Nuella Posted July 8 Share Posted July 8 Hello everyone . I have a question that has been bothering me for a while now. Am at a age where everyone expects me to be in love or ever have been in love. So I have a kid and everytime anyone asks they will immediately assume I have been with the child's dad for a long time or was in love with him once. The truth is I don't, I didn't love him then and I still don't. I have never been love and I had sex to satisfy my curiosity and to tell the truth I didn't like any of my sexual experiences... Is it that I am not normal or I have to be in love with someone to enjoy sex? Someone explain this to me either a dm or here... Thank you 😊 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inferno_555 Posted July 8 Share Posted July 8 None of this is abnormal. In fact, these experiences are quite common here. And no, you do not need to be in love to enjoy sex. If you don't enjoy it, you just don't, end of story. Same for love, if you don't love him romantically, you just don't. It's not much more complicated than that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abigail Rose Posted July 8 Share Posted July 8 I think there is overwhelming proof that people do not have to be in love, if they are going to have sex. That is way more the normal than waiting for love. Neither way is really wrong. It's just about doing whatever feels right. Don't let peer pressure control you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olallieberry Posted July 8 Share Posted July 8 Similarly, people do not have to have sex to be in love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Espen Posted July 8 Share Posted July 8 Hi @Nuella, don't worry, you are normal. Sounds like you might be Ace, or maybe AroAce. You might want to read about Demisexuality if you think you might need to fall in love in order to want/enjoy sex. Anyway, there is nothing wrong with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Qiri Posted July 10 Share Posted July 10 It may be more prevalent that people have sex as part of a loving relationship with a partner (hence, why the frequent assumptions); however, there are many people who have sex without a relationship with (or romantic feelings towards) the other partner. There's nothing wrong with that if that's what you are happy doing. It may not be "normal" in the sense that it's not the majority of people's experiences/expectations, but that doesn't mean it's not "normal" in the sense that it's somehow wrong or incorrect. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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