partridgeberry Posted April 15 Share Posted April 15 Hello! When I joined AVEN almost five years ago now, I was only in the very beginning stages of coming to know my asexuality, and I could hardly have imagined what self-discovery awaited me on the near horizon. I've changed SO much since I was last here, and I never introduced myself back in 2020, so here I am! About two and a half years after being (briefly) present on these forums, I started to question my gender identity, and I quickly discovered that femininity feels profoundly right to me. Until I met my beautiful amazing nonbinary partner, nobody had ever encouraged me to try on a dress, or to grow my hair out, or to pierce my ears, or to simply lean into the softness at the center of myself, truly listen to the voice of my inner child and understand that being brought up into boyhood hurt me. Now I am approaching 15 months of HRT and I've just recently hit one year of social transition! Transition has really helped me to understand my gray-romanticism & gray-asexuality – both are partly informed by a previously unnameable feeling of confusion and repulsion that invariably arose when faced with the reality of my body: dysphoria. And I also feel newly sure that my asexuality comes not only from my dysphoria, but is also a core part of who I am, plain and simple – it's beautiful to be ace! I've come back to the forums primarily to learn more about how other ace peeps navigate romantic and sexual relationships, as I am in a relationship where I desire my partner less than they desire me, and that hurts them sometimes. They're demisexual, and our intimacy is very liberated + trans + wonderful, but however much I enjoy our sexual relationship, I don't often feel the urge to initiate. I'm curious to learn more about my asexuality, and how to be a thoughtful partner to someone who is more allosexual. Gender and (a)sexuality aside, I'm also here to have fun and get to know the community! I'm 24, neurodivergent, a crunchy outdoorsy vegan, and some of my core interests at the moment are edible plants, French philosophy, letter-writing (I have three penpals & I'm open to more!), drawing, and long-distance running. I don't have many IRL friends and I'd love to connect! 💚 18 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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LeChat Posted April 17 Share Posted April 17 @partridgeberry Hi. Welcome back! I like your avatar (i.e. snowy trees). Thank you, for sharing an update about your experiences. [a pic of a round, white cake (on a wooden cake stand, surrounded by a decorative Christmas-like scene) decorate with alternating tall and small snowy trees all around, along with two small ones and a medium-sized one on top. A piece has been cut and put on a wooden plate.] If needed, here are some updated links for the Welcome Lounge forum's rules, The Welcome Lounge Manual (which includes information about each forum), AVEN's "Frequently Asked Questions" (FAQ), and the Site Comments FAQ. If you have any questions about how to use the site, you're welcome to contact me or another Admod for help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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All the little Lights Posted April 21 Share Posted April 21 Welcome back! It is soo nice to read that you found yourself and can heal your inner child. Your post moved me, I really love to hear the stories of other trans people just being happy and themselves. Wish you all the best for your future!🏳️⚧️💜 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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