Chrispy Posted June 24, 2007 Share Posted June 24, 2007 I feel so stupid for making this post, but I want to be sure about something. I just found this site and I'm still questioning if I'm asexual. From the research I've done I'm pretty sure I am, but I wanted to have a clearer understanding of a few things about asexuality. I just read the poll results that ask if you're straight-asexual, asexual-asexual, bi-asexual, and so on. I didn't know there was different types like that. I'm not really sure what would qualify for a person to be straight-asexual, but I think I might be considered that. I don't want a romantic relationship and I've never had a boyfriend because I don't feel a stong attraction to either sex. However, I do feel differently about guys than I do females. I really don't know how to explain the way I feel about this, but I'm going to try. When I think a guy is cute, sometimes I think he's "hot" (depending on the specific guy). But when I think a girl is cute I mean she just looks pretty or has on a nice outfit or something. I think if I wasn't asexual, I would be 100% straight. Does that make me straight-asexual? Link to post Share on other sites
KAGU143 Posted June 24, 2007 Share Posted June 24, 2007 Sure, why not? I think the term we use most often is "hetero-romantic" asexual. It can also be called straight asexual or straight-A. Sometimes asexuals can be drawn to a particular gender (or certain gender behaviors) more than sex. It can get pretty complicated! -GB Link to post Share on other sites
Jordan Posted June 24, 2007 Share Posted June 24, 2007 I'm female and 99% of the time I'm drawn to men. Link to post Share on other sites
mackat5 Posted June 24, 2007 Share Posted June 24, 2007 Sure. I've always been drawen to men as friends. I just have to be able trust them. Trust is a big issue for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Mandos Posted June 29, 2007 Share Posted June 29, 2007 I think I fit into this category. I'm female and asexual but I'm also aesthically attracted to men. But I'm not sure that it even extends to a romantic attraction. :? Link to post Share on other sites
November Rain Posted July 4, 2007 Share Posted July 4, 2007 Sure, attraction to people isn't all about sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Kelly Posted July 25, 2007 Share Posted July 25, 2007 Were I not asexual, I am sure that I would be lesbian. Link to post Share on other sites
Hpets Posted July 28, 2007 Share Posted July 28, 2007 Goodness, does this really require a poll? Since I've only really felt romantically attracted to two actual people, the way I know for sure that I'm heteromantic rather than, say, biromantic is by looking at how I feel about fictional characters. There have been plenty of male characters in films, TV shows, etc. that I've been attracted to, but I've never had that sort of feeling for any female characters. Link to post Share on other sites
bbctv Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 i get feelings for women i don't for men, which is the best i could say it. Link to post Share on other sites
ghostgurl Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 Yes. I consider myself aromantic, but I am attracted to men aesthetically. Link to post Share on other sites
squiggle Posted November 12, 2007 Share Posted November 12, 2007 I'm genderqueer. I could see myself in an asexual relationship with a different kind of asexual genderqueer -so yes! Link to post Share on other sites
DMG Posted December 20, 2007 Share Posted December 20, 2007 Let me explain this. Asexuality is not being sexually attracted to people. You can however be physically attracted, emotionally attracted and spiritually attracted to people. Being "Physically attracted" to someone means you can find them attractive, pretty, beautiful and so on, and want to spend time with them, kiss them, cuddle them, but not have sexual relations with them. That's the reason why there is straight asexuals, bi asexuals and gay asexuals. I am a straight asexual. I don't find men attractive at all, but I think women are beautiful. I just don't fansy sex is all. Link to post Share on other sites
bydefault Posted January 5, 2008 Share Posted January 5, 2008 Yep, I'm a hopeless hetero-romantic but if I was female I wouldn't be. Got it? :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
Emma81 Posted February 10, 2009 Share Posted February 10, 2009 All forms of attraction are possible. :D Link to post Share on other sites
AFlyingPiglet Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 I'm Asexual and consider myself Hetero-Aromantic. This makes more sense to me than me saying that I'm hetero-romantic. Hetero-Romantic would be an over-statement as I don't really consider myself to have a romantic drive but I am more 'attracted' to the oppsite sex than to my own (and thus the use of Hetero in my description of myself). I know what I mean, even if it doesn't make any sense to anyone else! :D Link to post Share on other sites
Astryda Posted March 2, 2009 Share Posted March 2, 2009 Sure it is. Because of typical personality attraction, aesthetical attraction and other things. Link to post Share on other sites
mad_scientist Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 I'm heteroromantic. I have had a very difficult time trying to explain that yes, I am only attracted to one sex, and no, I am not sexually attracted to anyone. Apparently the concept of my partner's sex having an effect even though I don't desire having sex with them is confusing to some people. Link to post Share on other sites
daveb Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 I'm heteroromantic. I have had a very difficult time trying to explain that yes, I am only attracted to one sex, and no, I am not sexually attracted to anyone. Apparently the concept of my partner's sex having an effect even though I don't desire having sex with them is confusing to some people. Confusing gender with sex, I think. I am romantically attracted to the opposite gender. I am not attracted to sexual intercourse. :) Link to post Share on other sites
ProdeFemme Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 I am begrudgingly attracted to men, whenever I do seem to fall victim to some romantic whim. I have some wickedly strong bonds with females, but it has never been anything beyond platonic so I consider myself straight. Though if I could just get past that platonic hurdle I'm sure I'd make a better husband than wife... :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
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