__AJ__ Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 pretty much anytime a guy whom you dont know comes up to you and says something, you pretty much assume hes after sex, correct? Link to post Share on other sites
Nalle Neversure Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 Nope, I don't assume that. Wouldn't come to my mind :lol: Unless I'm walking alone in the dark... Link to post Share on other sites
merkat82 Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 Not I! Though, of course it depends on what he says, if he comes up to me and says, "Hey baby, wanna have sex?" ahahaha then yeah I do! But generally I don't. :) I usually think, "YAY! This person wants to talk to ME! How awesome!" Then I get really disappointed to find out he just wants sex. :( Link to post Share on other sites
Hayley Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 Depends on what he says for me too but usually I assume he 'likes the look of me', whether that be because he thinks we'll have a lot in common or because he thinks we'll have a lot of sex. *shrug* 'though admittedly my appearance does seem to attract men looking for a 'kinky' experience. :? Maybe I should assume it's sex he's after more often. Link to post Share on other sites
birdnerd Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 Nope. Innocent until proven guilty. If I can have an interesting, enjoyable conversation with him, I regard him as a potential friend. Actually, now that I think about it, most of my close friends are guys anyway, so it doesn't strike me as very much out of the ordinary to begin with. Link to post Share on other sites
emmarainbow Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 :D No, it doesn't usually enter my head! Link to post Share on other sites
rosalie Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 pretty much anytime a guy whom you dont know comes up to you and says something, you pretty much assume hes after sex, correct? :shock: Usually, I am too surprised / half freaked out to assume anything. Link to post Share on other sites
GreyCloud Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 I never thought anyone could be sexually attracted to me. (and I never wanted anyone to be). I only know of one guy who was attracted to me and for a while I though (or hoped) it was just a deep friendship/ little crush. I don't consider myself a person one could be attracted to, especially not a stranger who doesn't even know me, after all, it's my personality that one is supposed to like, not my body. I don't feel ugly or unattractive, I just don't feel like I have a sexual vibe. Link to post Share on other sites
Hallucigenia Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 No, but I'm an Aspie. So my results might not be typical? I don't know. Obviously, if a guy comes up and starts talking to you about anything other than the most perfunctory "do you have the time?"-type queries, it means he's interested in you in some way, but I tend to give them the benefit of the doubt and assume it's not sex. It's far more likely that they are interested in getting to know you as a friend or a classmate, or that they have something specific to communicate that may or may not lead to anything more, or that they're simply bored and wanted to talk to someone. Even sexuals have other social needs besides sex, ya know. :D Link to post Share on other sites
Moxed Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 Not really--because 1) I don't think anyone would get that vibe from me and 2) I have a bit of a naive mind. I have a hard time wrapping my head around the notion that sex is on some other's minds much of the time, when it never really crosses my mind. Everyone is innocent! No one is having sex! Okay...but only if they're married! Yeah! No? Aw :( Link to post Share on other sites
Snail Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 no i dont think that at all. sexual men have needs and thoughts other than sex you know. to Moxed - yay another snail avatar :D Link to post Share on other sites
emmarainbow Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 Heh, I was flicking through AVEN with my friend and his reaction to this thread was 'What if he's gay?' Which is a point - I just sort of assume everyone is asexual until they prove otherwise. It's just habit I suppose - so I wouldn't assume he was after sex! :D Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 Some men yes and some men no Link to post Share on other sites
mindlife Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 pretty much anytime a guy whom you dont know comes up to you and says something, you pretty much assume hes after sex, correct? No. Link to post Share on other sites
mackat5 Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 __AJ__; not the folks that I know. Even the fellows who don't know me seem usually to know better. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 is he also staring at my breasts and trying to touch me? Link to post Share on other sites
