Genetically_Dead Posted May 11, 2007 Share Posted May 11, 2007 :x I am so annoyed! My husband keeps pesting me about my sleeping in his room. I don't have nor do I want air conditioning in my room. He has become rather insistance that I sleep in his room to the point of pestering me. I have my own room, I like the color of my walls, cealing, and the windows have screens in them. It is cool at night and I have a fan. I do not want cold air blowing on me or him touching me in my sleep! That feels better. I wish I could understand why he thinks I need to shift into his room just because he's not happy with my not having the air conditioning. It's bad enough that he crawls into my bed at night and rubs on me until I retreat into the bathroom for an hour or get up to *play* on the computer. Link to post Share on other sites
Mb Loves Batman Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 he just doesn't understand. yet... Link to post Share on other sites
Tanwen Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 why not get a portable aircon system, and you can buy plugs that have timers in them so you can haveit coming on when and if you wish. (or are they available only here, can't imagine they wouldn't be available world wide) Link to post Share on other sites
La_Gioconda Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 I understand perfectly. I could never get a good night sleep if somebody was with me in the bed, no matter how wide the bed was. But, I'm sorry, I have no advice for you. Just be assertive I guess.. Link to post Share on other sites
Tanwen Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 I must admit, I prefer to sleep alone. My bedroom is my sanctuary - the only place I can have 'me' time. Link to post Share on other sites
Loki Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 slip him a sleeping pill or two in his drink before bed? :oops: Link to post Share on other sites
M51 Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 Sounds to me like he just wants you to sleep in his bed, since you say he sneaks into your room to "rub" you, whatever that entails. He is probably lonely. I think the air conditioning is an excuse. I think he needs to respect your boundaries. Are you opposed to giving him a bit of physical affection, such as some hugs or snuggles, before you go to bed? Maybe that will tide him over. Link to post Share on other sites
Genetically_Dead Posted May 30, 2007 Author Share Posted May 30, 2007 I don't think I would be opposed to giving him a hug or a kiss if he wasn't such an asshole. He insults how I keep house to anyone that will listen. Tells fat jokes about himself and threatens to beat my dogs. He refuses to have any interaction with my parents and siblings. Won't go to church and tells me the place I work for smells bad due to it being a multi-cultural shopping complex. Then when I want to find anouther job he has a fit because my job has great insurance and he's a trucker that job bounces every time he gets a wild hair up his butt. :roll: Link to post Share on other sites
Shooting Star Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 GD, if he is becoming threatening, you need to get out of there. Your husband's suggestions of violence will become reality. It begins with threats, but his behavior will soon escalate. He is a bully and will stop at nothing to have you under his total control. You need to lave him; your life may depend on it. Link to post Share on other sites
M51 Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 Woa, G_D...don't mean to pry...but why do you stay in such a relationship? BadGirl is right, verbal abuse frequently becomes physical abuse. Link to post Share on other sites
Loki Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 :shock: if anyone threatened to beat my own dogs, the offender will have no tongue to speak with anymore. grammar edit! :oops: Link to post Share on other sites
vikingo Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 Do you communicate these issues with each other as well or just with yourselves - and here? Link to post Share on other sites
Genetically_Dead Posted May 31, 2007 Author Share Posted May 31, 2007 Most people know my husband is a difficult person to get along with. For the mostpart he is decent but once in a great while he acts like an ass. His mother knows he is a brat and I have put him on the run before. I can be very difficult myself. So we can make each other crazy. If he hurts one hair on my hairy hineyed hounds, his life would be over. I would stop at nothing to get him brought to justice. My pups are my children. As for me I stay as I don't want to be alone and for the money. Link to post Share on other sites
lux Posted June 1, 2007 Share Posted June 1, 2007 A question,do you have children?,anyway, you must go.I think that it is a dangerous situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Genetically_Dead Posted June 1, 2007 Author Share Posted June 1, 2007 No kids. I quit sex several years ago when I learned I was sterile. Link to post Share on other sites
lux Posted June 3, 2007 Share Posted June 3, 2007 Oh,dear!!!,it is better that no Kids,you are alone to give up that relationship...when there are children,everything is worse. Link to post Share on other sites
Genetically_Dead Posted June 4, 2007 Author Share Posted June 4, 2007 I have no intention of giving up the relationship! It's almost perfect. I am free to do as I want. He is a truck driver and rarely home. He has just been upset due to being on lite duty due to a work related injury but now he's back working and I don't have to deal with him or his moodiness. His dispatcher does now. Thank God I'm not her! He gets on my nerves and I just had to vent. Also his room needs to be painted, has a twin bed, and has the worst yellow curtains I've ever seen in it. I would get a migrane with them to wake up to. My room is a good cool blue with lacey white curtains and a big comfy bed. Link to post Share on other sites
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