Guest Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 I haven't read any of Anne Rice's books, though I did read "Carmilla." Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 Hey, I thought I would throw my two cents in...I'm sexually excited by change! Anything, quarters, nickels, dimes, pennies. Actually, just kidding. Sort of went off on the two cents tangent there. Yeah, I know I'm weird. Actually, I have a really boring fetish - feet - the most normal one out there. I don't know if I really get sexually excited, but I find attractive feet sexy and unattractive feet REALLY repulsive. Plus, my heart does start beating a little faster when somebody takes their socks off. :D Link to post Share on other sites
Silly Green Monkey Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 Funny how when a thread disappears, it announces it on the index screen. Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 Tickles are good. :) I can't say I get aroused by them, but they are a form of losing control like sex is. That fetish is called knismolagnia (nis-mah-LAG-nee-ah), by the way. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
fluffy_hime Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 Oooh, I wonder if other fetishes have names? Why is the space below my sig so large? Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 I have an entire book of names of fetishes. Do you want to know anything in particular? *is huge word dork* Cate Link to post Share on other sites
Jayann Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 Why is the space below my sig so large? Because the space your post creates is a certain size partially determined by the size of your avatar, and, if you've written lots, the amount of text lines. If you've not written much, and you have a short sig, then all that extra space is because the post needs to be a certain size to accommodate your avatar's size. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 I have an entire book of names of fetishes. What I want to know is, how the hell did you think of buying that book? ;) Or was it just spur of the moment? Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 *thinks* It wasn't something I went looking for, but sex (particularly variations that are not part of the norm) fascinates me. I have several books of literature pertaining to it, but I didn't seek that book out, no. When I saw it I thought, 'Cool!' and immediately got it. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
sangofe Posted September 11, 2004 Share Posted September 11, 2004 Welcome Isabella!It was a fantasy type love because he was not in love with me; in fact, he was a married man, so I just fantasized about closeness with him. I hear you on this! My a-crushes (the few I've had) tend to be on people unattainable for one reason or another. In the past I think this was mainly to avoid the prospect of physical intimacy, which I was very uncomfortable with. Now that I know myself a little better, I don't imagine it will be much of an issue. I think it's entirely possible to have a fetish and be asexual. If you read the FAQs, you'll see there are types of asexuals who have a sex drive of some sort, just not the wish to participate with another person. I don't think I have any...but I guess it depends how you define "fetish." What's yours? -I think it might get off topic, but I think i am asexual. one time i got a crush at this girl, it got kinda attracted to her as person because she had a sexy nose piercing, then, later on, i got a crush on her because she was really nice to me and treated me very well, no one had put attention to me like this before... since that, i havent had a crush, but I havent really met any girls either. Link to post Share on other sites
sangofe Posted September 11, 2004 Share Posted September 11, 2004 I have an entire book of names of fetishes. Do you want to know anything in particular?*is huge word dork* Cate Any fetish about Piercing there ? (jewellery, the piercing process and the holes)... Link to post Share on other sites
Xezlec Posted September 12, 2004 Share Posted September 12, 2004 Ok, I've said it everywhere else, so I'll say it here too: I have -zero- attraction to males OR females, emotionally OR physically. The only thing that excites me (and to clarify, I am indeed referring to real, physical arousal) is my whole sadism thing. That's instead of the normal things that are supposed to arouse people (i.e. genitalia, body shapes, sex), not "in addition to". Tressa: I know exactly how you feel. I am soooo not a psychopath, and I have no desire for anyone in the real world to be subjected to anything resembling one of my sadist fantasies, regardless of how much it would "turn me on" to see it on TV. Seeing such things on TV simultaneously "turns me on" and disgusts me. Weird, but that's how it is. Strong sense of morality + sadism fetish = a strange person. And to whoever said they had a whole book of different fetish names (was it Cate?), maybe "sadism" isn't quite the right word for mine. I mean, I have no desire to be the inflictor, just an observer, and I desire no physical contact. In fact, it doesn't even need to be pain per se, just "suffering" in general I guess. It's a little embarassing to go into such detail, but I want to be sure I'm using the right word, hehe. Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted September 12, 2004 Share Posted September 12, 2004 Any fetish about Piercing there ? (jewellery, the piercing process and the holes)... I'm looking for you...might take a bit. Have you tried to google it? Meanwhile, I found out I'm a gerafavic. Good for me. :) Another good one: acedolognia: complete indifference to sexual matters. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
kosweets Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 Welcome, Isabella!! You are not the only one with a fetish. And I love cuddling, too! Link to post Share on other sites
Nicky Posted October 8, 2004 Share Posted October 8, 2004 Hello Isabella and everyone else. This is my first post and it is this thread that has encouraged me to register. I too have thought I was somewhat asexual, that is I do not enjoy or desire intercourse, but I do have a fetish. It arouses me sexually although it is not sex-related. I can become aroused by simple observation and there are web-sites dedicated to my fetish. It is remarkably common but I thought I was super-wierd until the Internet entered my life. My dream is to find a partner with the same fetish and the same lack of desire for intercourse but to do this I must say what it is that turnes me on.... Overall, my sex drive is low and I don't often get arousal in normal sexual situations. Thanks for starting this thread - I really do feel more comfortable with myself now. Nicky Link to post Share on other sites
wombat Posted October 8, 2004 Share Posted October 8, 2004 My dream is to find a partner with the same fetish and the same lack of desire for intercourse Yep. You and me both, nicky. There are actually a suprising number of asexual fetish people out there. It's kinda bizzare, at least with the fetish thing....but i still think we're functionally asexual. It's a subject of much inner debate. I can't say that mine is an observable thing....just moreso a thing. But...i just wanted to say that your not alone. There are others as well. In my case, not only is my dream to find a partner with the same fetish as well as asexual....i'd like to start a family. So.....Some things will have to change. Maybe it will have to be a person who is tollarant of my fetish. WHO KNOWS. Anyway. See a thread called "15 questions" under the fourm "Asexual Q and A) EDIT: Drat! with all that racket, I missed a bracket! Making wine making cheese, that's all i want, if you please. YAY RHYMES! Link to post Share on other sites
Luxi Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 I've got a fetish/obsession but I feel a little embarrassed about it and I've never told anyone before. I find I get aroused by gay men although they don't have to be doing anything sexual and I have the same feeling even if it's a straight guy who acts camp. I also like wearing male clothes and behaving like a man but I think that bit is more linked to gender dysphoria than anything else :lol: Liz Link to post Share on other sites
pejoratist Posted October 12, 2004 Share Posted October 12, 2004 I'm into autoerotic asphyxia, but not in the ill-planned noose scheme kind of way. I prefer to be choked or smothered in some way. Some big-time autoerotic aspyxiacs mistake themselves for being without a sex drive because they cannot get turned out without being suffocated/aspyxiated. I don't think that is the case with me, though. Link to post Share on other sites
Scabs Posted October 12, 2004 Share Posted October 12, 2004 Luxi, I have the same thing.I <3 drag queens and have always fantasized about being one.Hence also why i mostly refer to myself as homosexual.When I'm attracted to another male, I'm attracted to the guy in the masculine sense, and hardly ever view myself as the female... Did I mention that one of my coworkers just so happens to be an absolutely ravishing homosexual drag queen? :D Is awesomeness to the core. Link to post Share on other sites
Luxi Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Luxi, I have the same thing.I <3 drag queens and have always fantasized about being one.Hence also why i mostly refer to myself as homosexual.When I'm attracted to another male, I'm attracted to the guy in the masculine sense, and hardly ever view myself as the female...Did I mention that one of my coworkers just so happens to be an absolutely ravishing homosexual drag queen? :D Is awesomeness to the core. Well, thank god, I was starting to think I was the only one! I wish I knew "an absolutely ravishing drag queen" that I could stare at all day long :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
