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The Conveniences of Celibacy


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Monke Jimmy

These things should not be things that factor into whether or not someone should have sex, but I've noticed some interesting things that are worth mentioning, just for fun. 

 

I think that the fact that nobody will see me naked for probably like 50 years means that I have a more positive image of how my body naturally is. I have no reason to impress anyone by being conventionally attractive, and so everything I do as self-care is purely for my own health. If I ever want to please people with my looks I'll just wash my hair and wear a neat sweater. 

 

I know that for a lot of people it's not about sex, but I personally will probably never have to buy or use contraceptives, or hormones, viagra, etc. 

 

Anybody got any others? 

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I can dress for myself, not  to "attract" a partner.

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I don't have to put up with an annoying husband or bratty kids.

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Strangely enough, even as a sexual person I don't worry about being conventionally attractive or 'hot' or whatever either, nor has it ever occurred to me to dress to attract attention from other people. If anything, I dress so they don't pay much attention to me because I really dislike it. I've seen many aces on here who do care about appearing attractive to others (which is totally fine, not a criticism at all) despite having no interest in a sexual relationship.

 

So I imagine some of those benefits are more due to personality than sexuality/celibacy.

 

Not having to worry about birth control, though... yep, fair (well, if you're engaging in PiV sex).

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Bingo Ricky

Sort of riding along on what @Muledeer has said, early on, when I realized (or perceived - maybe my perception is / was false) how much sexuality tends to play a role in many conversational dynamics - and it's certainly more complex than that, with sexuality being one branch of a tree that contains things like attraction, and power dynamics, and etcetera, not to mention that these words / terms mean different things to different people - it added another layer of stress to interacting with people, as I was always out to try to determine if I was manipulating these factors, or if I was being manipulated, or if there was some "pure" form of conversation I was missing...

 

When I stopped caring about sex at some point, while I'm still intrigued by these concepts, I don't have to care as much about them anymore while talking to people.  They're still there, and I can still be a participant directly or indirectly, but it just removed this whole level of subtext to things, at least for me.

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All is good so far, this is just a gentle reminder to keep this as a "fun" thread, and not to stray into elitism etc 🎂🎂

 

Convenience of being celibate. Thinking of a scene in, I believe, "Carry on Camping", where an irate farmer is waving a shotgun around, asking who got his daughter pregnant, you know that you had nothing to do with it.

 

On a similar theme, "Tiffin", really does only refer to food 😋😋

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6 hours ago, Skycaptain said:

On a similar theme, "Tiffin", really does only refer to food 😋😋

Well, that's interesting.  I always wondered why an upscale restaurant on the top floor of a tall building was called "The Tiffin Room"

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Skycaptain

@Muledeer, Tiffin is an Anglo-Indian word to mean a snack between meals. It's also the name of a college, and a type of cake.

Tiffin was used for comedic effect in Carry on up the Khyber as a euphemism for a mid-afternoon bunk-up

 

Convenience of celibacy. The bedding doesn't need washing so often, and the bedsprings don't get strained as much

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I don't have to worry about how attractive I look before I walk up to an attractive person and talk to them.

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