Kit The Kat Posted August 18, 2022 Share Posted August 18, 2022 Hello I just joined. I'm unsure of which terms exactly to use on my profile. I have never had sexual desire and never really wanted the changes of puberty but didn't want the opposite gender either. I have Autism from birth and acquired some other issues later in life. I'm now in my 50's. I spent years thinking the lack of interest in others (in a romantic/sexual way) was due to the Autism but after joining a few autism forums with a lot of 'high functioning' people I was surprised to find many married or in relationships and a lot basically having 'desires' for a so called NT life that I had never desired. Eventually I came across the terms aromantic/asexual/ace etc and wondered if that was the reason I am the way I am? I'm not gay or Trans. The body is female so I accept she/her pronouns as I've never known anything else. I'm not completely sure whether I belong here or have understood what the terms mean correctly? ...but I know I only feel comfortable within platonic friendships. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
arianadama Posted August 18, 2022 Share Posted August 18, 2022 Hi and welcome! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WhiteCatandcherries Posted August 18, 2022 Share Posted August 18, 2022 20 minutes ago, Kit The Kat said: I'm not completely sure whether I belong here or have understood what the terms mean correctly? ...but I know I only feel comfortable within platonic friendships. Welcome to aven!!🍰🍰🍰 (you get cake because of the joke that cake is on the (in my opinion long) list of things better than sex) I think you belong here. Only you can determine your identity, but it sounds like you are both asexual and aromantic if you want neither sexual or romantic relationships 🙂 If you have any questions about terms or anything there is this part about questions about asexuality https://www.asexuality.org/en/forum/5-questions-about-asexuality/ and here you could ask questions about aromanticism https://www.asexuality.org/en/forum/90-romantic-and-aromantic-orientations/ 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WhiteCatandcherries Posted August 18, 2022 Share Posted August 18, 2022 Also nice profile pic and username! 🙂 Cats are lovely 🙂 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LeChat Posted August 18, 2022 Share Posted August 18, 2022 Hello. Welcome! It's okay, if you feel you don't know what terms to use, yet. If you'd like, you can add your pronouns to your profile. If you feel interested in chatting with others around your age, there's an Older Asexuals forum. [a pic of a round cake decorated as a blue-gray-faced cat with blue and yellow eyes. The corner of the pic includes a pic of a real, blue-gray cat with yellow eyes.] 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lord Revan Posted August 18, 2022 Share Posted August 18, 2022 Greetings, mortal, and welcome to AVEN Have some cake 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sister Mercurial Posted August 18, 2022 Share Posted August 18, 2022 Hello and welcome! Here's a Kit Kat cake: 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kit The Kat Posted August 19, 2022 Author Share Posted August 19, 2022 Thank you all for your welcomes! It was nice to wake up to all those delicious looking cakes! 😀 I had no idea 'KitKat' cake existed! ..though knowing my luck it probably isn't nut free and chocolate is my favourite thing! I don't have a cat lol! I'd wanted a photo of a black panther with blue eyes but it wouldn't fit in the profile pic and I didn't know how to make the overall image smaller! ..and it was getting late here when I joined. I would like one in the future (a cute kitten not a panther!) but currently have a very prey driven dog who goes mental at the sight of one at the end of the street so I couldn't trust him with one in the house! 😀 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
JustAnotherNerd Posted August 21, 2022 Share Posted August 21, 2022 Hello and welcome! Take your time in finding out what labels fit you best, there's no rush at all. I hope you have a great day! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Anomaly Q3Xr Posted August 21, 2022 Share Posted August 21, 2022 Hey and welcome to AVEN 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted August 24, 2022 Share Posted August 24, 2022 Welcome! On 8/19/2022 at 8:24 AM, Kit The Kat said: though knowing my luck it probably isn't nut free The wonderful thing about kit-kat cakes is quite often they’re just cakes with kit-kats layered on the outside, so you can make one without nuts 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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