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I watched Queer As Folk tonight for the second time.. rerun, but I'd never seen it. I'm not a fan of the show, but being so involved in queer culture and all I thought I should give it a chance. There's more nudity and sex in it that I expected!

Today I saw it was on again and decided to give it another chance. Slightly better, still a lot of naked men which proved to me once and for all that if I'm nothing else, I'm definitely not straight. And it had a little bit more of a storyline this time too.

What it also had was naked women as well. I didn't react in quite the disgusted way I did as when I saw the men. Maybe it's because I was simply amazed (and pleased) to actually see women naked on TV for the first time. It's usually quite taboo.

It left me in a good deal of distress, or confusion, though, when the show was over, though, to figure out why I had reacted as I did to the women. I don't feel any sexual urges or attraction or crushes to women in real life... but on TV, it seems different. I will stare at women's bodies sometimes thinking how beautiful they are. Maybe it's because it was a beautiful scene and I was reacting as such, but maybe it's something more. I don't feel any physical desire whatsoever to have sex... but it makes me wonder when I react like that to something like that on TV. How can I be completely asexual if I have a physical response, albeit mild, to something like that on TV? It just doesnt make sense to me. It left me wondering where I fit in , asexual, lesbian, somewhere in between. And I'm a person that desperately needs to fit in somewhere.

for a while i thought very much i was a lesbian and maybe ive just integrated into my body and mind what I've learned from society should be the responses of a lesbian. Otherwise how would you explain something i feel only when watching fake characters on tv and not real genuine human beings?

sorry for the long post- takes me a while to get things out.

Can anyone provide any words of wisdom for me (speaking words of wisdom, let it be, let it be...)?

:)thanks

Kate

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I have a friend who LOVES that show! I don't like it at all though, here's why:

*Me and my friend, in his room. 5 AM*

Me: I'm tired . . .

Him: But this is the season finale I missed!

The TV: The Queer as Folk marathon continues, after these messages (and i shows another hour of episodes)

Me: *dies*

And again *at my friend's house watching TV*

Me: Ooo! Put it on TSN! WWE RAW is on!!

Him: But queer as folk is on!

It's sort of the same reason why I hated Star Trek as a kid: it was on a channel, there was cartoons on another channel, and dad insisted on always watching Star Trek :P

But seriously though, I find that there's too much sex in that show (QaF, not Star Trek *LOL*)

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I watch QaF. I know people who work on the set. The first season is infinitely better than the second, which is utter rubbish, and likely the third and fourth. The UK version is also very entertaining, and there's less sex in it.

I always look away when the characters are having sex on the screen. It helps, somewhat.

Maybe you're having trouble with the girl's sex scenes because Mel and Linds are hot.

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Kate,

I identify. I have similar experiences regarding other men, and so for many years self-identified as a low-libido gay. I think there is a difference between stimulation and attraction. A difference between finding something interesting to look at and wanting to join in. As it says in other places on this site, there are many shades and gradations of asexuality. The common thread is a lack of sexual attraction to others. The not wanting to do it with someone, if you will.

From what i have read in this site and other places, it seems that some asexuals like to cuddle, some don't, some find others stimulating, some don't, some engage in self-stimulation, some don't, and so on. It sounds like you still do not want go out and be sexual with anyone, which is the basic definition, I keep seeing. Within this mansion, to steal a metaphor, there are many houses.

boa

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Thanks boa.. glad to know that someone identifies. yeah... definitely many rooms in the mansion :)

Uzumaki, it interests me why you used the word "hot" when no one here really seems to know the definition of that word per se, myself included...what does it mean to you? do you find them hot? and is it possible to use the word hot in conjuction with people who are asexuals?

Kate

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Hot as in good looking. I don't want to screw anybody, least of all girls, but that doesn't mean I don't find them attractive.

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Of course, we hopefully don't need labels that badly. Being any orientation isn't taking a vow to be attracted to something or nothing, it's just a way of describing our state of being. And (a)sexualities don't have to be static, despite what some people might say. ^_^ So don't worry! In a way, it's kind of neat and interesting to have something new to explore within yourself. I always love it when that happens. Yay heavy introspection of the modern era!

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I watch QaF. I know people who work on the set. The first season is infinitely better than the second, which is utter rubbish, and likely the third and fourth. The UK version is also very entertaining, and there's less sex in it.

I always look away when the characters are having sex on the screen. It helps, somewhat.

well, i do enjoy the series QAF...since i don't get showtime, i downloaded the first season on kazaa last year, and i liked it so much, i actually bought the dvds. i think the story line for the first season is VERY good, as at least for me i can relate to justin's struggles with his coming out. the sexual scenes don't disgust me per se (i think the scenes with brian and justin are hot because of the intimacy shared during the act, not because of the actual act itself), but i think that overall there is a bit too much sex depictred. on the other hand, i do give the series credit for presenting such controversial material never before presented in such a public forum (such as showtime).

so far, i've only watched a handful of episodes from the second season, but ted's heavy involvement with porn is really most disturbing to me. i guess that's one thing that truly does disgust me - porn. i don't mind watching sex in the context of a loving exchange, but explicit raunchy sex is so disgusting to me. and that by the way has been a really weird thing for me to deal with - my friends who watch porn.

anyway, so far i do see some merits in the second season's storyline, but the porn thing is a real turn off. i'll have to see some more episodes before i decide whether or not to buy the season 2 dvds. hopefully season 3 will be better (though likely not). i haven't seen the uk version yet...i'll have to look into it!

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