Hi everybody!

[buttercups]

Hi! I'm somewhat new to asexuality. I come from a family with super conservative parents, aunts/uncles and grandparents. As a result, all of my cousins and siblings are very sex positive and the LGBT+ community was never a strange topic among them. In fact, most of my them belong to the community. I experienced them all going through their self-realization journey and concluding they were gay or bi and it just never clicked for me. My sister suggested I might be ace, but I was still young so I just kind of shrugged it off. Then all of my friends started dating and becoming sexually active and I didn't feel any need to. Like, there wasn't anybody I wanted to kiss or found physically attractive. I definitely have had romantic crushes, but I didn't want to do anything with them. My friends would all look at pictures of hot people and talk about hot they were and I never got it. Or they would talk about hot things that people do and I never related. I think they finally got that I wasn't a sexual person, so they started keeping me out of the loop of their sex stories, which is fair, but I still felt left out. I kept waiting, thinking that maybe someday my sex drive would turn on and I would be able to relate. I'm now twenty-one and I've never kissed anybody or felt the desire to ever kiss or do anything with anybody. I started talking with my sister more about asexuality and she told me about this website. Over the past week I've read through some posts and it fits. Some people on here describe how they never felt different, because they thought never thinking about sex or feeling sexual desire was  just the default, which is how I was. Other people have described feeling left out, because they didn't have that sex drive like their friends and I completely relate to that. So, it's been really nice finding this community and knowing that other people have gone through what I am.

Anyways, I think I'm asexual and biromantic and it feels really good to have that figured out.

Also, sidenote, I'm not very internet-savvy, so if I did something wrong with the format of this post or posted in the wrong place can somebody please tell me. Thank you!

[LeChat]

Hi. Welcome! 

 

 You've posted in the right place, if you're introducing yourself. If you were looking for feedback from others, then I'd help move your post to another forum.

 

20 minutes ago, buttercups said:

...Also, sidenote, I'm not very internet-savvy, so if I did something wrong with the format of this post or posted in the wrong place can somebody please tell me. Thank you!

 If you're interested in advice, I could recommend adding paragraphs (i.e. spaces; the "enter" key), in order to help others read your post, easily, and perhaps, quicker.

 

If it helps, to explain what I mean, perhaps, my post could serve as an example.

 

[a pic of a sliced, round, chocolate cake (with three layers and pink frosting on the inside), decorated in the colors of the bi Pride flag, with, a bit, of pink and blue sprinkles at the base and on top, along with dollops of pink, blue and purple frosting. A piece of cake has, already, been cut, onto a white plate.]

 

[Calliers]

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[Aye]

Welcome to AVEN!!!

[steel_quill]

Hello, @buttercups! Welcome to AVEN! 🍰

 

19 hours ago, buttercups said:

I'm now twenty-one and I've never kissed anybody or felt the desire to ever kiss or do anything with anybody.

So relatable. I'm 23, never kissed, nor have the desire to (do either that or anything more).

[TheSmolFoxWeeb]

Hi welcome to aven 🍰

[Lichley]

Welcome! The little eye icon at the top when typing a post lets you make one of these:

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A spoiler! Hidden text you have to click on to open, here’s your cake