Willow20 Posted November 21 Share Posted November 21 Hello, I have decided I want to tell my story. Sorry if it’s a long read obviously no one is obligated to read it all! Just want to say hi and I’m happy to be here! So here it goes! I would say I first really started to think I was ace my first year of university. I watched cobra Kai and there was a 2second scene in which an unnamed girl says she’s asexual. Hearing it said in a TV show meant so much. Yes it wasn’t exactly great representation but it was on TV! I was so surprised and happy to see that the show was trying to incorporate stuff like that. (Yes I know that’s like the bare minimum but it was the first time I even heard the word spoken on Tv so it meant a lot to me). At the time I don’t think I actually related to or felt like that was something I identified as. I just thought it was cool that they were trying to include more representation. I say that this moment was the beginning but I do think part of me always knew. Anyway, I started thinking more about asexuality my first year at uni and I began to really think that I was ace. I thought about it on my own for another year. Then I ended up kind of accidentally coming out to one of my friends my second year at uni. They were very chill about it but I think I regretted it the next day. I don’t regret it now because it kind of sped up my journey. I think saying it out loud really helped make it real to myself. Anyway, I decided not to mention it again and take the summer to just think through everything on my own. I had no intention of telling anyone else… but I actually ended up telling five other people over the summer LOL. They were my best friends from home and my sister. They were chill about it as well but at this point I still couldn’t say asexual. I could only say ace. I just felt more comfortable saying ace. Once again I regretted telling them a little bit but I’m glad I did. It made it feel more real and kind of took this weight of expectations off me. Also the day I came out to four of my friends happened to be June 1 the start of pride month. This was unintentional but I think it was meant to be. Anyway now I’m in my third year at uni and I’ve told another one of my friends and talked to the first friend I told about it again. This time I actually said the word asexual and not just ace. Improvement! I still haven’t told my parents or my other housemate. But I want to make sure I’m ready before I tell them. Also I just want to say how grateful and lucky I am to have friends and family who are supportive and chill about this stuff because I know not everyone is that lucky. Anyway that’s the summary of my story! I still have good and bad moments in terms of acceptance but I think it’s more good than bad now. Also I have watched other Tv shows with ace characters and read Loveless which has been great! So lmk if you have recommendations! And lmk how you’ve met other ace ppl in person! thanks for reading 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Pack-rat Posted November 21 Share Posted November 21 Hello and welcome. You kind of trailed off at the end there.🍰 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hurta Posted November 21 Share Posted November 21 Hello and welcome!! I'm glad people accepted you, and that you're coming to terms with your identity. Here's the customary cake for you: 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Willow20 Posted November 21 Author Share Posted November 21 Hi! I think I submitted it before I finished writing and I tried editing it but not sure it worked. Clearly I’m still very new to posting on here haha. Also I think I forgot to mention that I’m asexual and grayromantic! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Pack-rat Posted November 21 Share Posted November 21 5 minutes ago, Willow20 said: Clearly I’m still very new to posting on here haha. You’ll pick things up quickly. I remember the struggle i had trying to post pics. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Curious Crow Posted November 21 Share Posted November 21 Hello and welcome, @Willow20 🍰✨😊 I still haven't had the opportunity to meet anyone who I know is ace in person. Since I still feel like I'm figuring things out (and okay, I'm a teensy bit nervous), I've only mentioned to my best friend that I'm probably Aegosexual. A work friend of mine had casually mentioned that she knew a couple of other people on the ace spectrum, but I haven't yet worked up the courage to talk to her (though she's a sweetheart). Will work on it! ✊ 4 hours ago, Pack-rat said: I remember the struggle i had trying to post pics. +1 for this! 🙈 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sister Mercurial Posted November 21 Share Posted November 21 Hello and welcome! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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