dabishop Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Well, thank god, I was starting to think I was the only one! I wish I knew "an absolutely ravishing drag queen" that I could stare at all day long Oh, heavens, no. You're not the only one! Link to post Share on other sites
Iridis Posted October 15, 2004 Share Posted October 15, 2004 I have a fetish, which I have already described in my newbie post, but to be honest, I don't really like the word "fetish" because it is connected with so many gratuitous and discusting images, and the word itself conjures up disturbing images of latex masks and whips. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly Green Monkey Posted October 15, 2004 Share Posted October 15, 2004 Actually, for me, the word fetish brings up images of little monsters in loincloths who squeak when they're killed. Link to post Share on other sites
Jayann Posted October 15, 2004 Share Posted October 15, 2004 There you have it. Fetish of the Year: Squeaking Lion Cloth Monsters. ;) Link to post Share on other sites
pyromancer Posted October 15, 2004 Share Posted October 15, 2004 Hmm, I too have a "non-sexual" fetish - watching fully clothed adult women getting soaking wet, or getting "gunged", covered in mud / liquid chocolate / whatever. It only works if they're clothed, preferably in something "dowdy" like denim dungarees, below-the knee nurses dresses, jeans and rugby shirts - nothing "sexy" in the traditional sense. I also prefer if the "setup" is fun, like a dare game or joke betting, than any kind of supposed erotic formula. I have no idea where this taste came from - other than suddenly realising, at about age 11, that seeing presenter Sally James in black jeans and shirt deluged on TISWAS (long-ago UK Saturday morning TV show, now elevated to near mythical status by TV archivists for being the first "modern" Saturday morning show) was an incredibly exciting experience. Is this related to my asexuality? I think so, as it doesn't work at all if the participants are naked or skimpily dressed. Traditional porn does nothing for me, and while I've no problem with nudity, I don't find it in any way exciting. Anyway, enough of this ramble, hope I've not put everyone off! :twisted: Blessed Be! Link to post Share on other sites
dabishop Posted October 15, 2004 Share Posted October 15, 2004 Not a-tall. As 'turn-ons' go, wetlook/gunge has to be about the least harmful (as long they've turned up the heat in the studio high enough, I suppose). Sounds more like slapstick than sex to me -- but then sex itself has plenty of joke about it, anyway. :D Link to post Share on other sites
Ack42 Posted October 17, 2004 Share Posted October 17, 2004 I have a fetish: bondage. Yet I am turned off (scared) by S&M, submission/dominance and extreme bondage (masks and such). I think the bondage is a part of my asexuality in that I crave hugs and see bondage as a way to simulate hugs (or see a woman in the embrace of bondage). I suspect many others who are into bondage are also asexual whether they realize it or not because 1) almost everyone who is into bondage got into it before puberty, and 2) several times I have read people on-line commenting that they prefer clothed bondage (as I do) to nude bondage or bondage with sex. Sorry if that was more detail that anyone wanted... :oops: Link to post Share on other sites
Kevin Wood Posted October 17, 2004 Share Posted October 17, 2004 I am wondering if there are any other asexuals who are on this board who have a sexual fetish as well. I don't necessarily want to know what the fetish is, but I just want to find out if anyone shares the combination of asexuality and a fetish. Fetishes, yes I have quite a few; all of which entertain the more mysterious and interesting side of my sexuality. In fact I’m quite into S&M fantasies, I find them hugely engaging. Sometime it’s this, sometimes it’s that, but whatever it is it’s never what the S&M world calls ‘vanilla sex’. Never has been, probably never will. Too boring. I find some similarities with this group vis a vis the S&M world, if people wouldn’t mind my saying that. I’m impressed with the articulation and studiousness of the people; their ability to write and express emotions, share thoughts, and maintain a sense of decency and propriety towards others. It’s interesting. When I first read about asexuality, I wondered if that meant that, just because one wasn’t interested in ‘sex’ per se, did it follow that such a person wouldn’t have any ‘sexuality’ at all? In my own case, there are all manner of things that turn me on, but vanilla sex isn’t one of them. To answer your question: yep, I think I definitely share the combination of asexuality and a fetish or two, or three. All of which is a much less pejorative way of saying that I’m a complete pervert - so thanks! Regards to all, Kev Link to post Share on other sites
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