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FAQ: Repulsed-A or Indifferent-A?


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R-A or I-A?  

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    • Repulsed-asexual: I find sex and all sexual things to be absolutely disgusting.
      589
    • Indifferent-asexual: Enh, whatever floats their boat. I'm not disgusted, just not interested.
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Electric Blue

Heh, I call myself an 'intellectual pervert'... my attitude toward sex is rather like turning over paving stones with a stick and watching the millipedes run for cover. It's -interesting-, in a weird way, but I don't want to get too close to it.

^this.

Well, I suppose I'm a bit of both.

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Addicted2Oreos

I’m repulsed by non-consensual sex, when people are persuaded, or feel obligated to do it when they don’t really want to. I’m also repulsed if it concerns myself.

But sex in general, the fact that people do it, does not bother me; just leave me out of it.

Most of the time I would have to say that I’m rather indifferent to it.

Yes, this basically describes how I feel.

I have a deep feeling that a large portion of people, largely women, engage in sexual acts only because someone else wants them to. This repulses me, but the act itself doesn't really, and not at all when both partners really want it and don't feel pressured.

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I was going to vote indifferent originally, but I don't think that's necessarily true.

I am objectively very interested in sex, but for me it's definitely more of an academic pursuit. I think someone said it before me with "intellectual pervert", I'm endlessly fascinated by the topics in human sexuality.

I think if I had a chance to go back and do-over my post-secondary education, I'd liked to have double majored or minored in sexology or something similar to that.

I just just don't subjectively care about sex and I don't have any personal tether to it other than being interested in it and the relationship it has on people and relationships on a whole.

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TheAceOfHearts

If someone talks about sex on an everyday basis Im repulsed, but in general I don't care if they talk about it occassionally.

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.diva plavalaguna.

Repulsed.

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I said repulsed-A, but I'm more in between. I usually feel repulsed, in varying degrees, when I see anything sexual between people. Like on TV, in movies, or in public. I find it embarrassing; I always feel like I'm encroaching on a personal moment. I think I am more repulsed at having seen them doing something sexual then by what they were actually doing. When it came to the idea of doing those kinds of things myself, it would disgust me. Now that I have found out about Asexuality, I am not as disgusted. I have only just found Aven, so I think with time I’ll become somewhat indifferent, but I don't think I'll ever be completely non-repulsed by it. Knowing that I am not the only one has made a big difference for me. In other situations I usually don't care so long as it doesn't involve me personally.

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I was just curious how many people are repulsed-asexuals or indifferent-asexuals. There seems to be a very clear line.

I voted repulsed-asexual because I don't like to see or hear about it, myself. But I think if people want to do it, as long as they keep it private, I can see how it could be beautiful and pleasurable to them. I know for some people it can bring them closer emotionally. Also, this is how children are created, so it must be wonderful on some level.

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SpaceFragment

I voted repulsed.... But neither really seemed to fit me. I'm horribly disgusted by the thought of sex when it comes to myself. It just seems...wrong...to me. However, I don't really care one way or the other when it doesn't involve me. I get terribly embarrassed when there's a sex scene in a movie or something, but that's mostly because I have absolutely no clue how I'm supposed to react when that comes on the screen.

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I am repulsed in the sense that I don't wanna see myself having sex.

You wanna have sex, do it on youyr own, I have no objection there.

So, I voted indifferent

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I suppose I'm more repulsed than indifferent. I'm repulsed by how sex is presented by my peers, society, and the media, and by people asking or implying that I have or want to have sex but I'm indifferent in that I don't really care if you're having or not having sex. I'm also indifferent to the idea of having sex myself, if it would make my partner happy and we are far enough into the relationship to have it, I just need to get over my initial fear of the unknown. :wacko: I'm not going to vote though because I don't feel I fit fully into either category.

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Juniper Tree

Funny, but I hadn't really considered it until I read this question. But definitely repulsed.

I'm glad that I have a greater level of self awareness :)

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I don't find sex repulsive at all, I just lack any interest in it. I can't stand people who dry hump in public, either. That really irritates me to no end. Indifferent Ace here.

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Sometimes I'm indifferent, other times I'm repulsed.

*Shrug*, what can I say, I'm complicated.

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And what if I´m repulsed only by some aspects and not by others? :excl: TMI WARNING :excl: I´m totaly repulsed by sperm. If someone splattered me with it I would vomit. :wacko: I don´t want it neither inside of my body nor on my skin or clothes.

Other thing about sex which I would never tolerate is nudity. It´s not disgusting, but it´s just degrading. So much degrading that it would make me cry if I were forced to take off all of my clothes. I´m not able to understand how someone could tell me "I love you." and then put me into this terrible shame.

I don´t mind when other people are naked if they have no problem with it but I would never do it myself. I don´t know if it´s a part of my asexuality or only some stupid block which could be broken but I don´t think it´s worth the effort to try to break it. It might become even worse.

But the more I know about sex the more I´m sure I don´t want to have it. A half year ago I was telling to myself I should at least try it - maybe it would not be so bad in the end. Now when I know I´m asexual I don´t want to bother myself with experiments. I just completely refuse to date sexuals.

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Actually, come to think of it, I'm personally repulsed, I don't want to see someone else's genitals & the thought of having sex ever again grosses me out. However, I honestly don't care what other people do, as long all parties involved consent & are old enough to consent.

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DancingThroughTheShadows

I don't care what other people do. But the thought of me being implicated in any sexual activity at all repulses me, I don't mind cuddling and kissing, but beyond that no way.

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I used to be a repulsed-A. But as strange as it may sound, being a member of this community has influenced me in moving from repulsed to indifferent.

Previously, the only talk about sex I had heard came from my peer group. And they talk about sex all the time, but it's always in a crass joking manner. This turned me off and made me think, Why would I ever want to do that??

But here, sex is discussed from a healthy perspective. I've learned to appreciate the other side's point of view and have managed to develop an indifferent attitude toward sex. I still won't be engaging in any romantic activities, but I think I've come to accept that sex is a valid option for some people.

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Hospital Dreams

Repulsed A. I don't mind sensual touching, but direct contact to genitals, or penetrative/oral sex is a huge no. The only time other people's sex acts bother me is in porn; upclose shots of genitals or body fluids are triggering for me, but I'm not sure if that's because of my being ace, or from abuse.

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Repulsed. I find sex to be gross, and I can't imagine myself taking pleasure from it.

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I voted indifferent, because I do have a more intellectual interest in sex. Like, I'm fascinated by the act itself, but I don't think I could ever deal with it for myself. Male genitalia is a major trigger for me, at this moment, because of abuse suffered years ago, and the idea of nudity, direct or oral genital contact and bodily fluids do gross me out, but I wouldn't go as far as to say I'm repulsed by them.

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