Sidestep Posted June 17, 2022 Share Posted June 17, 2022 I was 19 and reflecting back on my first and only (failed). That relationship ended when my SO asked to kiss me and I found I just couldn’t do it. It was like pushing two same-end magnets together. So I did some googling, found out asexuality was a thing, and immediately understood myself a lot better. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ishkabby Posted June 19, 2022 Share Posted June 19, 2022 I discovered I was ace in high school/college. I kept my orientation a secret because of my autism, I knew people like my family were going to try to "fix" me. I never dated except when I fell in love with a few friends I knew for a while. First, it was a girl my age in middle school, she was a manipulative bitch and we broke up. then it was a male friend I knew for years but it never evolved past a crush that died over the years, and a girl in college but again just a very short-lived crush. I never thought once about having sex with these people. I was never the popular kid, I never got the culture around having sex or finding people sexy on campus. I mostly show my love for someone through gifting or loyalty. A plushie or video game or hell, even a La Croix is better than sex. I don't even want to try sex. The only thing I beat myself up on is having an active libido, but I'm trying to tell myself that I'm still valid. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ace_Anthropology Posted June 21, 2022 Share Posted June 21, 2022 I started suspecting something freshman year of high school, but didn't really avoided thinking too hard on it until after breaking up with my ex. I then spent my junior year knowing but just kinda not looking to hard into it. It was only Senior year I started researching and really started my journey and more recently really come to terms with it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Diana Swords Posted June 21, 2022 Share Posted June 21, 2022 On 5/10/2022 at 7:33 PM, hudsonvalley76 said: Please don't respond to my posts. Don't post anything on a forum if you don't want to get replies. Put a gag in your mouth and sit silently. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MarziAsterea Posted June 21, 2022 Share Posted June 21, 2022 When I was 18 (Early 2020) when someone in my college class mentioned it (I don't remember why). I did some research about asexuality later that day and realised that I was Asexual. I knew about about the more well known identites but not asexual as i was never taught about it. I was actually so relieved that there were people who felt the same way i did. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
hudsonvalley76 Posted June 22, 2022 Share Posted June 22, 2022 On 6/21/2022 at 2:20 PM, Diana Swords said: Don't post anything on a forum if you don't want to get replies. Put a gag in your mouth and sit silently. You're a disgusting person. Again, DON'T REPLY TO MY POSTS!!! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 22, 2022 Share Posted June 22, 2022 Somewhere in my 20s I finally accepted it having always known that I’m different (I just didn’t know how exactly). Identity and sexuality are complicated things. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ibis Posted June 23, 2022 Share Posted June 23, 2022 I had recently turned 17 and something clicked where I realized that I had never wanted to see anyone naked in my life ever, even fictional characters, and I wasn’t sure whether that was normal. After talking to friends and learning more about asexuality I realized that sexual attraction was not the same as romantic attraction as I had always assumed, and in fact people did have all these desires and attractions to people that I didn’t. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Nobody2021 Posted June 25, 2022 Share Posted June 25, 2022 Psychology class in college, so I was about 21–22. the teacher was like “asexuals don’t experience sexual attraction (or something along those lines)” and my brain immediately went “a-ha!” A lot of things made sooo much sense then. maybe about 2-3 years ago I figured out where in the asexuality subset I feel more comfortable in. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ailepho Posted June 26, 2022 Share Posted June 26, 2022 Summer before high school: I read a book with a biromantic ace minor character in it. I looked up the definition for asexual on google, and a lightbulb turned on in my mind Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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Kimi_gata Posted August 21, 2022 Share Posted August 21, 2022 Last year. My friends were talking about sex, I couldn’t relate, and one of them introduced me to the term. I did a little research and decided that it fit. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Autumn ace Posted August 21, 2022 Share Posted August 21, 2022 A day after my 15th birthday. I saw a clip of sex education on YouTube talking about asexuality, then found a tedtalk that explained it. I realized I was asexual basically as soon as I understood what it is Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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