KAGU143 Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 *lol* at vanilla black tea ... but, yeah. In most cases it would never occur to me that a guy might strike up a conversation with me in the hopes of getting sex. To be honest, the whole idea of that makes me laugh. But, um ... if they were being grabby at the same time (and if I didn't know them well enough for them to be joking around) then I would definitely consider it. And then I would probably STILL laugh, because man, oh man ... would they ever be barking up the wrong tree! -GB Link to post Share on other sites
cijay Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 pretty much anytime a guy whom you dont know comes up to you and says something, you pretty much assume hes after sex, correct? Not even close. Link to post Share on other sites
BunnyK. Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 pretty much anytime a guy whom you dont know comes up to you and says something, you pretty much assume hes after sex, correct? Depends on where we are, what he says, and how he says it. It doesn't bother me either way, as long as he's not crude or pushy. Link to post Share on other sites
ily Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 pretty much anytime a guy whom you dont know comes up to you and says something, you pretty much assume hes after sex, correct? Well, depends on what he says... Link to post Share on other sites
IceCreamAssassin Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 It depends on the situation. But I'm generally a misanthrope so I tend to think: Jeez, this guy is creepy, I gotta get out of here. Also fueled by the fact that women don't randomly talk to me nearly as much as random old men do. Guys my age I'm not as hesitant to talk to, unless its on the red line (Chicago) and the first thing they say to me is "Ever dated a black guy?" That was strange. >_< I don't usually think "sex" but I do think they talk to me because they like the way I look. I tend to forget people think about sex as much as they do. Agh, I ranted. Link to post Share on other sites
Nalle Neversure Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 Everyone is innocent! No one is having sex! Okay...but only if they're married! Yeah! No? Aw :( Yeah, that. I have pink glasses on. :) Link to post Share on other sites
retrophile Posted January 20, 2008 Share Posted January 20, 2008 pretty much anytime a guy whom you dont know comes up to you and says something, you pretty much assume hes after sex, correct? Nope, never. I can't read body language, so people pretty much want exactly what they say they want, until proven otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
noise Posted January 20, 2008 Share Posted January 20, 2008 they're always after something i'm not going to provide them with. like my time, for instance. ahaha. i'm cruel. Link to post Share on other sites
AVENCakes Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 well, given my track record, I'm lucky if they don't practiclaly come out and say "**** me". I attract the most perverted, over-sexed.... It was 2 guys, I don't assume all men are like that unless they make it clear they are. And I miss the obvious, so they gotta make it REALYL FREAKING OBVIOUS. ..wait, you asked women. dagg, not me. *coughs* yeah. Link to post Share on other sites
cait Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 pretty much anytime a guy whom you dont know comes up to you and says something, you pretty much assume hes after sex, correct? Hah. actually, no. And where does that get me? Leading them on. Because apparently they have assumed that I knew they wanted sex and by returning their attention I am actually indicating that I want it also. Apparently. Or some such thing. Whatever! I thought we were just talking! Link to post Share on other sites
AVENCakes Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 pretty much anytime a guy whom you dont know comes up to you and says something, you pretty much assume hes after sex, correct? Hah. actually, no. And where does that get me? Leading them on. Because apparently they have assumed that I knew they wanted sex and by returning their attention I am actually indicating that I want it also. Apparently. Or some such thing. Whatever! I thought we were just talking! Coffee is never just coffee, and talking is never just talking. There's a sexual code, I'm sure of it. Like how girls can see dirt that isn't there. O_O I cleaned it 5 times and the girl in charge of us cleaning the hall can still find dirt. Link to post Share on other sites
ThePieMaker Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 pretty much anytime a guy whom you dont know comes up to you and says something, you pretty much assume hes after sex, correct? I don't because I have a pretty innocent look on that stuff and like to think that guys are scumbags. Obviously I have been disappointed many times. Plus, I'm pretty sure guys don't dig me like that. I'm sort of one of the guys and I can sometimes give off the "I will castrate you if you try anything" vibe. Link to post Share on other sites
__AJ__ Posted January 22, 2008 Author Share Posted January 22, 2008 awesome :D i like these responses I feel like im always being persecuted as being another horny guy, when im a friendly asexual Link to post Share on other sites
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