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[TMI] Masturbation only feels nice sometimes


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So, it’s been a year since I started masturbating regularly, even though I’m a 24 yo female. I only did it because I was curious about arousal and sexual sensations, and I also thought that maybe if I started feeling all that my body would wake up and start feeling sexual attraction (spoiler: that didn’t happen). At first I did it with my hands. It only felt good for a few seconds, and then a feeling of discomfort would rise and I’d stop. Then I got a bunny vibrator and I’ve used it more times than I can count, but most times I can barely feel anything. Sometimes when I go weeks not using it, it’s a lot easier to become aroused and feel pleasure, but it only lasts for a bit. But after some time doing it or after 2/3 days even on the hardest vibration mode it does nothing to me. On the rare occasions when I feel pleasure for a longer time, it still doesn’t seem worth all the effort people make to have sex. And yes, I’ve tried watching porn, reading erotica, listening to music, fantasizing, emptying my head, different positions and using lube. And I still feel that discomfort after a while, which I think was supposed to be an orgasm because I feel my body contract. Can anyone relate? Did anyone also use to feel like this but then things got better?

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I cannot relate, but I do know orgasms are not normally painful. I wish I could be if more help!

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The first time I ever orgasmed I too confused it for pain. I thought something was physically wrong with me.

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On 4/30/2021 at 6:18 AM, Shoro said:

I cannot relate, but I do know orgasms are not normally painful. I wish I could be if more help!

It’s not pain, thankfully. But it’s not pleasure either. It’s like I’ve hit a limit of sensation that is not pleasurable anymore (although before that it wasn’t that pleasurable either). 

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cherhorowitz
On 4/30/2021 at 1:32 PM, RobL2415 said:

The first time I ever orgasmed I too confused it for pain. I thought something was physically wrong with me.

After that did it become good? Why do you think you confused it for pain?

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10 hours ago, cherhorowitz said:

After that did it become good? Why do you think you confused it for pain?

1. Yes

2. Because I was a naïve 12-year-old. I already went through growth and developed and knew what ejaculation was, but not how it felt. 

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Hello,
I can really relate to what you're describing.
I've been masturbating for quite some time (I'm 22), but even if it's nice for a few minutes, it often just goes away rapidly... Sometimes it starts to become more pleasurable, but then I hit a point where it's just suddently too much - I have this kind of burning feeling even though it doesn't hurt and all I want is to stop... I've read some things and though that if I kept going through it I'd maybe reach orgasm, but even then when I hit this point it lasts for half a second and immediately after all pleasure is gone... I don't think that's an orgasm because it's not actually pleasurable, it just goes from nice to stop/uncomfortable to nothing in half a second.
I actually feel more aroused when I imagine a sexual interaction between fictional characters than when I touch myself, and touching myself at the same time tends to anihilate the mental+physical arousal from my fantasy... 
So yeah, that doesn't really help you find a solution but it's the first time I've read something as spot on as what you wrote here !

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I totally relate to this! Idk if this is helpful, but I think I have a bit of similar experience.  I have recently been really "applying myself" (haha) to trying to masturbate, similarly in the hopes that I will feel pleasure and maybe even start wanting sex...(I'm 26 and no such desire yet...lol). I've tried before and always gave up because it never seemed worth it. If I do/watch certain things, I will feel a pulsing/contraction in my vagina but I wouldn't describe it as pleasurable, just...there. And once that happens, if I keep trying to touch myself its just a feeling of discomfort.

 

I've always wondered though, if this is related/a part of asexuality, or if it's a different thing? Because if my asexuality is about not experiencing sexual attraction to others, shouldn't that be divorced from the actual nerve endings part of pleasure? I'm not sure, just something I've been thinking about.

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Janus the Fox

Very much the same when I was AMAB pre-HRT.  Masturbation has a really random effect for me, it could be fine, other times, feels like nothing, strong discomfort or outright painful the longer in time I don’t masturbate for, especially if there’s testicular and prostate discomfort (the so called ‘blue-balls’ thing)

 

My MtF HRT has for no, completely removed this discomfort and I’d prefer feminine pleasure through vibration (I use this as a gender affirming behaviour at times of Dysphoria)

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