Eroell Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 I don't have libido or sexual attraction at all HOWEVER sometimes my body gets aroused (but my mind doesn't) by just seeing a sexy man. Also while the massage. I hate this feeling and I find it weird. I wonder how many other aces also experience this. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Attacca Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 Totally! It doesn't happen a lot but yes, sometimes, especially near my period, happens. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gray Watcher Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 I do. Seeing a pretty woman on the street can do it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ceebs Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 Yeah that seems to be a bodily response some people have. If you don't want to actually have sex with anyone though... still asexual. Meanwhile I'm sexual and I've never once become physically aroused from seeing someone attractive. My body just doesn't respond like that, apparently my sexuality doesn't work that way. But, still sexual if I actually want sex with other people. Just as you're still asexual if you don't. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 At some level or another, yes. I think it takes far less to aesthetically or intellectually excite me than it does to do so romantically, and even that takes a lot less than sexually. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Galactic Turtle Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 Nope. Not wired that way. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Blue eyes white dragon Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 Physically? Annoyingly yes. I also get sensually and emotionally aroused in regards to romantic intimacy that isn't sexual and I enjoy that Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Zagadka Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 Sometimes, yea. It mostly is experienced as envy, I think. Interestingly, I get some kind of romantic arousal from some couples, but that is also largely jealousy. They are like, "wow, that sounds/looks great! I want absolutely nothing to do with it, but I enjoy seeing it. Oh well." with an occasional followup of "Oh god I wish I could enjoy that experience, but I will forever miss out on that joy." Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TheSmolFoxWeeb Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 Not really tbh. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nutterwithasolderingiron Posted December 19, 2021 Share Posted December 19, 2021 unfortunately, yes. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ludwig Wittgenstein Posted December 20, 2021 Share Posted December 20, 2021 No, I never have and happy that I haven’t,I would not know what to do if I ever got it or know it. I never found anyone attractive on any level either and pretty much avoid going places as much as possible to not have any social reactions with people in general. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Grace11223 Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 I wish I didn't, I would be scored high on the Sexual Excitation Scale (SES) which is very annoying more so than anything, given that it's similar to having the urge to use the bathroom but not wanting to. Most of it is female oriented, but the only like real trait that can excite me are boobs, obviously not all the time, but that's like the only thing I can point to and be like, yep, my body sometimes reacts to that, annoying as I may find it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
a little annihilation Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 I hate it Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hauntpsychic Posted January 1, 2022 Share Posted January 1, 2022 I feel something like arousal, but it's similar to how you've phrased it. My body gets aroused instead of my mind. Also, it's more like I get aroused by scenarios, body parts, clothes, etc... Instead of people. It's a weird sort of deconstructed attraction. Almost as if the person themself is only a vehicle for the other stuff, which kind of makes me worry if I'm dehumanizing the people in question. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Janus the Fox Posted January 1, 2022 Share Posted January 1, 2022 Totally the same, I experience and enjoy an arousal. Often it’s only triggered by having intimacy with the BF, or an intense fetish experience, it isn’t sexual or something that needs release. I was put on HRT to lower Testosterone as an MtF, the arousal I’d experience otherwise as hormonally male where uncomfortable. That arousal often meant there weren’t any pleasure, discomfort or even pain. I would of otherwise had to experience a release of it because my body would just be in pain the longer I didn’t. The experiences now as hormonally female at the moment feels much better, more of myself. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bare_trees Posted January 1, 2022 Share Posted January 1, 2022 On 12/19/2021 at 3:31 PM, Blue eyes white dragon said: Physically? Annoyingly yes. I also get sensually and emotionally aroused in regards to romantic intimacy that isn't sexual and I enjoy that What do other types of arousal look/feel like? I'd never thought about describing something as "emotionally arousing," or "sensually arousing" but those sound like experiences I probably have. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Blue eyes white dragon Posted January 1, 2022 Share Posted January 1, 2022 1 hour ago, bare_trees said: emotionally arousing, Well for me it's when I'm opening up and being vulnerable with someone and wanting emotional closeness. Like when I'm feeling ready to confess something to my partner and I can feel his support and that just makes me want to be even more open and feeling supported for example. 1 hour ago, bare_trees said: sensually arousing This one is when my senses are engaged and I'm feeling the world around me like when I smell one of my favorite things and I want to keep smelling it for example I hope those sense! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bare_trees Posted January 2, 2022 Share Posted January 2, 2022 5 hours ago, Blue eyes white dragon said: I hope those sense! Yes, thanks! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Taemi Posted January 10, 2022 Share Posted January 10, 2022 I feel sometimes aroused, when I'm close to my period and it's really annoying. I'm trying to ignore it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CuddlyAce Posted April 27, 2022 Share Posted April 27, 2022 Yes, I get aroused fairly often, and do masturbate, but I don't generally experience any real desire for sexual intercourse. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
__rustic_frost__ Posted April 29, 2022 Share Posted April 29, 2022 Yes I do get Aroused I don't know the reasons, but when i feel aroused i feel like watching porn..but when I try seeing it it Disgusts me..my body wants it but emotionally and mentally it disgusts me..i dont feel like touching myself..i m 19 yrs old and never really gave a thought about being ace but recently i feel like i might be one..i m confused..please help!! ps: i don't feel aroused often as well. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MinnieMouse Posted May 5, 2022 Share Posted May 5, 2022 I get aroused about twice a month and it’s due to hormones. I do masturbate and have a few fetishes, but they aren’t really sex related and I never fantasize about myself or other people having sex. I have a libido, although it’s very low, but except masturbation I don’t want to act upon it. Thinking of being that physically intimate with someone makes me feel disgusted, and I want to keep my private parts private. I have no interest what so ever in ”sharing” them with someone else. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Geekykitty Posted May 7, 2022 Share Posted May 7, 2022 On 12/20/2021 at 5:27 AM, szarlotka said: I don't have libido or sexual attraction at all HOWEVER sometimes my body gets aroused (but my mind doesn't) by just seeing a sexy man. Also while the massage. I hate this feeling and I find it weird. I wonder how many other aces also experience this. I don't get any arousal from seeing people in real life. Sometimes I might from a sex scene in a movie. Usually it only happens when I create fantasies in my imagination with characters based on celebreties or that I've made up. Its not so much the people themselves that arouse me, but the situation - the desire I imagine the couple having for eachother for eachother and the intimacy they share. Its like I can experience sexual attraction/desire through the characters in my imagination, even though I don't feel it myself in real life. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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