Just leaping in to say hello! (and maybe question reality)

[Gentil_Clafoutis]

Hello hello!

 

I'm diving right in like a cheeky little frog leaping into—(this sentence is already way too long.)

(I’m super glad to meet you! :DD)

 

So, hey there, you can call me Al  I’m 21 and I’ve been puzzling over this whole asexuality thing for quite a while now. I never had that teenage phase of swooning over someone, that thing parents mention with a knowing eyebrow wiggle—no crushes, no interest in the mysterious business of the bottom half, and an extremely uncomfortable discomfort discussing it with anyone at all.

 

For the longest time, I genuinely thought no one actually did that stuff, and that people just pretended to get into it during adolescence (maybe to look cool? To be like the characters in those shows? Like the sparkly blue hair phase? For some reason). But recently I found out that is ABSOLUTELY NOT THE CASE thanks to a mate of mine who’s far too extroverted and launches into the topic like a truffle pig on a mission after a few beers (and honestly, even without the beers).

 

Right now, I’m in a full-blown identity crisis across the entire multiverse and I have no idea what’s going on anymore (other than that, things are going well :)). I genuinely don’t get why people are so into an activity that, to me, seems about as appealing as shoving a mölkky stick up your nose, while also assuming everyone else is wildly into the idea too.

 

The gap i'm noticing is jarring, to say the least :,) (So now I just stare blankly out the window on the bus, pondering the meaning of life.)

 

Anyway, I think that’s a decent enough intro chunk :,) Can’t wait to chat with you all and be part of the forum!

Much love

(P.S. Sorry for the massive walls of text. I physically cannot keep it short :,B)

[aceofhearts4]

Welcome! I absolutely know that feeling of how strange it can be to realize that our experiences are not the "norm". If it makes you feel any better I did not realize that some people actually find butts attractive until like a year into college, it broke my brain

[Guest]

Hello and welcome to AVEN, Al! 🍰

[Gentil_Clafoutis]

7 hours ago, aceofhearts4 said:

Welcome! I absolutely know that feeling of how strange it can be to realize that our experiences are not the "norm". If it makes you feel any better I did not realize that some people actually find butts attractive until like a year into college, it broke my brain

Thanks, that's really kind of you! ^^

 

And yes, I totally relate — my mate I mentioned earlier already had a whole rant about this during a walk (I had to go with him ‘cause he was a bit tipsy)(and otherwise he probably would’ve fallen into a hole or something)(or been attacked by a seagull).

 

(It’s so strange to come across things that some people see as so natural they don’t even talk about them — while for you, it’s not even on the radar as a topic :,))

 

(I think it’s not so much that we “discover” we’re asexual — it’s more that we realise most people are sexual.)

 

Anyway, lovely to meet you! ^^

[Gentil_Clafoutis]

5 hours ago, chronicallypessimistic said:

Hello and welcome to AVEN, Al! 🍰

Thanks so much! That’s really kind of you

[mja71130]

On 4/24/2025 at 1:58 AM, Gentil_Clafoutis said:

launches into the topic like a truffle pig on a mission after a few beers

This line cracked me up! 😆

 

Same experiences here! I’ve explained to my friends that I simply don’t have whatever filter they possess that has them look at a person’s body and determine if certain parts are attractive. I could sit and do the mental math against what society deems “attractive,” but honestly, why bother? It’s not worth the effort. I just tell my friends that they’re being gross and keep walking. 
 

Allosexuals are weird. 
 

Anyway, welcome to Aven! 🍰