Eroell Posted January 31, 2023 Share Posted January 31, 2023 I've come out only to my closest family, how about you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Starry Sky Posted January 31, 2023 Share Posted January 31, 2023 When I did identify as ace, yes, my family knew. Some didn't get why they even needed to know but it made me feel more comfortable and understood. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Kimi_gata Posted January 31, 2023 Share Posted January 31, 2023 Pretty much all my friends know that I’m aroace, as does one of my cousins. It felt easy to tell him because he is also LGBTQ+. But most of my family doesn’t know. It feels odd to tell them and/or try to explain. My dad’s side of the family would likely be more accepting. My mom’s side of the family would probably subscribe to the “it’s just celibacy” school of thought. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Anomaly Q3Xr Posted January 31, 2023 Share Posted January 31, 2023 Yes, I am completely open about my asexuality. I have discussed it with friends and family, and have it on dating sites and social profiles. Prior to coming out as ace, I identified and came out as gay. I came out as nonbinary a few years ago. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 31, 2023 Share Posted January 31, 2023 I did to a small number of people but wish I had thought it through more because I regret coming out to a couple of them. Link to post Share on other sites
alto Posted January 31, 2023 Share Posted January 31, 2023 I have an ace tattoo on my arm, and I wear short sleeves a LOT. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
applecore. Posted January 31, 2023 Share Posted January 31, 2023 The only person who knows I'm asexual is my previous partner, and other than a potential partner, it's unlikely I'll tell anyone else. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lord Jade Cross Posted January 31, 2023 Share Posted January 31, 2023 The only people who know Im ace are other members here. But I have no intention to tell anyone outside this site about who I am. Its non of their business to begin with and I really dont need people playing rounds of attempting to "fix" me because "there is no such thing as someone who isnt interested in sex" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Artemis42 Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 I kind of just casually mention it to people if I find it relevant to share at the time and if I’ve decided that they seem open-minded and understanding. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
illumi Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 came out to my family [emphasized more on my aromanticism] but i dont think they remembers; they just think im not romantic oriented thats all i suppose since they dont talk abt romance and sex around me anymore; its not like they talked abt sex at all but i felt like i have to add this. two of my irl friends also know im aroace and when i posted my public insta stories i talk abt being aroace a lot so i believe that a few fellow students already know. ofc pretty much all of my online friends knows too and i trust them more with this info im generally very open abt my aroaceness but wont bring it up unless on insta stories or unless its relevant in the topic 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hewhomainsness Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 i've only come out to my sis and i'm planning on coming out to my parents when the opportunity arises 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheMostColorfullBlobs Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 Yes, I’m im really loud about it especially when it comes to gender (doesn’t stop the misgendering, but eh I try) 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Absentminded Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 No. I have to a few people, but I’m in no rush to go public. Partially because most of the people I care about act the same as they would if I came out. They don’t know about the labels, but they rarely expect me to follow gender norms and they avoid talking about dirty things around me. And mostly because that’d be scary. Especially since going public would mean my parents found out. My parents definitely follow binary concepts. My mom doesn’t think bisexual people exist, and I doubt she believes in non-binary or greysexual people either. She’ll try to convince me that I’m confused and just want attention. And that’s a worry that I have to deal with on my own enough. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
iamorchid Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 I haven’t come out about a lot of parts of my identity including being ace 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nickolekuebler Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 I have the blade of of my goal stick taped as the ace pride flag. I do not try to hide who I am at all so if it comes up I will talk about it but don't go out of my way. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloomy Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 I have told my parents and a few other people that I’m “Not really interested in dating anyone right now”, but didn’t go any deeper than that. Nobody irl knows I’m bi either, not even my mom and stepmother who are a lesbian couple themselves. I’m a fairly private person, I guess. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BigBassFox Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 I've told my sister, my friends, my partner, and my mom accidentally found out because i bought socks(long story). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sesaikanzli Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 I love wearing an ace ring because anyone who is acespec, or knows a lot about it, will know I'm ace without me having to say anything. Although I'm open about being aroace if anyone asks or if it comes up. Also out to my immediate family and friends! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 Only to my sister. I typically don't discuss my orientation with other people at all. Some people know I like other guys, but not much detail besides that, they don't know the ace part of it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 I was never "in" But I also don't go blabbing about these sorts of things to just anyone unprompted. Most people simply won't care to hear about it. It has nothing to do with being "closeted", because I think that would still be true even if I was completely heteronormative. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jordan... Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 Yeah, many people know I'm ace - though I don't tell people outright most of the time. However, the majority of them don't believe it... so... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Milque Toast Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 My immediate family knows, and pretty much all of my friends know. I find it way easier to come out as ace / aroace in comparison to coming out as trans haha 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bare_trees Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 All of my friends, even friends just on social media, know about me. Some of my family knows...kinda...I've said a few things about it, but they don't really get it, so idk if that counts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
marieatsplants Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 14 hours ago, Artemis42 said: I kind of just casually mention it to people if I find it relevant to share at the time and if I’ve decided that they seem open-minded and understanding. Same here Especially if other people mention their own sexualities to me, I feel like it helps them feel comfortable around me if I'm vulnerable right back at them! I'm generally unconcerned if my "coming out" sticks in people's memories, though; it's not super important to me that I impress upon people my aspec-ness as far as key identity traits go. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lilibulero Posted February 1, 2023 Share Posted February 1, 2023 I come out when it's necessary, as it's not a topic that gets inserted into conversation easily , but I'm tough enough and gobby enough to push back at the 'phobes' . 3 Link to post Share on other sites
nazokashii Posted February 2, 2023 Share Posted February 2, 2023 To a very limited extent; my mum and two close friends are the only ones who know that I'm both ace and trans, then a small group of people I have online RPG sessions with know that I'm trans since very recently (aceness hasn't come up and doesn't really feel relevant); otherwise it's "just" AVEN ^^ Link to post Share on other sites
AlsoKnownAs Posted February 3, 2023 Share Posted February 3, 2023 Only to my sister and a handful of trusted friends. AKA Link to post Share on other sites
Virelai Posted February 5, 2023 Share Posted February 5, 2023 I'm really not asexual. Still trying to figure out what in the world I am. But as I have expressed before I am something strange that shifts between being repulsed by anything sexual or having the desire anyway. Since I'm all over the place on this subject it doesn't feel right to "come out", but I have always thrown out hints. A year or two ago I did post an ace meme on my FB feed. I have also hinted at my repulsion when the subject is brought up. Even in the most casual of discussions (in which it is relevant) with acquaintances. Completely throws them off! LOL To my friends and family I am out as bi, leaning lesbian. I'm open about that with them, but I am not open about that in general public because I live in Oklahoma, and my workplace is not a friendly place for this, to say the least. (Disability led me to this job. So I appreciate it and plan to stay until I move). Link to post Share on other sites
CincinnatiAsexual Posted February 5, 2023 Share Posted February 5, 2023 Yes, I am out to one of my siblings, my wife, and a few friends. Link to post Share on other sites
a little annihilation Posted February 5, 2023 Share Posted February 5, 2023 I've come out to everyone I care to tell, although I'm not 100% about being ace anymore. Leaning more towards demi at the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
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