the beginning of 30

[Isoo243]

I think there is something wrong with me these days. I attract men who are older or younger than me by a large age difference

[Ceebs]

What's 'a large age difference'? Like are you talking 18-year-olds and 60-year-olds? Or 20-somethings and 40-somethings?

 

At any rate, no one here can really give you answers. We don't know anything about your character, physical features, general demeanour, etc. I doubt there's anything wrong with you, though. Perhaps there's just something about you that appeals to people in a wide variety of age ranges.

[Isoo243]

They are above 45 years, but it is not surprising that many men look at women who are much younger than them as if it is their right and this makes me feel heavy and depressed, but, the interesting thing about it, and I cannot deny that I liked it, is that the young man liked me.  A feeling I never had in my young days

They are 20 , 24

[Lord Jade Cross]

This.....really doesnt make alot of sense. What exactly are you depressed about if youre getting the attention of younger, and liking it; and older men alike? And what does some men wanting to be with a younger woman have to do with it? 

[Isoo243]

I am not depressed , I 'm surprised that I don't get attention of guys at my same age now; and olders want to be with younger woman not because they feel love   

[Lord Jade Cross]

Im not sure I follow since you mentioned in your earlier post that 

1 hour ago, Isoo243 said:

this makes me feel heavy and depressed

As for men your age, have you tried relentlessly, or has it just been a few who have stated they arent interested and your painting a picture of absolute based on that?

 

Also, is it absolutely neccesary that men your age have to be the ones to pay attention to you seeing as younger and older ones do and you enjoy getting the attention from the younger guys?

 

 

[binary suns]

It's surprising how common it can be for people to be attracted outside a ten year age range. I think it's ok though, I can't remember my brother in law's age but I think they're a difference of 8-10 years and it really isn't an issue for them, What really matters is where they're at in life, the compatibility.

 

But, of course, that doesn't change how someone feels about it if it makes them uncomfortable or if they want someone in their age range. 

 

I don't really know anything about attracting people you're interested in though. Attraction is something I don't really understand. I feel it, but don't understand it.  

[Tomorrow is Yesterday]

The flip side of the coin: I haven’t reached that age but I have no relationship experience and am severely lacking in most good life experiences. I tend to feel younger than I actually am which may be at least partly due to not getting to enjoy my youth when I had it. If I were attracted to a significantly younger girl, I would worry that she would get offended solely because of the age gap, which in turn would make me want to run and hide under a rock. I have plenty of love to give but no partner to give it to. Finally, I’m a walking anachronism; I don’t really fit into any particular time period, let alone whichever one is meant for those “my age”, so my behaviour won’t be up to snuff with those who try to shove people of particular age groups into a box.

[Baasje]

19 hours ago, Isoo243 said:

and olders want to be with younger woman not because they feel love   

You can't speak for everyone.

 

While I'm not a woman, my husband is 18 years older than me and we definitely love each other. Generalising is wrong, no matter what kind of generalising it is.

[Ceebs]

19 hours ago, Baasje said:

 

On 9/19/2023 at 1:16 PM, Isoo243 said:

and olders want to be with younger woman not because they feel love   

You can't speak for everyone.

 

Yeah, really depends on the situation. My partner is about 16 years older than me and love is the reason we're together. The only one. The age difference is basically a fluke. He doesn't have A Thing for younger women or a history of dating them; just how it worked out.

 

Are there guys who do routinely seem to want someone significantly younger? Yeah, definitely. Even then, there's no universal motivation. Some are just more attracted to and get on better with younger women and there's nothing sketchy about it. Others might be looking for... something else. But you don't have to date them, so problem solved, unless you have people outright harassing you.

 

But yeah, no one here can tell you why anyone -- younger or older -- is attracted to you since we don't know anything about you.