Making gray sexual and Allosexual marriage work

[BethSam]

So, I’m female and have been in a relationship with another female for 12 years. We got married in 2021.

Our sexual relationship has always been up and down, due to my lack of sexual desire. She seemed to accept it and be okay with the dynamic of our relationship. Recently though, after a long dry spell, she’s mentioned that it’s now starting to get to her and she feels she needs more from me. 

I’m wondering if any other gray sexual folk have experienced this? And if they have any advice/tips. 
I love my wife, more than anyone and anything, and I want to make her happy 😊 

I also sometimes feel that sexual intimacy is missing from our relationship but not enough to act on any impulses I have. 
many thanks! 

[Skycaptain]

Can I suggest having a look at the Sexual Partners, Friends and Allies forum as well.