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FAQ: Repulsed-A or Indifferent-A?


fluffy_hime

R-A or I-A?  

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    • Repulsed-asexual: I find sex and all sexual things to be absolutely disgusting.
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    • Indifferent-asexual: Enh, whatever floats their boat. I'm not disgusted, just not interested.
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I feel indifferent towards OTHER people's sexual activity so long as it is consensual, but I am repulsed at the thought of ME being involved...what is that?

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Professor Awesome

I'm not repulsed at all by it. I don't even get grossed out when it involves me. I just don't really have the sexual desire. But the actual act of sex doesn't bother me at all.

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I voted indifferent about it, but only with other people. When it comes to me, that's when I'd feel repulsed.

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Ashtara_Silunar

Completely indifferent. I don't find anything wrong or weird with the thought, it just holds no interest for me.

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Vampyremage

I am mainly indifferent about it. I just doesn't do anything for me and besides its kind of uncomfortable. I don't really want anything to do with it but nothing wrong with other people who are interested in it.

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I did not vote because I switch between the two. I am repulsed by other people doing stuff in public as I am not fond of the sound of kissing. Blech. All squelchy.. And sometimes I am repulsed by intimate/sexual contact with my boyfriend while other times I am indifferent. I guess it all just depends on my mood.

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I don't know if I cleanly fit into one of those categories but I'm probably closer to the repulsed side. Though, that may be because I don't think I'll ever want kids.

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I am an indifferent A for the most part.

But when it seems (I don't know...beastial?) rough and just totally lust-driven then I think I wander on into the repulsed a sector for a bit.

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Love_Laugh_Dubstep

I voted indifference, even though i am a bit of both.

I don't care about other people doing it, i don't really care if i do it or not(i think). But i get really repulsed if i do it, so i choose not to do it.

But at the end of the day i don't have issues with other people doing it.

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I don't think it's really so easy to demarcate between the two. I have nothing 'against' the concept of sex or sexuality - in fact it's something that interests me greatly from a philosophical/sociological perspective. However, full-on sexual imagery (i.e. the sight of another's genitalia/depictions of sexual acts, etc) makes me recoil in utter disgust. I am also strongly opposed to pornography, but that's getting into a different debate entirely...

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Heh, I call myself an 'intellectual pervert'... my attitude toward sex is rather like turning over paving stones with a stick and watching the millipedes run for cover. It's -interesting-, in a weird way, but I don't want to get too close to it.

That sums it up very nicely. It's something you think about, but don't feel about.

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I'm pretty in between. I'm cool talking about it to people but doing it? Entirely different story.

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In between. I don't mind it or talking about it, but I can get uncomfortable pretty quickly if someone tries to be intimate with me.

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AnyOtherName

Neither. :huh:

I know this poll was made forever ago and the OP probably isn't around anymore (?), but there really should be an 'other' option at the very least, it's hardly an either-or situation... :P

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Sen Holiday

I voted indifferent-A, but actually I'm a sex-positive-A! I mean, I think sex is a ridiculous contradictory mess of being everywhere and in our faces, but also completely degraded. At least, in my country, it is. And I'm all for sex being a more positive thing -- for the people who want it. I have no interest in it, though.

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It's not that I'm replused but I just hate how it's everywhere. I really don't care and I wish people didn't make a big deal out of it. It's like pop music, I don't hate I just really couldn't care anyless so hearing it everywhere I go drives me crazy. (Though the grocery store that ussaly plays a hit music list was playing The killers yesterday that made me happy)

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never odd or even

i'm both repulsed and indifferent :wacko:

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"Repulsive" fits me better, but I'm not exactly disgusted. I can see movie scenes that include sex or talk about it just fine. It doesn't bother me at all. I just don't feel like doing it.

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Indifferent. And what someone said about being an intellectual pervert. I read fan fic and slash that my friends write or suggest to me. I laugh and make jokes that are sexual in nature. I pretty much look at sexual actsin a detached, scientific way.

I have no problem with most fetishes but there are a few that I find revolting. Necrophilia(sp?) and guro are fine examples of this.

I'm also okay with get touched as long as you don't mean it sexually? I'll clarify this by saying my friend once threatened to grab my "boob" if I wouldn't do something. I thought she was bluffing. She wasn't. It shocked me and I didn't like it but I wasn't quite disgusted.

It's different if I know a person is sexually interested in me. I once was dancing with a guy and he let his hands slide down and I was not okay with that. I felt gross and repulsed. Just thinking about anyone interested in me creeps me out and slightly disgusts me.

I'm odd.

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I am mostly indifferent. I just don't want anybody doing that to me. Iwatch porn sometimes, and I am not repulsed, but, actually a little aroused. I'm also into yiff, and I actually find it less repulsive than human porn. But, there will be other people who may disagree.

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Also, the whole my friend grabbing me might not as been as bad as it would be with someone else because I'm so used to her way of... I dunno, being her. She likes to pinch someone's butt as hard as she can when they least expect it. She's been my best friend since 5th grade and the first person I told that I'm ace. She completely understood and said that it made perfect sense.

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never odd or even

can there be a neither/both option?

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And here I thought I was an immature freak for being repulsed. :P But it goes beyond that -- I'm phobic as well. Meaning if anyone even so much as hits on me, I will have a complete panic breakdown and it will cause long-term psychological scarring. (This has happened. In fact, the phobia is only as bad as it is because I've been sexually harassed.)

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I put repulsed, but it's more complex than just being repulsed.

I'm repulsed by the idea of sex without mutual love/respect/trust, and by extension I'm repulsed by the though of other people having sex (because I don't love and respect and trust real people - if I did I would be in an emotionally intimate relationship with them, if that make sense... I don't think it does, but I don't know how to better explain it... also I don't know if the sex they're having is based on mutual love/respect/trust), and would prefer to live in a world where I could delude myself into believing that everyone I met was 100% asexual.

However I LIKE the idea, or ideal, of having sex with someone whom I hypothetically deeply love, respect, and trust and vice versa (this has never happened, and I'm not holding my breath that it will), and I enjoy reading fiction about a couple's romance that includes sex scenes, so long as the characters are well developed, their relationship developed and based on love/respect/trust, or at least their relationship develops over the course of the story into one based on those thing, and its generally well written.

So, I never feel indifferent, but I don't always feel repulsed.

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SquirrelCat

I’m repulsed by non-consensual sex, when people are persuaded, or feel obligated to do it when they don’t really want to. I’m also repulsed if it concerns myself.

But sex in general, the fact that people do it, does not bother me; just leave me out of it.

Most of the time I would have to say that I’m rather indifferent to it, but I do find it fascinating in a sense; like poking a dead corpse with a stick, or picking the TV apart (my mom didn’t like that)

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Addicted2Oreos

I'd say I'm a bit of both. I'm not the extreme of either.

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carried in bags

Indifferent-asexual

Indifferent in having it, but mildy interested in hearing some peoples sex stories...the more harrowing the better - consensual ofcourse

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There are 14 pages of this discussion so this must have been mentioned before but... the descriptions of the two options are not really accurate. In particular "whatever floats their boat" can be believed by a repulsed asexual as much as an indifferent one. Conversely, I think an indifferent asexual can be anti-sexual and might object to "whatever floats their boat".

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