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FAQ: Repulsed-A or Indifferent-A?


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R-A or I-A?  

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    • Repulsed-asexual: I find sex and all sexual things to be absolutely disgusting.
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    • Indifferent-asexual: Enh, whatever floats their boat. I'm not disgusted, just not interested.
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I need another category...I think I identify with both...

I couldn't really care less about sex. It really doesn't do much for me, I honestly don't understand why the majority of the world is so focused on it.

But, I also thinks it's really gross. Bodily fluids, plus some people don't bother to wash or upkeep down there...generally genitals just LOOK gross, and I'd also have to say the act of sex just looks gross too...(e.g positions like doggy style) just don't look right somehow.

Eh...honestly, I just don't get it... :shock:

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I need another category...I think I identify with both...

I couldn't really care less about sex. It really doesn't do much for me, I honestly don't understand why the majority of the world is so focused on it.

But, I also thinks it's really gross. Bodily fluids, plus some people don't bother to wash or upkeep down there...generally genitals just LOOK gross, and I'd also have to say the act of sex just looks gross too...(e.g positions like doggy style) just don't look right somehow.

Eh...honestly, I just don't get it...

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Indifferent, sort of. Curious I think as well. I probably will have sex, but only with someone I'm happy with/actually love, and I can't say how much I'll enjoy it. Only time will tell

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I'll try to describe my asexuality like one of those Zoloft commercials.

Imagine there is a bubble full of red blobs that are all jumping on top of each other, hopping around, and rubbing each other. I am a blue blob outside of this bubble looking at it curiously...wondering WHY the hell am I not red and why the hell can't I be like the red blobs? The red blobs can see me, but they can't understand that I am blue, not red. Some of them even insist that there is no such thing as blue.

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Heh, I call myself an 'intellectual pervert'... my attitude toward sex is rather like turning over paving stones with a stick and watching the millipedes run for cover. It's -interesting-, in a weird way, but I don't want to get too close to it.

This pretty much describes how I am, but I like to poke the millipedes to see what sort of reaction I get (in other words: I like to do more than take interest and stay away, I want to get close enough to know what makes it tick but still keep at a distance that I don't get involved - at all.)

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I am very... very... very indifferent.

I talk about sex (though I don't always have much to say). I joke about sex.

I can write about sex, I've even dabbled in some hetero and slash sexual fanfiction. I can read about sex. I have an erotic book dedicated to me (mind you, it's for entirely non-erotic reasons).

I can watch porn, though it probably wouldn't be of my choosing. I can flip through my roomie's hentai collection and shrug and laugh.

I can hear about sex. My roomie and most of my friends are rather open on the subject, so I hear a lot. Doesn't really bother me.

Heck, I'd even wager that if someone were across the room engaging in sexual acts, I'd be more concerned or embarrassed that they didn't feel a need for privacy than that they were having sex. (It's never happened, but I'm pretty confident in the speculation.)

But sex and sexual acts don't mean anything to me. Just another thing. Like baseball, or what's for dinner, or tomorrow's weather, or the color purple (I do like purple).

So yeah, don't care. Just don't have any desire whatsoever, so don't expect me to do any initiating.

Purple is a nice color.

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Difficult to say...

I find the exchanging of body fluids (especially being a female myself) quite yucky.

And I think I have a certain dislike of the bits themselves... but I am intellectually curious about WHY just because it might feel "nice" for a few seconds or minutes, that it seems to rule the world...

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I put indifferent as best fit answer. I find the activities covered intellectually disgusting you want to do what? to what? with what? eww However I have done things I have found intellectually disgusting and just been indifferent wasn't grossed out but wouldn't mind if I never did it again. So who knows where exact fit is.

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I picked repulsed, but I'm only really repulsed by het sex. I envision Remus and Sirius doing it when I masturbate, so I'm not really put off by two guys. Maybe if it were happening in front of me, but when it's just in my head...

