WangXian-fan Posted December 3, 2022 Share Posted December 3, 2022 Newbie here. I'm 51 and have never been in a relationship or had sex. I don't really feel like I'm missing anything though. I've wondered if that was because I've never experienced it. Recently I've been looking at asexual to see what that was about. I found that aro/ace is the best fit, specifically aegosexual and aegoromantic . I am a advide reader of romance books, but never picture me in the story. I route for the main couple and want them to be together. After the story ends, I think about what would happen going forward. I even act it out in my head, but I am never personally involved. I feel that would be disrespectful for the characters. The same as I would never try to "steal" someone's partner. I also enjoy romance in films and usually don't mind the sex scenes as long as I've invested in the couple. I don't watch porn and really have no desire to, but I do touch myself over my clothes and imagine scenarios with the characters. I believe in a relationship in theory, but have never had the overwhelming desire to seek it out. I've had celebrity crushes, but it was mostly about the character they played. Is that considered a crush? If I admired them I would seek out other films they have done. Recently, I've been getting into BL shows from Asia and gay m/m romance. Again I route for the couple and do not picture myself in the story. Any thoughts? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LeChat Posted December 3, 2022 Share Posted December 3, 2022 @WangXian-fan Hello. Welcome! (Below is an official, green, mod message.) I'm just letting you know I've moved your thread from the Welcome Lounge to the "Members Questioning" subforum of the "Questions About Asexuality" forum. LeChat, Welcome Lounge, Announcements, and Alternate Language moderator Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Picklethewickle Posted December 3, 2022 Share Posted December 3, 2022 Welcome! It sounds like you have put some thought into your feelings and identity already, and are feeling secure in yourself. The asexual and aromantic spectrums are generally defined by how you feel about yourself, and how you feel towards other people. Enjoying romance stories doesn't exclude anyone from identifying with these spectrums, and it isn't strange for asexual people to have positive opinions towards sex or romance in general when applied to other people. It sounds like you enjoy romantic fiction for the story itself, rather than as a means to satisfy sexual desires. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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