lilihierax Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 This is just a fear I have. I worry a lot about running out of things to say in a conversation, of being clingy, of boring people when I talk to them, or being off-putting and awkward... 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frameshift07 Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 Worry? I'm terrified of this. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TormentDubz Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 Sometimes 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue eyes white dragon Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 I know I am so I limit my social interactions and when I do have them I minimize myself but even then people think I'm still way annoying 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 The reason I tend not to go up and interact with people is because I'm worried that I'm gonna annoy them. So yeah, basically all the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovely_xm07 Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 I mean, everyone’s been annoying at some point in their lives. I know I’ve been annoying to some people but those people have probably been annoying to other people and so on and so forth. Different people find different things annoying like excessive talking, loud talking, or simply clicking a pen. So yeah, I think about it occasionally, and I know I will probably be to some, but it’s like I said everyone has been annoying on some level to somebody, so although I think about it, I don’t worry about it. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Philip027 Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 Difficult for me to answer. I'm pretty sure I'm at least always thinking about whether I am, but I wouldn't say I'm always worried about it. That highly depends on who it is I'm interacting with. I know some people either don't view the same things as annoying, or don't mind them. (So, option 2, I guess.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Grey Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 Nah. I remember once as a teen I was messing about and laughing during gym class and another girl just asked me to my face "Why are you so annoying?" and my response was just bemusement. And I'm someone who runs on pure anxiety. Funny, I don't want to be seen as boring, cold or snobby, but annoying is fine. 🤷♀️ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liara Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 Always. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sister Mercurial Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 All the damn time, sometimes to the point of nightmares and/or self-harm urges. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blunose2772 Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 Ya. That's why I often opt to say nothing at all. When at a store and need help from an employee I often just stand there scared I taking them away from something important. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KVA1983 Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 Nah. I am extremely free spirited and an oddball at heart so if people find me annoying then they aren't my people. This world is to be lived and not made to bend to the will of what other's think of you. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weird elf Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 Not anymore. Too old for that shit aka ran out of fucks to give. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karret Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 somewhere between occasionally and a lot; with work, I have less time to think about being annoying, and I've got lots of solidary hobbies as well, but when I interact with folks, the worry does creep in on a regular basis. XP Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A User Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 not too often but most of the time. I am almost afraid to talk to people in my classes that I don't know and ask to join groups because of some arbitrary fear (still trying to track why I have this but it's debilitating) but in general in terms not really tbh. I'm actually fine with talking to adults than people my age but that could very well be an autism thing I have my "cringe" interests and I don't give a fuck. I've learned there's enough ppl with interests like mine out there and they're not actively made fun of in my circles so it's fine tbh. literally yolo life's too short not to decorate yourself with merch and accessories about your favorite thing. am I as a person annoying? I hope not tbh. I've been taught how to be normal for so long it takes deliberate effort to come off as annoying unless you're a teacher who hates when I ask questions for clarification Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uhtred Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 A lot - but usually after the fact, where on thinking back I worry I annoyed people. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daveb Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 Not sure if I worry about it, but I do sometimes think "I hope my jokes don't annoy this person/people". More often, my concern is more along the lines of being too boring or too introverted or closed off. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olallieberry Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 Annoyed people are insecure and wish they could have as much fun and be as unfiltered and unselfconscious as us. I'm positive I annoy some people some of the time, and generally don't give a fuck about it at all. If they say something about it, I'll consider their feelings and might consider altering my behavior out of courtesy, but I don't feel like I owe it to anyone to make myself different. If everyone thought I was annoying, or if I thought everyone did, I'd think and feel differently about it, but, it's just personality clashes as well as neurodivergence (mine or theirs), which honestly amounts to the same thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 I yoused to but i haven't in a good while. Well, maybe a little.... I wouldn't say I'm worried but sometimes it's on my mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snao Cone Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 It is an established fact that I am annoying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ceebs Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 5 minutes ago, Snao Cone said: It is an established fact that I am annoying. Yeah, that. Whatever I do, I'm bound to be annoying in one way or another. Sure, not constantly, but in general I'm a difficult person to deal with and that's annoying. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snao Cone Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 10 minutes ago, Mrs Telecaster-to-be said: Yeah, that. Whatever I do, I'm bound to be annoying in one way or another. Sure, not constantly, but in general I'm a difficult person to deal with and that's annoying. I don't think you are annoying, but I understand how it feels so that's why I liked the post. I've just been told too many times that I'm annoying to not assume it is always the case. I can get intense and I don't think the way most other people do, apparently, because conversations I try to have don't take off anywhere. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ceebs Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 7 minutes ago, Snao Cone said: I've just been told too many times that I'm annoying to not assume it is always the case. I've watched people get annoyed or at least frustrated with me since I was a little kid and been told I'm creating impossible situations and all that, and I can see when people are getting irritated and I'm trying not to be... how I am... and can't seem to stop anyway. So yeah, I've taken that on board long ago. 9 minutes ago, Snao Cone said: I can get intense That's my big problem. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 Oh, I don't worry about being annoying. I am annoying. But I don't let that get me down, though I'd like to try being less annoying this year. I worry more about hurting people or bothering them. If I'm annoying someone, they tend to tell me, and then I'll stop. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duke Not-24 Memphis Posted January 6 Share Posted January 6 I'm social, but I'm bad at being social, so yes. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilihierax Posted January 7 Author Share Posted January 7 11 hours ago, KVA1983 said: Nah. I am extremely free spirited and an oddball at heart so if people find me annoying then they aren't my people. This world is to be lived and not made to bend to the will of what other's think of you. 10 hours ago, weird elf said: Not anymore. Too old for that shit aka ran out of fucks to give. I like this mindset. I am becoming more 'dgaf' as I get older with regard to my appearance (I used to have super low self-esteem about that). But my conversational skills are still a point of self-consciousness at the moment. Hopefully that will wane with time as well... 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KVA1983 Posted January 7 Share Posted January 7 5 minutes ago, Lilihierax said: I like this mindset. I am becoming more 'dgaf' as I get older with regard to my appearance (I used to have super low self-esteem about that). But my conversational skills are still a point of self-consciousness at the moment. Hopefully that will wane with time as well... You are a beautiful person inside and out and if those who want to know you can't see that them F them. Excuse my French. ♥ xx But with age does come a more "IDGF" attitude. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilihierax Posted January 7 Author Share Posted January 7 @KVA1983 Ahhh you are too kind, oh my gosh, thank you☺️💜 The same to you though! It's good advice 😄 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J. van Deijck Posted January 9 Share Posted January 9 A lot, but not always. If I know someone well, then I'm not worried about it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpaceDustbin Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 Nah. I know I can be annoying at times, but if people can't handle that, it's their problem . And if they like me for who I am, they won't mind me being annoying occasionally I used to be self-conscious about it though, but I've left that in the past, because life's too short to worry about all that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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