J. van Deijck Posted May 16, 2022 Author Share Posted May 16, 2022 3 minutes ago, LeChat said: and not be sexually harassed by other adults ...that too I hate when creepy people hit on me, like, what do you even think. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LeChat Posted May 16, 2022 Share Posted May 16, 2022 @alsjeblieft Yeah. I feel uncomfortable when that happens, too. Since other people seem to have that happen to them, a lot/often, I feel, lucky, though, that that doesn't seem to happen to me, as much. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Calliers Posted May 16, 2022 Share Posted May 16, 2022 One thing I've noticed is that if I go to banks that are not the usual branches I frequent, the tellers there don't know me, so they take one look at me and think he's too young to be liquid, then once they look in my accounts their demeanor changes almost immediately and then they start calling me sir and bowing and scraping and all.... 🤣 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted May 16, 2022 Author Share Posted May 16, 2022 At least I'm respected in my work, but it's more strangers who assume things. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted May 16, 2022 Author Share Posted May 16, 2022 Because of where I live, people assume I'm fluent in French. Nope, Dutch or English in my case. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ella of Frell Posted May 16, 2022 Share Posted May 16, 2022 18 hours ago, alsjeblieft said: This as well. Sometimes I'm still being mistaken for a teenager. Same. And I teach at a university. It's a bit annoying when I get a new class and all the teenage boys feel the need to test me like they don't believe I'm intelligent or qualified enough to be a professor. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ella of Frell Posted May 16, 2022 Share Posted May 16, 2022 17 hours ago, LeChat said: I'd really appreciate being treated with the same respect I've seen other adults receive, automatically, from others, though. It's hard and tiring, feeling as though I have to work a lot harder than others, often, just to prove to others I'm competent, knowledgeable, etc., in order to, finally, receive, a bit, of respect. Yes. I am the same and being a woman in academia is difficult enough. It feels like I constantly have to prove myself when any middle aged man can say whatever they want and everyone automatically assumes they know what they are talking about. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LeChat Posted May 16, 2022 Share Posted May 16, 2022 @beta_moon Ah, yes. I'm sorry, you have to go through that. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ella of Frell Posted May 16, 2022 Share Posted May 16, 2022 5 minutes ago, LeChat said: @beta_moon Ah, yes. I'm sorry, you have to go through that. Thank you. I'm sorry you have to deal with the same. I know how despairing it can be. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LeChat Posted May 16, 2022 Share Posted May 16, 2022 @beta_moon Thank you! It's frustrating, but it, sort of, feels better, knowing I'm not the only one. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
coolshades Posted May 17, 2022 Share Posted May 17, 2022 Most misconceptions I've heard about me are based on my beliefs. Since I believe/think X, then Y must be true about me. I'm used to hearing it, but it is still upsetting sometimes. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Eroell Posted May 28, 2022 Share Posted May 28, 2022 On 5/16/2022 at 10:51 PM, alsjeblieft said: Because of where I live, people assume I'm fluent in French. Nope, Dutch or English in my case. So you're from Belgium? Anyway, many people who see me for the first time think I'm fifteen-ish but actually I'm almost 20 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted May 28, 2022 Author Share Posted May 28, 2022 4 minutes ago, szarlotka said: So you're from Belgium? Yup. Not everyone is fluent in French here 5 minutes ago, szarlotka said: Anyway, many people who see me for the first time think I'm fifteen-ish but actually I'm almost 20 And this is more or less the same, people think I'm younger than I am, somewhere around your age. But I'm more than 10 years older than you 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tree snake Posted May 28, 2022 Share Posted May 28, 2022 I have a neutral I'm-bored-out-off-my-mind face. I look bored, I fiddle with my phone (or anything else I can get my hands on) when I'm paying attention. The more bored and un-focused I look = the more attention I'm paying. If I'm looking you in they eyes, looking like I'm focused on what's going on = I'm not paying attention. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted May 30, 2022 Author Share Posted May 30, 2022 On 5/28/2022 at 10:28 PM, FeichtKatze said: I have a neutral I'm-bored-out-off-my-mind face. I look bored, I fiddle with my phone (or anything else I can get my hands on) when I'm paying attention. The more bored and un-focused I look = the more attention I'm paying. If I'm looking you in they eyes, looking like I'm focused on what's going on = I'm not paying attention. That must be confusing other people at times but it's interesting. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted May 30, 2022 Author Share Posted May 30, 2022 Anyways, one of the misconceptions I often hear about myself is that I'm Dutch. It's actually fun sometimes and breaks when I start talking. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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