Another question about sexual attraction
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Scenarios
23 members have voted
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1. Zed feels attraction to Pom's physical appearance. Zed wants to express this attraction through sex.
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This attraction to her appearance is sexual attraction and not aesthetic attraction1
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This attraction is both sexual and aesthetic attraction or has both as part of the experience18
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This attraction is Aesthetic and not Sexual attraction1
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Neither1
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Abstain2
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2. Zed feels romantic attraction for Pom and wants to date her, give gifts to her, support her in every possible way, and - they want to express their feelings for her through sex.
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Zed's romantic attraction is merged with sexual attraction; either they are one thing, or it is an attraction that is both influenced by romantic and sexual desires.17
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Zed's attraction is Sexual Attraction only.0
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Zed's attraction is romantic attraction only, and not sexual attraction.4
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Neither1
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Abstain1
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3. The split attraction model splits attraction according to what is appreciated or desired. Thoughts?
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Attraction is predominantly desire2
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Attraction is predominantly appreciation, infatuation, and other such experiences3
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Attraction can have both elements, but not predominantly so4
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Attraction is predominantly something else that is neither Desire or Appreciation (even if it can include either or both)2
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The answer varies with different attractions; for example aesthetic attraction doesn't necessarily include desire, or perhaps sexual attraction does require desire, etc;9
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Something else1
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abstain2
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4. Arousal
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Targeted arousal, arousal because of, invloved with, associated with, etc - with a specific person OUTSIDE of sexual connection is always sexual attraction4
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Targeted arousal that isn't associated with sex could be part of sexual attraction, but an asexual person could feel this7
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If the person feels no desire for sex as a result of their arousal associated with the person, then it is just an automatic response and not sexual attraction7
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Something else3
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abstain2
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5. Identity
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I am someone who identifies as asexual (and not grey-asexual) but feels arousal as a response to someone I find attractive in some non-sexual scenarios - and I do not ever desire sex because of this8
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I know someone who experiences such arousal in such non-sexual scenarios, and does not desire sex because of it1
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I am not as such and know no one as such, but imagine it would be a fair call2
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I believe that any arousal asociated with a person, even if it completely lacks any desire for sex, should be classified as sexual attraction5
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Other4
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Abstain3
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6. After considering these scenarios I believe....
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That some allosexual folk do not feel any innate desire for sex2
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That some asexual folk do feel sexual attraction: and their lack of innate desire for sex with someone specific is why they would identify as ace10
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Both1
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Neither4
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Actually both scenarios would be a grey-asexual scenario1
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Abstain5
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