Sex does nothing to me but my boyfriend yearns for it

[niralt]

Hello everyone

This is my very first thread on this forum! yay! 
For the last 6 months I've been in my first gay relationship in my life. I love my boyfriend a lot and he makes me extremely happy. The only problem is that I'm not a very sexual person.
The thought of sex kind of turns me off and does absolutely nothing to me. But on the other hand, my boyfriend is a very sexual person. We tried having sex not long ago but I didn't feel anything. I was so turned off. We have agreed to open our relationship - "maybe I just need time to get used to being in a relationship with another men" is what we hope is the case. But I'm not gonna lie, I can get very jealous and thinking about my boyfriend laying with someone else breaks me. I have no idea what to do.. To endure? To seek therapy? I love him so much and I want him to be happy as well

I'd love to hear your own experiences and how you handled everything
Thank you for whoever reads this
Have an amazing day! 

[Philip027]

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But I'm not gonna lie, I can get very jealous and thinking about my boyfriend laying with someone else breaks me.

Poly isn't a bandaid for sexual incompatibility.  That might only work if you are both poly-inclined to begin with, and this statement makes me think you are not.

 

You're not going to be able to ignore or shrug off those feelings of jealousy, inadequacy, etc forever.  It may turn out that you two are ultimately incompatible.

[natsume]

It sounds like you are monogamous. If you are monogamous this situation will not work for you. You need to come to a monogamous compromise or the relationship will eventually end. Was he already polygamous? If not, this may just a stopgap solution for him as well.