I sometimes do feel drawn to people, but only because I think they would make a good friend. This tends to be driven by feeling good 'vibes' from the person - like if they have a good aura, and if they have a good sense of humor, which is very important to me.

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

No.

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

No. Having a circle of good friends is enough for me.

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

Never.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

No, but if I ever change my mind, I will adopt.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

I'm ambivalent about it. It doesn't bother me because where I live, people tend to be quite physical (ie hug and kiss both cheeks when they meet,) so I'm used to it.

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

I don't mind hugs, but that's as far as I go.

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

No, and never will.

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

No.

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

No, never have, and never will. I don't understand why some people feel driven to do it really...

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

No.

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

No, I'd feel too disgusted. I feel no need to do so anyways.

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

No.

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

None, because I'd probably be thrown out of my house. :? I won't tell my friends either because they wouldn't understand. I have made several STRONG hints though, and I think that now they get the point. [/b]

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

Yes.

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

Yes. Usually aesthetic and/or psychological.

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

I have done in the past. Not at the moment.

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

I have been. I would be interested in another relationship, if I can find someone who can restrict it to romance only and not demand sex.

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

Haven't been, but would like to sometime in the future.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

Possibly. If I did, I'm almost certain I would choose to adopt.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

Depends on the person. With good friends, hugs are always welcome. With people I don't know, I dislike any sort of physical contact.

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

Depends. Hugging and non-sexual touching I can deal with - but I'd prefer to go without the kisses.

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

I have been.

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

No. I usually find it more amusing than anything...

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

I do, very infrequently.

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

Haven't done so far.

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

I have done. I don't want to do it again. Ever.

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

Yes... sort of.

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

None so far. I intend to tell my best friend as soon as I can get in touch with her. I don't really think my family needs to know, to be honest. Colleagues certainly don't...

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

Yes

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

Yes, intelectually and psychologically.

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

Yes, I've had at least 2 crushes :oops:, but not now.

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

Never been in a relationship; :? In my mind, I'd like a relationship, but in life, I'm not so sure it would work out.

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

Never been married, and I'm just interested in having friends right now.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

Don't have children, and don't plan on having any, but adoption sounds much better to me than being shagged.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

I don't mind If I'm offered to shake someone's hand to be polite, but I'd generally prefer not to be touched.

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

I like hugs and kisses from family, even though I may be slighlty embarressed, I just don't like seeing long drawn-out passionate kisses in life and in movies.

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

No, and I don't ever want to.

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Definetely not, just repulsed, uncomfortable, and sickened.

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

:oops: Yes, in the past, though I didn't understand what it was and that it had a name; Now, not much.

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

I don't think so because I've never felt it.

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person? No, never have and don't want to.

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

I don't think so.

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

No one, but my parents might've guessed because they already know I've been different. (never dated, that sort of thing and how touchy I am about being mistaken as gay.)

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual? Oh yes.

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? I can appreciate people aesthetically; there is something awesome of trying to capture the vast expression of an ancient wrinkled smiling face, amongst other things. I also like people's minds; they can think things I would never have thought of, and do so without my having to think them! It's like having a second brain, except you have to socialize with it to continue communication.

I can only imagine a physical, non-sexual attraction would be like if we both had magnets strapped around our waists. c.c

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now? Nope. If I did have a crush on someone, I would approach them in a friendly manner. I don't do crushes: those assume that you are under the misconception that the consequences to approaching someone are far more dire than they reallly are.

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)? Iie. En oh. No. I don't want to be in a romantic relationship because aside from the fact I don't have the instincts to do so, religion and society has perverted romantic relationships beyond what just our instincts tell us to do, into something which I see, on average, as destructive.

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married? o.O No. Just... no. The name of the destructive perversion of human sexual and social bonding is marriage.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption) I am never, not on your life having a biological child. My genes suck; I'm a lucky anomaly in a troubled family. And I can't stand little kids. Just the thought of one of those coming out of me is euugh. And then the thought that I'll gurgle in delight ignoring the world of pain and cuddle it to my breast suddenly deciding it's the best thing that ever happened to me... scary notion. Nope, no way.

