Brodertun Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I've seen so sexuals say that you can't go without sex - its a physical need. Now I realize most of you also feel an emotional connection when you have sex but alot of times people don't, right - casual sex, one night stands, etc. So think in terms of a male heterosexual if the need for sex can be met by someone you've met that day, and won't see afterwards, and who is restrained or lies in the missionary position the entire time, than why can't that same need be met by a realistic doll? What is the difference? Link to post Share on other sites
Hallucigenia Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I dunno about your actual question; put that way, it doesn't make sense to me either. I do have some supplementary information that might possibly help. A heterosexual male once told me that, while they can normally take care of sex drive by themselves, when they get in a position where they expect sexual things from a certain person who's important to them, they start having desires that can only be satisfied that way. Like, theoretically they could still do it themselves or look at porn or whatever, but apparently it's kinda like if you're hungry but nothing you have in the house looks like it would taste good. Not all of their sexual desires switch over like that but in a serious relationship a fair number of them do. This is all secondhand, so I may be messing some of it up. I'm kinda glad I don't have a high enough drive to be able to answer from my own experiences. :P Link to post Share on other sites
BunnyK. Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 So think in terms of a male heterosexual if the need for sex can be met by someone you've met that day, and won't see afterwards, and who is restrained or lies in the missionary position the entire time, than why can't that same need be met by a realistic doll? What is the difference? I'm not male, but I've had some experience in this area. The difference is that you're still with a person who is alive and breathing and will still have fun with it and react. Just as you may meet someone on vacation or on a bus, for example, and you might talk with them and have a good time, without needing to feel a real lasting friendship, you can also have a temporary sexual connection and enjoy it, without needing it to go any further. I actually didn't enjoy my actual "one night" stand much, but I've had brief sexual relationships that were friendly and respectful, without ever really developing into anything long term. Link to post Share on other sites
Vashti Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Most of the sexual guys I know would be pretty disappointed with a partner who just lay there and let them do their thing. Sure, it would get the job done, but it would be boring - they might as well just masturbate. With an actual woman, even if she isn't someone they feel an emotional connection with, there's movement, there's an element of surprise that keeps things interesting. That, I think, is why having sex with a Real Doll or something is considered more like masturbating than sex, because the man is doing all the work and the "woman" brings nothing to the experience. Sex with a living, breathing, moving woman is never going to be the same as sex with a basically immobile doll. Also, while there may not be an emotional component to a one-night stand, there is an element of desiring and being desired that makes the whole thing more enjoyable. Again, I'm not speaking from personal experience here, but my friends are overly sharing when it comes to their personal lives. If a woman goes home with you, she thinks you're attractive, and she knows you think she's attractive, and that adds something to the sex. A sex doll might be an adequate physical substitute, but it doesn't want you any more than your own hand does. Any sense of fun, spontaneity and chemistry is gone when you're with some kind of sex toy instead of a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Chiaroscuro Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Vashti, I think you've pretty much nailed it. Sex is a creative activity performed by two (or more!) people. You can masturbate creatively, I guess... using a doll would count as creative...or doing it standing on your head... but it's not a shared activity. And sex with someone you really love has all sorts of different emotions wound into it. Like Bunny said, you can have a conversation with a stranger, and enjoy it. But having a conversation with the one you love is an entirely different experience, even though the mechanics of it is the same. Oh, and having sex with a prostitute... that strikes me as somewhere in between "real" sex and masturbation. It must be like participatory theatre, or live-action role playing. The prostitute doesn't REALLY desire you, but is pretending, and you pretend you believe it. -Chiaroscuro Link to post Share on other sites
Hallucigenia Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 You can masturbate creatively, I guess... using a doll would count as creative...or doing it standing on your head... *falls over giggling at the mental picture* :oops: Sorry. We now return to your regularly scheduled thread. Link to post Share on other sites
SuicideJade Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I've seen so sexuals say that you can't go without sex - its a physical need. Now I realize most of you also feel an emotional connection when you have sex but alot of times people don't, right - casual sex, one night stands, etc.So think in terms of a male heterosexual if the need for sex can be met by someone you've met that day, and won't see afterwards, and who is restrained or lies in the missionary position the entire time, than why can't that same need be met by a realistic doll? What is the difference? one major thing keeping jade from dolls is... jade is deathly, deathly terrified of large dolls,statues, fountains 8i have a bad case of automatonophobia * second.. nothing replaces that warm body feeling.. knowing that 2 people are in it together wether it's for one night or a lifletime.. it's special.. and even in those one nighters there's an emotional connect.. something drew you to that bed with them in the first place.. other issues with dolls are cost *$2000-5000 US* , weight *couple hundred pounds, males are heavier than females*, and storage 8they're not very bendy things* Link to post Share on other sites
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