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Do you prefer to have few but close friends or many but distant friends?


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Do you prefer to have few but close friends or many but distant friends?  

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  1. 1. What do you prefer:

    • few but very close friends
      70
    • many but more distant friends
      2
    • something in between/hard to say/other (write below)
      30

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I've always preferred the first option. However, my conclusion (from my experience) is that more people prefer the second option.

But let's see. I'm curious.

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Both. I have a few close friends and a larger number that are more distant.

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Id rather not have friends at all. I want something more akin to an equal, someone who isn't afraid to call me out or argue. Its like today its all patty cake and flowers. And that isn't good. We've forgotten the art of having rivals or enemies. Oh well. What can you do. 

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I don't really care about friends, to be honest and i feel like people don't even want to be friends with me and i never mind it..also, i think I'm a bit slow at understanding or expressing emotions that always give people a bad impression and so I've never really got an actual friend..but having one or two genuine friends won't hurt..

I guess every people want to feel love, be it in a platonic or romantic way..

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I have few but more distant friends :(

Unless you include my sibling :)

 

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Few but close friends. I've never really had a choice in it, since very few people put the effort in getting to know me, let alone becoming my friend. I used to always prefer it that way, but now, I'd like to have a few more close friends and a lot more distant friends. Ultimately, I'd prefer to have a fair few close friends and a lot of distant friends.

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I prefer a few but close friends, however, for my type of personality I built the contrary: distant ones, I love the sense of closeness, but I need my space as well. 

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Is there any way to have many close friends?

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1 hour ago, deltalorian said:

I've never really had a choice in it, since very few people put the effort in getting to know me, let alone becoming my friend.

Similar for me. I'm just not an outgoing, sociable person, so making friends is not that easy for me.

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4 minutes ago, everywhere and nowhere said:

Similar for me. I'm just not an outgoing, sociable person, so making friends is not that easy for me.

Same here. The few friends I do have I have made via the asexual community. I have social anxiety and am autistic and not very good in social situations, so making friends has always been hard. I've always been easily manipulated by people, so I general just avoid people for the most part.

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I prefer to have a few close friends than many distant friends. I understand for some people the appeal of having casual friends is to have someone who is fun to be around. While I'd like that as well, I want to be able to be really close to my friends. The type of people you can depend on and tell anything. Of course, having fun with them is important, but I only want friends I really care about and who care about me.

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I'm lucky, I have quite a few friends but friends who as much family as friends, friends I would trust with my life, many of my friends stuck with me even when I was at my worst, heavy drinking and drug abuse and the troubles that came with this, so I consider myself blessed with the best of the best of friends

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I'd kill to have any close friends

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I prefer a few close friends but I just have a few distant friends. I'm not good at the friendship game

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29 minutes ago, lovelyy said:

I'd kill to have any close friends

Same

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I chose the third option. I need and strongly prefer close friendships, but I think feeling a sense of belonging to a broader community outside of that is also important to me. They complement one another.

 

I like being able to walk into a shared space and recognize everyone in it and have a decent sense of where I'm at with each of them. I would feel very lonely without at least one or two close friends in the mix, but I don't have to be especially close with everyone for the acknowledgement and acceptance to feel comforting.

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Having too many friends seems like too much of a hassle

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I seem to be liked by many and I can be friends with practically everyone, but in reality, I prefer a few close friends I can talk to about just everything.

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4 minutes ago, alsjeblieft said:

I seem to be liked by many and I can be friends with practically everyone, but in reality, I prefer a few close friends I can talk to about just everything.

❤️

 

Also, I have a few close friends, but also, tones of distant friends that I speak to and game with from time to time. Such is life. I'm like @alsjeblieft, I've always been a social butterfly, just like my dad.

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Very interesting and unexpected results.

 

ALSO

19 hours ago, everywhere and nowhere said:

Similar for me. I'm just not an outgoing, sociable person, so making friends is not that easy for me.

Me too. It really bothers me lately. I need close friends but I'm not good at meeting new people

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I chose a few close friends. The reality is more like a few not so close friends for the most part.

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i prefer a few close friends, but having a lot of distant friends comes more naturally to me, so i'd probably be happiest with a mix of both!

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I’m fine with having a bunch of acquaintances that come and go. Having “close” friends just isn’t my thing tbh.

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I'm kind of on the polar end for both -- I only need a couple close friends, and everyone else can be kind of distantly friendly-ish. I basically have no in between. 

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On 4/8/2022 at 5:06 PM, TormentDubz said:
On 4/8/2022 at 4:37 PM, lovelyy said:

I'd kill to have any close friends

Same

My closest friends are my siblings.

*only friends

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I have a few close friends, and then I have friend-acquaintances through organizations I work with -- we all share many interests but  we aren't personally close.  I don't want more than a few real friends.  It's so much work maintaining just a few friends.    When I read articles where the author is talking about calling "my ten closest friends to do xyz", I can't imagine how anyone lives that way.   

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1 minute ago, Sally said:

When I read articles where the author is talking about calling "my ten closest friends to do xyz", I can't imagine how anyone lives that way.   

😂

 

'My ten closest friends'... yeah no, couldn't come up with that list.

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2 hours ago, Ceebs. said:

😂

 

'My ten closest friends'... yeah no, couldn't come up with that list.

I could possibly do 5, no more, and one would have to be my little brother. :)

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25 minutes ago, Calliers said:

I could possibly do 5, no more, and one would have to be my little brother. :)

I think I could come up with three. One is my partner. Perhaps six if we relax the definition of 'close'.

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