Who Was the First Person You Told?

[Shadow girl]

I told a friend first

[AProud]

The first person I told was a homosexual friend.

[XTriformisX]

Oops, I didn't see the "this site is the first time I've mentioned it" option. It would be that. Ah well, I chose the second - my mom.

[the Lady Ashuko]

I've been pretty open with people in general for a few years about not being interested in sex, but it never occurred to me that it was an actual orientation! The first person I told in those terms (because it somehow feels different) was my best friend. Asexual biromantic XD She believed me, since she's known for over a year without a "word" but she does seem to think that if I start masturbating then I might change my mind! :lol:

[kt8]

The internet is a wonderful thing. ;)

I found this site, and, about an hour later, had posted up a blog with my *epiphany* in it, so excited was I, on MySpace. So, all my friends had free reign in reading it. Mustn't have found it very difficult to handle, though, since no one responded, and I had to force a response out of one of my better friends.

Since then, I'll pretty much mention it casually to anyone. I haven't done anything about my parents yet, though. But they haven't expressed any concern yet, so I'm fine. I think my dad's caught sight of the website over my shoulder, though he hasn't mentioned it.

-Katie

[Feylin]

I told one of my best friends, but it just seems like kind of a non-issue for me, rather than a big, scary/important proclamation.

Oh, and it was basically:

Me: So, I think I'm asexual.

Her: That's cool.

[Peach]

My boyfriend at the time. It's mainly down to him that I realised <_<

[Kitkat6020]

The first person I told was my professor for Intro to LGBT studies... like two months ago. I see it as a kind of a test run, just to see how it'd feel to have someone know, and honestly? It probably wouldn't have made much of a difference had I not told her, which just reinforces my belief that my asexuality is more of a non-issue than anything.

Still, I can tell the parents are kind of wondering when/if I'll start bringing home boy/girlfriends, and I'm fairly sure that sooner or later I'll have to come out to them.

[ProdeFemme]

My best friend was the first "official" out, though everyone joked about my lack of interest in sex forever so it wasn't much of a shock.

[Sister Nightfall]

First place to tell was here. (or tell and tell, I don't think I have ever written an introduction, but I'm sure I have mentioned it at some point)

Second place was at a party where I told it to a stranger to fend him and his annoying questions of. Well an acquaintance/friend of mine was at the party and so now he knows. I don't really think I'm going to tell anybody in my family, it seems unnecessary as nobody is asking me about boyfriends or some such.

[squiggle]

I told a partner of mine. She was almost nonlibidinal herself. We only tried having sex maybe five times in five years. I think it was a case of her thinking she had a duty to do it, and me thinking I had a duty to try as well! When I mentioned it she didn't bother me any more about having sex. We kept going out for a long time after that -so clearly sex was very low on her priorities. Maybe she was/is greysexual?...

[Hannibal Lecter]

My sister i think.

[knout]

Really interesting poll, do you see how the father are left out ?

Friend for me, because he talks about it all the time. (Hasn't changed a bit though... I don't mind anymore)

[Novalee]

The first I mentioned my asexuality was on this site, but the first person I told in real life was my twin. Then I told my boyfriend as we broke up in an attempt to make him feel less hurt. I think it helped improve our long term relationship. He was shocked at first, but at least he understood why I was breaking up with him.

[Porygon]

Some friends during a lock down at high school. xD

[Filmfan]

Oh, and my therapist, although I'm not entirely sure she believes me about being asexual.

I had this happen as well. The first person I told with any kind of seriousness was my (now former) therapist. She told me that she didn't want me to shut out possibilities and that, by saying I was asexual, that's what I was doing. If I had said that I was straight, would that make me "shut out possibilties?" Probably not.

Also, she told me that she couldn't relate because she's not asexual and she had never had a client who thought they were asexual. I even handed her stuff from this site, but I'm not sure it really mattered. Thankfully, I've quit therapy, and I'm now happier than I've been in a long time.

[Jillianimal]

My mom, though I think some of my friends knew before her since we're on a forum & I obviously had asexual down for the sexuality label.