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I don't know what to put. I'm only repulsed if anyone wants to do it to me. Other people having sex doesn't bother me, unless they're loud and their bed is on the opposite side of a thin wall to my bed so I can hear every moan. (I'm a student and I lived in Hall last year. It was terrible.)

I find the anatomy kind of icky. I think I'm repulsed, really. Although I'm often more repulsed by the glorification of sexual relationships compared to non-sexual relationships. Why do people always think they're 'better'?

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I said indifferent.

I think it's fascinating, though. The way body mod is fascinating. It's kinda funky. It's kinda pretty. It's kinda cool. I see why people do it, and I have my curiosities.

But it's definitely not for me.

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Interesting question. I surprised myself by voting repulsed, mainly because I'm disturbed by being turned on by witnessing sexual interactions that have any violent or sneaky or "naughty" component. On the other hand I really like good-natured sexuality, such as one sees in many traditional belly dancers.

I often wonder why people consider certain acts perverted or disgusting when I can't think of anything weirder than normal sex.

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I'm quite indifferent asexual.Well I'm a bit curious how this sexuality is but I never felt like needing it I guess I'm just curious because almost everybody talks about it regularly.

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I think I'm inbetween. Sex or most things relating to it make me sick to my stomach. I really don't care if other people indulge in it though. It has nothing to do with me.

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Well, I think I really don't belong here. I guess you all knew that anyway. I like sex. Only one person who has responded so far has admitted to liking it occasionally.

I seriously think the definition of asexual that is used by AVEN needs revision. By that definition I am asexual, but apparently no one else here is like me, so....

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I voted repulsed. I don't care if other people do it. I just don't want to see it. I don't even like to watch kissing scenes in movies.

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WOW, I am really surprised by this distribution. I thought for sure more people would be disgusted by sex to be on this site in the first place. But i guess (and this is just my opinion based on one poll, so I may be very wrong) maybe "true asexuals" are those that are just not interested in sex, and never have been, but don't care what other people do. While "created" aseuxals because so because of negative sexual vibes and sexual propaganda, or negative experiences.

Just a thought, don't jump all over me because I know some people here love to!

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It might just have come out that way because there were only two poll choices. I would have chosen something a little less extreme than "repulsed" if that had been an option, and some of the indifferent people might have opted for the middle ground too. Just speculation. I don't consider myself a "created" asexual; I've never felt sexual attraction in the first place, but the emphasis our society puts on sexuality does make me very uncomfortable.

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Indifferent. What other people do with their genitals is of little or no interest to me.

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It may be that someone identifies as asexual because they have never had sex. If they had sex - perhaps to please their partner - and found that they enjoyed it and wanted to have sex again, presumably they would no longer be asexual.

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Indifferent here....

The way I see it, we all have our sexual preference. I'm offended when people aren't accepting of my sexual orientation, so wouldn't it be pretty hypocritical for me to be unaccepting of theirs? We are who we are, so I see no problem in other people having their own sexual preferences.

~Pie~

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I think I like the physical and emotional aspects of sex but I don't like having any expectations placed on me (everyone places some expections on others) and my values (that determine how I feel about myself) don't allow me to have sexual relations with someone outside of a serious committed relationship. This leaves me living an asexual lifestyle and not wanting anyone in my life but I still feel I want sex once in a while. I find it very confusing. I'm not even sure I'm on the right web sight.

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I want to vote:

C: Curious-asexual

I find sex and what people will do with sex (fetishes, etc.) extremely interesting, just not into the sex myself.

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I want to vote:

C: Curious-asexual

I find sex and what people will do with sex (fetishes, etc.) extremely interesting, just not into the sex myself.

i agree with that... i dunno if i'm naturally curious, but everyone i know has seemingly become obsessed in the past year, and talk about it constantly, so i wonder about it...

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i like the whole red blob, blue blob analogy. whenever i describe it i consider myself like an anthropologist studying an interesting way of life. there are also lots of great songs and books and movies and jokes and things with sex in it so i except it as part of life and are mildly amused/interested, but it definately is repulsing at times. (especially my dormmates! urgh.)

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