Nor through a surrogate, as I said my genes aren't worth much if they produce a mildly insane brainiac every 4 generations or so. Adoption I would consider, as there are lots of kids who need it. I will probably end up working to save the lives of lost and homeless ferrets though, children really aren't that important to me.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people? I don't really like it; it has very little meaning for me. I shake hands confidently, hug tenderly, and walk away from those thinking to myself, "Those crazy normal people, the things they insist upon!"

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people? Well the hormones I mentioned previously make doing that stuff difficult, because then those strange thoughts start impinging on me. Most affectionate contact is hard not to become eventually aroused by. An exception is kissing: I do not like kissing at all.

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people? Well not yet at any rate. I'm kind of glad of that; I'm one of the rare people in their 20's who can rightfully claim to never have put bits together.

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium) Sometimes erotic stories, racy novels and the like, arouse me like a match on a tumbleweed covered in gasoline. Usually those novels are just dumb, gratuitous and all. I have some pornographic images, but they are mostly for educational purposes (my high school didn't teach its students sex education).

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past? I have been since I was about 9 years old. It's fun if a bit annoying, and a time sink.

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people? Not unless they're being sexual with each other and not me. ;) Seriously, I don't think I have. Sometimes there is a certain sympathy of arousal when I know someone else is experiencing that ultimate pleasure.

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person? Is this a trick question? No. I'd like to avoid it if I can. It doesn't really seem like all that big of a deal to me, having sex that is, but I hear it does things like emotionally bonds you with your partner, and makes you walk around humming and opens your eyes to how much you've always loved them, and want children so much. If that is even an exaggeration of the truth, I don't want a single part in it.

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing? Um... c.c... I like hrm... animals. My interest in the many varied kinds of mating rituals and positions is not limited to human beings, as prevalant as they are on the Internet.

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality? As many of them who have asked, which is exactly 0. ;p I must not "project" very well because there are things about which I have very strong convictions, that nobody ever even thinks to ask about. My mom knows sort of, as she asked me if I was in a relationship and I said, "I never really felt that way about people."

Thanks for taking the time to answer these questions!

:wink: :D

Ohh, now I'm going to be late for my first day on the job. :oops: My fault totally. I'm stalling on these boards when I should be sleeping.

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

Yes

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

No

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

No (tihs one's really foreign to me)

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

No

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

No

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

No

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

Dislike

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

Dislike

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

On a couple of occasions

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Yes

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

Yes

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

Not really sure, so I'd have to answer "No"

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

Once is enough

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

There's certain kinds of porn I like which might be considered fetish

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

I haven't told any of them. I'm sure a few have guessed. They don't try to set me up with their sisters or anything.

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

yes

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

yes

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

not sure... there have been people I've known and though to be attractive, who I've spent a little time thinking about and hope to see again... but I don't spend a lot of time with these thoughts. does that qualify?

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

I have been, briefly, and think I'd like to again at some point.

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

haven't ever been, but think it'd be great to have such a deep connection with another person to warrant that kind of devotion.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

don't have kids now, not really in any position to take care of them if I did, either. maybe sometime down the line, if it seems the right thing to do.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

for the most part, like.

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

tough one... could take or leave kissing, affectionate contact is good if I know and like the person, but too much is, well, too much. frankly I find kissing boring.

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

nope, never. except some simple making out, which I don't think counts.

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

thinking... thinking ... no, I don't think I ever have.

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

yes. yes I do.

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

nope... never so far.

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

never have, but I think I'd be inclined to give it a whirl if the opportunity falls in my lap, so to speak, with someone I know, like, and respect.

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

definitely.

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

I do, and I haven't told anyone. not sure how they'd react, and to be honest I'm yet mentally ready to write off the "late bloomer" hypothesis, even though all the evidence so far indicates otherwise.

