bagelwater Posted February 4 Share Posted February 4 Hello!! Totally new here. I'm 18 yrs old and I've known about this website for a while, but I've never felt confident enough to even visit, mostly because for a long time I figured I wasn't old enough to really let myself into a-spec spaces because I was young and had a lot of time ahead to learn more about myself, but I'm at the point now where I want to start being honest with myself about where I'm at and start feeling comfortable in my potential orientation. I'm pretty certain I'm asexual, or at the very least grey-ace or some other microlabel, and also possibly somewhere on the aromantic spectrum. But I'm still figuring all that out. I second-guess myself a lot so I always find myself going from "hell yeah I'm ace" to "eh... maybe not? probably not" even if there's no real reason for it. I don't really care too much about figuring out what microlabels could fit be, for now at least, because it's hard to be that specific and confident about how I feel. The main thing I'm trying to find some peace with is the fact that I could be asexual/ace-spec at all. I started writing about some things I want to get off my chest but then I got super carried away and wrote a LOTTTT and I decided dumping all my thoughts in my very first post probably wasn't the smartest idea lmao. So I copied all my notes for future reference just so I know what I want to maybe talk about. There's a lot of stuff I want to get other people's thoughts on because I'm unsure about labels and would love the advice of people who are more comfortable in their orientation to help steer me in the direction that makes the most sense. I know only I can really decide on a label for myself, but it's hard to figure out what label best fits when I'm not too sure what I think or feel to begin with. I think any advice on where to start with sharing my experiences would be most useful at the moment as I'm not sure where exactly the best place is to start. I'm quite a closed-off person so it's been very cathartic just making an account on here and letting myself into this community. I've discussed a couple things about my sexuality in other online spaces, but they weren't in asexual-specific networks like this one so they felt like "safe" options for me because it didn't feel like I was throwing myself into the deep end. AAAAAAAAA this is very exciting and I'm looking forward to meeting people on here!! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purplegems3 Posted February 4 Share Posted February 4 Welcome bagelwater Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j35513 Posted February 4 Share Posted February 4 Hi, welcome! Have some cake! 🍰 If you'd like to hang out with some other teens, there's a Teen Corner thread in the Asexual Musings and Rantings folder, we talk about lots of things there both ace-related and not 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daveb Posted February 5 Share Posted February 5 Welcome! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bagelwater Posted February 5 Author Share Posted February 5 9 hours ago, j35513 said: Hi, welcome! Have some cake! 🍰 If you'd like to hang out with some other teens, there's a Teen Corner thread in the Asexual Musings and Rantings folder, we talk about lots of things there both ace-related and not Thanks for letting me know!! I'll definitely pay it a visit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Autolover Posted February 5 Share Posted February 5 Welcome aboard, Bagelwater! The "Orientation" areas might show you some insights you can use in figuring out all the riddles which we have in ourselves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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