AVENguy Posted April 4, 2004 Share Posted April 4, 2004 Just making a point: http://www.bettersex.com/sexdata/term.asp?termid=16 We're about to hit 1k. Maybe it's time to start taking on some sexologists? Not that we should necessarily start with the vanilla porn/relationship improvement industry, but it might be high time we started raising academic discussion beyond the Kinsey institute... Link to post Share on other sites
AVENguy Posted April 4, 2004 Author Share Posted April 4, 2004 http://www2.rz.hu-berlin.de/sexology/GESUND/ARCHIV/CDS.HTM (2012 Mod Edit: click here) asexual. (adj.) Non-sexual; without sex. Generally speaking, the term should not be applied to a person, since every man and woman is a sexual being. However, there are some individuals who, in their entire lives, never show any interest in sexual activity. In these very few cases, the term could be a suitable characterization of their personalities. The word "asexual" also provides a useful description of kinds of behavior which do not have or which seek to avoid any overt sexual implications. For example, there is an asexual way of describing human reproduction by concentrating on the biological facts without reference to the feelings of the man and the woman involved. There are also asexual relationships between men and women, such as professional cooperation at work. In fact, the ability of both sexes to engage in asexual relationships for the sake of some objective social goal is important for a healthy society. Link to post Share on other sites
bard of aven Posted April 4, 2004 Share Posted April 4, 2004 And I love the blurb on the left: did you know we also sell erotic videos. But yeah, we could use a formally trained asexologist of three. boa Link to post Share on other sites
AVENguy Posted April 4, 2004 Author Share Posted April 4, 2004 This just gets better and better: http://www.bettersex.com/doctor/default.as...ntimacyqa2.html My personal favorite: Why isn't my girlfriend interested in sex?Question: It seems that my girlfriend of 7 years isn't at all interested in sex. I feel that she has no passion, or desire for me in that way. When we talk about it, she tells me that it's not like that. She says that she does have desires for me. But, it seems the only time that she has these "desires" is Sunday nights when we go to bed around midnight. She also tells me that I need to give her time. Is 7 years not enough? We live & work together. We have lived together for 3 years. I'm starting to lose my interest in sex with her greatly. When it comes to foreplay, it's pretty much me doing it all. I love her very much. I feel that I have been very fair and understanding. We actually discuss this, but sometimes it turns into an argument. How can I get her to start opening up to me sexually? I don't want to cheat on her. But, masturbation can only take me so far. Any ideas? Answer: This relationship sounds like its suffering from a lack of intimacy. Is there a commitment here? If not, why not? I hear evidence of mutual annoyance, frustration, arguments, fear of rejection, thoughts of an affair, and resentment. Not a good breeding ground for good sex. I suggest you both run, not walk, to the office of a licensed professional experienced in treating intimacy issues and get some expert advice. I forgot! People aren't interested in sex unless there's COMMITEMENT involved. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 4, 2004 Share Posted April 4, 2004 I can't imagine reading that site is good for anyone's blood pressure... Link to post Share on other sites
ApolloSeek Posted April 4, 2004 Share Posted April 4, 2004 And I love the blurb on the left: did you know we also sell erotic videos.But yeah, we could use a formally trained asexologist of three. boa What are the qualifications? Link to post Share on other sites
ApolloSeek Posted April 4, 2004 Share Posted April 4, 2004 I can't imagine reading that site is good for anyone's blood pressure... If viewed in the right perspective, it could be funny. You could compile incidents into a collection titled "Stupid Sexual Tricks". Perhaps Knellotron could interp the incidents in computer animation and film. Have Ming the Merciless saying "Pathetic sexuals-who can save you now?" as the intro. Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted April 4, 2004 Share Posted April 4, 2004 LOL@Apollo! I'm not even going to look at the sites--Tressa's right, it would only completely tick me off. And I'm too tired to bring out Lady MacBeth to do some smiting right now. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
AVENguy Posted April 4, 2004 Author Share Posted April 4, 2004 It's got nothing to do with stupid SEXUALS. This isn't about a group of people, it's about a certain perspective on sexuality. I think it's important to keep that distinction clear lest we flirt with antisexuality.Despite it's name, the Coalition for Positive Sexuality provides a good counterexample:http://www.positive.org Just Say Yes is about having a positive attitude towards sexuality -- gay, straight,bisexual or whatever. It's about saying "yes" to sex you do want, and "no" to sex you don't. It says there's nothing wrong with you if you decide to have sex, and nothing wrong with you if you decide not to.You have the right to make your own choices, and to have people respect them.Sex is enjoyable when everyone involved is into it, and when everyone has the information they need to take care of themselves and each other. It's interesting how similar the two sites are in ideology. Link to post Share on other sites
ApplePie Posted April 4, 2004 Share Posted April 4, 2004 AVENguy has touched upon my pet hate about some AVEN posts (and I agree with him):- this is nothing to do with hatred of ‘stupid sexuals’. Whilst some here will be antisexual (which they have every right to be in free society), we should bear in mind that seeking this kind of division and negative feelings is generally counterproductive, and I personally don't like to see it. I've sought plenty of overpriced advice from psychosexual experts, psychiatrists, doctors etc and a key message I’ve received is that perceptions of sexuality are increasingly becoming more open-minded - i.e. the differentiation between what is a 'disorder' and what is 'normal' attraction/response is maturing (albeit some professionals are unwilling to advance their thinking - but that seems to be typical of medical academics in general!) The only 'problem' is when folks find their unusual sexual orientation or level of sexual interest causes them difficulties in accepting themselves or gaining the acceptance of others (e.g. inhibiting relationships or receiving social stigma). Ask yourself: "why am I here at this website?". :idea: As a group of people seeking to promote awareness of our various forms of 'asexuality', the last thing we should be doing is expressing hatred of those with different forms of sexuality to ourselves. Indeed any psychiatrist would see such widespread hatred is a concern in itself. The sooner people embrace the multidimensional possibilities of sexual orientation and interest - the sooner we and those who are similar (or totally different!) to us will gain acceptance. Just as with racism, both sides of the divide can be as bad as each other in their discrimination. :) [rant ends] ApplePie Link to post Share on other sites
bard of aven Posted April 4, 2004 Share Posted April 4, 2004 Hear! Hear! boa Link to post Share on other sites
fluffy_hime Posted April 4, 2004 Share Posted April 4, 2004 AG, do you mean "taking on sexologists" like taking them on in debate, or taking them on the AVEN staff? I agree completely, ApplePie. I'd just like to point out there's a big difference between "That is disgusting" (not an anti-sexual opinion), and advocating violence toward sexuals, insulting them, etc etc. Link to post Share on other sites
AVENguy Posted April 5, 2004 Author Share Posted April 5, 2004 More in debate. I haven't read volumes of sexology, but I think it might be able to benefit from a good discussion of asexuality. Link to post Share on other sites
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