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

I do now that I know that thats the term for the way I am.

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

Yes, but I think its only really aesthetic or romantic attraction.

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

Ive had crushes before but not in a sexual sense.

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

Im not now, and Ive never been, but I would like to one day.

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

Im not married, and Im not really bothered whether or not I ever get married.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

I would like at least 1 child one day, but probably only through adoption.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

Yes, I love hugging, holding hands and tickling.

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

Im very affectionate and "touchy feely", but I don't really enjoy kissing.

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

No, never.

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Nope

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

Nope.

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

Again, nope.

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

Im not curious about it enough to ever try it. I just don't find it interesting.

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

Not that I can think of.

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

I think the people closest to me have probably guessed, but Ive never officially "Come out".

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

Pretty much.

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

Sure

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

Yes more like admiration from afar kinda dealie, not sexual though.

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

I am in one but am having some second thoughts due to my antisocial tendencies and general apathy.

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

No.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

No.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

I put up with it

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

It can be okay in small doses but otherwise I avoid it

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

Yes, I have and I'd be happy to never do it again

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Not so much anymore

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

Yes, but not often. I try to avoid it.

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

Yes but it was more of the bodies' natural response to a stimuli. My body was there but my mind wasn't in it.

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

See number 9

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

Nope

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

Many people know, not quite everyone, but most know

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1. Do you consider yourself to be asexual?

No

2. Do you experience non-sexual attraction to other people? (eg. aesthetic, physical, psychological, etc...)

Yes

3. Have you ever had a crush or do you have a crush on someone now?

Yes

4. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, in a romantic relationship with another person (or persons)?

Yes

5. Are you, have you been, or would you like to be, married?

I haven't been. I'd like to be to be "normal," to experience a part of life most people experience, etc. But there's the sex thing and the "always hanging around" thing, and I'm used to being alone.

6. Do you have or would you like to have children? (Through conventional means, through surrogacy, or through adoption)

I wouldn't like to particularly, maybe one day. I don't really like kids.

7. Do you like or dislike non-sexual physical contact with other people?

Generally dislike. But sometimes it's fine. Sometimes it's great. But I'm not touchy-feely.

8. Do you like or dislike affectionate contact or kissing with other people?

Generally yes, unless I have control (doing it to someone else) or something. Making out with strippers was fine. I guess they're just not threatening. But a guy puts his hand on my leg, and...blech.

9. Are you, or have you been, involved in sexual acts with other people?

Yes

10. Do you ever become sexually aroused by porn or erotica? (Of any medium)

Lord yes. I'm horny now, LOL! Um, not by porn but stories. Slash stories.

11. Do you ever masturbate, or have you done so in the past?

Yes

12. Do you ever become sexually aroused by other people?

If we're doing something, yes.

13. Do you have, or have you ever had, or would you like to try, sexual intercourse with another person?

I have had intercourse. Blech, nothing to write home about. :)

14. Do you have, or have you ever had, a fetish that could in any way be interpreted as sexually arousing?

Yes. Slash/yaoi, younger guys (like teens--I know)...Punk, really. Like this teenage boy I saw at RenFest in a fishnet shirt and dog collar and on a leash. Sweet. I'd say my interests vary over time.

15. If you consider yourself to be asexual: How many of your family, friends and colleagues know about your asexuality?

N/A

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1. Yes.

2. Occasionally.

3. Yes, in the past, but not recently.

4. I have been in the past, but am not now, and am not interested.

5. No, no, and no.

6. No, and no.

7. Sometimes, if appropriate, with someone I feel emotionally close to.

8. Occasionally, if appropriate, with someone I am very close to. (There is no one who fits that description now.)

9. Yes, but not recently.

10. Infrequently. I don't seek it out.

11. Infrequently.

12. Rarely.

13. Isn't this the same as Question #9? Yes, in the past. Now? Indifferent.

14. No.

15. My mom (the only family I have) and some of my friends know that I have virtually no interest in sex. But I have never used the term "asexual" to describe myself with them.

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