im grieving my old schizophrenia forum i keep getting called gross and toxic and cheating

[ThannaA]

im blown out of the water completely for being in a mixed monogamous/ poly relationship 

im grieving it because i found the forum in 1999

there are one or 2 who are understanding but the majority of judgement is clear

[Mountain House]

Pretty common in the clash between ENM and the monogamously indoctrinated.

 

You are not gross, toxic, or cheating.

[Ceebs]

Being a member of a community for a long time certainly means that if something negative goes down, there can be a lot of grief involved. Communities can become like families, and families are complicated and messy and can be the source of a lot of hurt. I've been on AVEN for over 18 years now, and I can tell you that I've had some pretty painful experiences here. 
 

I'm sorry people are being judgemental. Perhaps take a bit of a break from the forum? It would be a shame to leave somewhere that's been a part of your life for so long. Definitely take a step back though, for the sake of your mental health.

[AspieAlly613]

3 hours ago, Mountain House said:

Pretty common in the clash between ENM and the monogamously indoctrinated.

What's ENM?

[Ceebs]

Ethical non-monogamy.