Raven17 Posted August 19, 2007 Share Posted August 19, 2007 This may be the weirdest and most abstract question ever, but what do "sparks" feel like? I mean, I understand feeling a connection with someone, that sort of click that you feel when you realise the other person really "gets" you, but I get the impression that is not the same as sparks. So, what are they? Is it sexual tension? A physical thing? A psychological thing? Or both and more? Thanks, Raven Link to post Share on other sites
Noskcaj.Llahsram Posted August 19, 2007 Share Posted August 19, 2007 I REALLY want that question answered too. When ever someone mentions 'sparks' I picture Jubilee from the 90's X-men cartoon, with her craptacular firework mutant power Link to post Share on other sites
WhoamI Posted August 19, 2007 Share Posted August 19, 2007 That's hard to explain. Its an incredibly strong physical reaction you feel, well, sort of all over. You ever seen a male dog go after a dog in heat? He would chew his way out of a crate, climb over a fence, and swim a river to get to the female. That urge, instinct, and overpowering pull.. is the only way I know to even remotely explain that 'spark' as related to humans LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf X Omega Posted August 19, 2007 Share Posted August 19, 2007 so sparks is sorta like, pheromones or something? Link to post Share on other sites
Camella Posted August 19, 2007 Share Posted August 19, 2007 Yep Pheromones and people being "eye candy". Link to post Share on other sites
Carsonspire Posted August 19, 2007 Share Posted August 19, 2007 Thank you, Raven, for asking this question! I've often wondered the same exact thing. ~Carsonspire Link to post Share on other sites
Raven17 Posted August 19, 2007 Author Share Posted August 19, 2007 Thank you, Raven, for asking this question!I've often wondered the same exact thing. ~Carsonspire No problem. I didn't realise until yesterday that I had no idea what people were talking about. So are sparks basically a feeling of lust/attraction? I'd always imagined something much more mental. Link to post Share on other sites
faithlessfate Posted August 20, 2007 Share Posted August 20, 2007 This may be the weirdest and most abstract question ever, but what do "sparks" feel like? I mean, I understand feeling a connection with someone, that sort of click that you feel when you realise the other person really "gets" you, but I get the impression that is not the same as sparks. So, what are they? Is it sexual tension? A physical thing? A psychological thing? Or both and more?Thanks, Raven I believe "sparks" are when there's mutual sexual attraction, and you feel it, in a kind of empathic way. To sexual people, there's requited lust, which usually involves "sparks" happening, and there's unrequited lust, which usually involves a 6-pack and a night of porn, lube on the side. If I think someone is attractive in a sexual way, and wish for something to happen, I would let them know in subtle ways. If the feeling is mutual, they will then begin flirting with me, and along the way, if we click, there will be "sparks". does that help? Faith Link to post Share on other sites
Carsonspire Posted August 20, 2007 Share Posted August 20, 2007 So does the term "sparks" refer to a physical sensation or is it more of an emotional/intellectual recognition that that the attraction is mutual? Link to post Share on other sites
Ice Faerie Posted August 20, 2007 Share Posted August 20, 2007 For me, at least, sparks is a combination of clicking on several levels. Seeing a person 'get' you, and understanding them as well, is one element of sparks. There is also a strong, mutual physical attraction as well. And for me, at least, there is a weird balance between playfulness and almost revelation-type of seriousness when 'sparks' occur. I agree with faithlessfate about sparks being empathic, both of you are connecting and feeling the same way at once. Hmm, this is harder to explain that I thought it would be. There are other levels of connection involved, but I can't think of a way to describe them. Maybe mental, physical, and kind've something like soul connection, as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Raven17 Posted August 21, 2007 Author Share Posted August 21, 2007 If I think someone is attractive in a sexual way, and wish for something to happen, I would let them know in subtle ways. If the feeling is mutual, they will then begin flirting with me, and along the way, if we click, there will be "sparks".does that help? Faith Yep, it helps. More questions though - what are these "subtle ways" you speak of? (I read body language badly, and most of my flirting is of the "hey you're cool let's kid around" variety.) Thanks again! Link to post Share on other sites
mdw Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I avoid subtle ways like the plague because A) I don't NOTICE subtle ways, B) if i'm successful at getting them to notice my subtle actions, I probably miss their subtle responses, and C) I just don't even SEE other peoples subtle ways. I'm all about "hi i like you" Link to post Share on other sites
faithlessfate Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Yep, it helps. More questions though - what are these "subtle ways" you speak of? (I read body language badly, and most of my flirting is of the "hey you're cool let's kid around" variety.)Thanks again! that's kind of it though, body language and junk... I'm not good at reading it either... Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf X Omega Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 They expect us to notice it :? like what the hell, body language is the only language I know I have 0% of chance of learning Why can't they just come up to us and say, It ain't gonna kill them Link to post Share on other sites
mdw Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 They expect us to notice it :? like what the hell, body language is the only language I know I have 0% of chance of learningWhy can't they just come up to us and say, It ain't gonna kill them Yep, that's why I don't rely on it. Link to post Share on other sites
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